Being Fat Is Digusting to Me!!!!!!!!!!

Keep in mind that we are all more than a number on a scale. You will be the *same* person that you are now when you lose weight. Good luck!

I am sorry you feel that way... no really. It is hard to have weight problems... and people really tie-in their "self worth" to how they look.

My mom struggles with her weight all the time... dieting, medication, excercise... And it seems that she has some success and then always has a stressful time or something else happen and never quite "makes it" to her goal, and the weight comes back and she has to start over.

I cannot tell you how to lose weight... at least not anything that isn't common sense, or cannot be found in most diet books. I lost weight successfully after my last baby and the only secret I can say is this.

You have to have self-forgiveness. We aren't perfect people, never will be. Beauty is as much on the inside as it is on the outside. If you see yourself as valuable and wonderful and worthwhile, then you will find the strength to get to where you want to be, and stay there. You are a lot more than a number on a scale... and your inner beauty and self esteem can shine through no matter what size you are.

Plus- you are an unfinished work of art. You will be one for the rest of your life. If you are losing weight... great- but you don't just reach your goal and then STOP... you still have more work to do. If your body is great, work on your soul, if that it doing well... focus on your mind... if anything starts to get push aside... come back to it and make it the best you can.

I hope your kids aren't really "embarrassed" by your weight. My mom sometimes felt that I was and it always broke my heart that she would think so. I have always thought my mother was beautiful... and I wanted nothing more than for her to find a place in her life where she could see herself the way I did! Finally, I think she is almost there.

Good Luck to you!
-M.

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I am sorry you feel that way... no really. It is hard to have weight problems... and people really tie-in their "self worth" to how they look.

My mom struggles with her weight all the time... dieting, medication, excercise... And it seems that she has some success and then always has a stressful time or something else happen and never quite "makes it" to her goal, and the weight comes back and she has to start over.

I cannot tell you how to lose weight... at least not anything that isn't common sense, or cannot be found in most diet books. I lost weight successfully after my last baby and the only secret I can say is this.

You have to have self-forgiveness. We aren't perfect people, never will be. Beauty is as much on the inside as it is on the outside. If you see yourself as valuable and wonderful and worthwhile, then you will find the strength to get to where you want to be, and stay there. You are a lot more than a number on a scale... and your inner beauty and self esteem can shine through no matter what size you are.

Plus- you are an unfinished work of art. You will be one for the rest of your life. If you are losing weight... great- but you don't just reach your goal and then STOP... you still have more work to do. If your body is great, work on your soul, if that it doing well... focus on your mind... if anything starts to get push aside... come back to it and make it the best you can.

I hope your kids aren't really "embarrassed" by your weight. My mom sometimes felt that I was and it always broke my heart that she would think so. I have always thought my mother was beautiful... and I wanted nothing more than for her to find a place in her life where she could see herself the way I did! Finally, I think she is almost there.

Good Luck to you!
-M.

Congratulation! Your a woman! All of us either hate fat or we learn to live with it. Good for you for trying, but your going to have to either get professional help from a nutritionist or a doctor who knows ways to work around your medicines, or give up, keep exercising and accept yourself. I highly suggest NOT giving up but I do suggest you accept yourself for WHO YOU ARE! You're not defined by the weight, but you making yourself obsessed defines you as fat.
Stop thinking people are judging you. As a fellow overweight person, I know that only drags you down more and more. You have to get over the fact that you might jiggle, but hey everyone else jiggles somewhere on their body. Get up on that treadmill, job till your hearts content, keep dieting, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, and you can work through this.

This one did grab me. I have been struggling on the board...on the other side of things. Love yourself for the mom,friend, daughter wife or girlfriend you are. This battle is a double edged sword. you need to know, if you are eating well and getting exercise there is not much you can do. Know half the women you think are judging you ..are not. I say half because there are always the few who think they have been sent to be the judge, jury and conviction in everyones life.

I want you to see that there are women out there jealous of you right now. Me being one of them and i am not even looking at you. I wish i could be back to where i looked at myself a thought a few lbs lost wouldnt hurt. I know this is not the response you may have saw coming.

