Don't even get me started on Victoria's Secret! I can't stand them either, so I totally sympathize.
First, yes there are really adorable bras for those of us with larger chests out there. Some of my favorite brands are Panache, Freya, Fantansie of England and Por Moi. Great support and really cute styles and colors. I buy most of these online at either www.breakoutbras.com or www.figleaves.com. Many of them carry matching panties as well. And they have very reasonable shipping rates and return policies, so you can order a few and return what doesn't work.
Secondly, you have got to get your husband to stop buying you bras. I can't imagine someone else picking out bras for me, it is just too personal an item, and too difficult for someone else to know what is going to fit me.
Perhaps you could direct him elsewhere, jewelry? A gift certificate to a spa or salon for your special occasions?
And finally, (you can ignore this if you want) I have learned from personal experience that 38DD is one of those sizes that many women think they are, but really aren't. Because it is near the top of the size range that most stores carry, women come in to buy a bra and are stuffed into that size, whether it fits or not. I had a VS sales associate fit me as a 38DD, and a fitter at another store as well. Neither store carried much bigger than that, so that's what they tried to sell me. Turns out I'm a 36G. Anyway, just something to think about.