S.,
Ahhh, potty training! Life is so much better when they learn this skill:) Good for you for planning ahead. I have been thru potty training with 5 boys and here is my advice to you about it: Dont worry about the accidents. They really shouldn't be that bad, if your son is ready. I have never had to deal with an accident on the carpet or the furniture. Their underware should keep any and (for me) all #2 accidents contained. The worst is having wet outer clothes, and for boys the #1 always just shows up directly in front if sitting and at most running down their legs and collecting on their socks(especially if he is wearing shorts). I have always just washed their clothes like normal, maybe some spray n' wash with pee accidents and honestly with the #2 accidents I just threw the underware away...I know, I know, waste not, want not. But the alternative or so I've been told is to rinse them off in the toilet and ...ugh, gag,,,,cough,cough,gag-eeewww,,,yuk! No thanks, cant do it, dont want to!!! Lucky for me, I have only had to deal with @ 10 #2 accidents tops, out of all those kids...mine were all just ready,and all were night trained at the same time. When they are ready and you feel that they can do it, (for me this was when I could see them needing to go and holding it,then saying c'mon lets go in the toilet, and after they were able to successfully do that about 3 or 4 times when asked, that was it---on go the underware, off went the diapers for forever! When it was time, we never went back and forth...that was it, it was going to work and we didn't give up. Both my boys were completely done by 27 months and 29 months (the easiest was by far my oldest nephew, they were camping, he was 3 and was camping with his parents, his dad told him he could pee on a tree, and that was it from that moment on, never went back, stayed in his swimming trunks the last two days,HA! boys gotta love 'em). Some of the tricks of the trade I learned were:
I could tell they were ready as soon as they started being dry in the mornings when they would wake up....and...
Always give praise or a treat of some kind after they were able to go in the toilet. We always did clapping, telling everyone who was in the house, "hey guess what lil' billy did", and then a dum dum sucker....and...
I never pushed them to go, I never`asked them to go either, I would always say "hey, lets go potty" and if they refused or were upset by it, or unsure (which your son will probably be when you first start suggesting he try) I would say "okay, next time"--be ready to hear`yourself suggest he go many, many, many times ( ahh! the power of suggestion)....and...
Once the underware were on I never made a big deal about having accidents, it was always "Oh,man!...next time, lets get cleaned up right away"....and...
Always, always, always talk to him about what is going to happen, before you take away the diapers."Billy, on friday we are going to be done with the diapers, you are really getting the hang of this!", "tommorrow is the day...yeah! Big boy underware, here we come!" It is better that they have the heads up and time to prepare themselves and it is also a one last chance to gauge his reaction to the whole thing.
If it starts to feel hard, or stressful, he might not be ready (that is why you use the suggesting because it gives you a good way to gauge how your child really feels about it)so dont push it.
Dont worry, it will be over before you know it!
K.