Being thin makes me feel gross. there is the sword. I have juggled weight back and forth since i had my first in the oven cooking. I gained alomst 100lbs in my 1st pregnancy. So this is not the skinny girl crying out loud either. I went from 115 lbs a month after getting married to almost over 200 lbs. I never lost it after my first. Until my eating disorder from my youth creeped into my life to help me cope with an auto accident. I now realize how beautiful I was after my third was born. I went hrough all my photos this mornig to get ready for surgery tomorrow and i picked out 5 that i felt i was the most beautiful in. All were in the period right after Zmans birth. so now i have them lining my kitchen as goals for me to get back to.

I am not saying dont loose weight. I am encouraging you though to set a goal for yourself. and stick with it. Obessing can lead to scary things. I dont know yu and can see you are hurting inside. I think just having the guts post your question shows that you see that this is becoming scary for you(whether it be you havent been able to loose weight or the obession with it in your mind, both equally scary when you are seeing them head on). and you are working it out in your mind. this is the best step to take honestly. I credit alot of mommas here for keeping me strong through battling my double edged sword.

I hope this comes across the right way. YOU NEED TO SEE YOU ARE BEAUTY. IT IS THE HARDEST THING SOME OF US HAVE DOING. SOMETIMES IT TAKES GETTING RID OF THE MIRROR TOO!

please, i hope this comes off the right way.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I've always been chunky, about 30 to 35 lbs over weight. I even do housecleaning for a living and I'm still fluffy. because of hardship in this economy my husband and i cant buy groceries, sometimes we live off of P & J sandwiches or torts. Believe it or not I have more energy at work with the P & J, lol. So leaving out the snack foods, breads, soft drinks, processed foods, is a good way to start losing weight.

just buy the healthy necessities of groceries a little bit at a time. if its not in ur fridge or pantry you cant eat it. good luck.

:0) Your kids love and need their M.. Take care of you. :-)

It does take forever in real life to lose weight and I can't do it without diet and exercise which I haaaattttttttttttttttttttttteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee to do. I am only losing 1 or 2 pounds a week at most.

People do judge fat people. They assume we are lazy, depressed, and unhealthy. They assume we don't and can't do active things like ride a bike or play tennis. When I am on the treadmill at the gym, people will comment at how surprised they are to see my distance and stamina. I thank them for the encouragement and try to accept it as a compliment.

My child is not embarrassed by it yet and we go swimming year round. Other kids wish their moms would get in the pool and play all the games. The day will come when she will be I am sure. I see the moms with full hair and makeup and they look really nice. I like the cuter clothes and the shoes that are not comfortable, but look great.

I have started showering right after working out and doing my hair and makeup. I also started changing out of workout clothes in between my walks. I put on shoes and socks even if I am staying home all day. I still am fat but I do feel I look better and like I am putting forth some effort.
In my mind, I thought "Hey, I am fat, so why bother at all?" Somehow people respond better when I am not in old stretched out workout clothes and dirty tennis shoes with my hair pulled back.
Also, I let

Keep up with the excersize and healthy eating. I hope you are also lifting weights, studies show that weight lifting actually burns more calories than doing just cardio and it also tones and shapes your body quicker and more effectively.

Also, learn to dress for your shape. Many larger women are still beautiful, but some give up and wear baggy clothes b/c they don't realize that there are clothes out there that can still shape them and look stunning. Check out Avenue or Lane Bryant, lots of options there to help you feel better. As a hairstylist, getting a trim or updated look, an eyebrow waxing and maybe some updated make-up always make me feel better when I'm in a slump.

Try and accept who you are, for the moment and for the future and love it! Your beauty is in the inside and on how you take care of yourself, no matter the shape/weight :) One day, it will feel great to have a shape you may love even more, but just try and look for your beautiful features and enhance them.

I HATE BEING FAT TOO!!!!!!
(i really do...and just btw, fat doesn't = smelly- geez!) that comment wasn't directed at you, but to another post - i'm offended...i think i smell pretty damn good w/my bath & body works stuff, thank ya' very much!! :)
keep on chuggin mama, it'll come off...in the meantime, look at how gorgeous your face is, that's what i have to do. that's the only thing i like about myself, but hey, gotta love my blue eyes (or brown, or hazel, whatever). also...remember the size of our (nasty) thighs, belly, jiggly arms, or big booty doesn't determine what WONDERFUL mothers, wives (not me ha ha), sisters, employees, friends, etc, that we are.
take care, sweetie, it's okay and i feel the SAME way!
(but we're not stinky!)

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What's the medication you are on?! It sounds like a good diet pill as well as helping your depression which in reality, could be caused by your weight.

I think just about every woman is envious of other womens bodies, so you are FAR from alone.

i promise, your kids will love you no matter what size you are. if anything, it may be your obsesssion over your weight, the self loathing, and/or the rapid gain and loss that are embarrassing to them, especially if they are old enough that their friends ask them about it. the best thing you can do is #1 stop obsessing about it, because you will just hand that obsession down to your kids, and #2, live a healthier lifestyle as a good example for them. i am overweight as well, but i'll be da**ed if i turn it into this huge phsycololgical issue that will screw up my kid. we focus on loving ourselves and each other for who we are. including imperfections. good luck. i hope you find the help that you need. you can do this.

Janelle..."fried onions and urine"? Really?

Well first some people have an easier time keeping the weight off than others. Have healthy snacks available. Get rid of the high fat calorie snacks.

Get up early an walk. or exercise in your family room twice a day for 30 min. your metapblaism (sp wr) will become faster once start to exercise on a regular basis.

I have the same issue, Im about 160-165, im 5, 6'....thats about 20 lbs overweight, i eat right and work out all the time. Its harder for me to lose it for some reason. I feel disgusting sometimes! My face , my neck, my arms dont look right when im fatter. I feel like everyone else can pull it off but me! 80% of my friends are bigger than me, but i dont really see them that way, even though it is reality.

I think some women like you, and me and many others need to learn to love ourselves no matter what. I mean my husband loves me no matter what, why cant i?

I look at old pictures of myself and actually get angry.

Considering that I'm anorexic... yah sure.

Of course, I feel the same way if I'm 123 (50lbs UNDERweight for my height) or 363. I've been both, and honest to god I looked the SAME. Really, I don't think I'm anorexic, I think my eyes are screwed up.

I don't care what anyone else weighs or looks like, just me. I have a image of myself in my own mind of my killer/ rockin body (the one that gets me from point a to point b, plays with my kid, has mindblowing sex, argues with the ocean, slides down mountians) that the mirror just never, ever replicates. Heck, I've modeled and been a competitive athlete and despised my body. Poor thing. It gets me around and gets no props. I love my BODY, just not what it looks like. Seriously, eye issues. I'm tellin' ya.

But yup. Had those thoughts. Have them. It's one reason why you find me on so many recipe posts. Food and I have a complex relationship.

When are you not going to feel fat? When are you going to feel that people are not judging you? When are you going to be happy with what you look like and not compare to other people?

If you don't have honest answers to those questions and will allow yourself to just be who you are (and look like what you look like), then you have to address that issue before you will stop focusing on the weight. After reading your question, it sounds more like a self esteem issue than a losing weight issue.

You asked if any of us felt the same way. I am sure that most of us have those moments where we unhappy (there are always people who are more beautiful), but we don't let those feelings set our self esteem level. Good Luck.

I don't know how overweight you are but how we view ourselves is very difficult to change; even when we lose weight, we will look in the mirror and still see ourselves as overweight. We need to deal we our self-image (how we see ourselves) first, once we are happy with that or visualize ourselves as ideal-looking when we look in the mirror, then it is much easier to eat healthy, stay fit, feel good and look good.

I'm fat and I'm not disgusted, neither is my new husband, my family or my friends. I think you have bigger issues than losing weight. I hope you can get some help. Good luck.