i'm a SAHM of 2 little angels.. my elder one is 3 now. i don't know that this is unusual behaviour or some of u faced this type of behavior.my daughter is very loving , caring, and friendly nature.she get friendly to everyone in 1st meeting if someone comes to our home or vice versa . my problem is that if we go out with some other people she wants to be with them .ya she cares about that we are with them..but she want to hold their hands , go with them sit with them .how many times we try to ask her to be with us but she doesn't care. one good thing is that she doesn't care about others while we return back at that time she herself says bye to them and be with us.
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Sounds like shes a lovely kid. What's the problem?
She sees you all the time and probably yearns for outside attention.
My son was like that, never met a stranger. He would start a conversation with a wrong number on the phone. Just keep an eye on her when out and about.
It's hard to say what's going on. Obviously this behavior might put her at risk so you want to supervise her closely with others. If it were me, I'd be sure she's getting lots of close, quality time with mom and dad so she feels closely bonded with you as a foundation. In other words, you don't want her to be seeking closeness with others because her emotional love tank is low. Some of it may be her personality but you're wise to be concerned and to work with her on this.
Being around new people fascinates your child. She likes getting validation from other people (don't we all.) I've seen cousins, neighbors, friends of all ages tell my children & grand daughter she is cute, compliment her on her outfit, offer to fix her hair, read a book, draw pictures together etc.... These events safely teach her to interact with others.
It does hurt a little when we aren't the only people she admires. She isn't rejecting you, she's just safely dipping her toe in the water of life. All the better that she's comfortable with you watching, rather than sneaking away from you.
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Being around new people fascinates your child. She likes getting validation from other people (don't we all.) I've seen cousins, neighbors, friends of all ages tell my children & grand daughter she is cute, compliment her on her outfit, offer to fix her hair, read a book, draw pictures together etc.... These events safely teach her to interact with others.
It does hurt a little when we aren't the only people she admires. She isn't rejecting you, she's just safely dipping her toe in the water of life. All the better that she's comfortable with you watching, rather than sneaking away from you.
I think she gets the social thing loud and clear. Hooray! Would you want her clinging to you when you are out and visiting? Seems she has some skill already. The whole point of going out with other people as a family is to spend time with the other people and "do life" with them too. Isn't that the whole point of socializing with others...to be with THEM? No worries.
Hey S.,
You are where I was a while back, and it sounds like you are also asking yourself how concerned you should be about her comfort level with strangers too!
Ours is just like yours. She's 5 now but when our daughter was 3 she and I were coming out of a building in the big city (we live in the country) and she started a conversation with a very attractive elderly couple. Before I knew what was happening they were walking toward their car talking with my daughter as if nothing was unusual. They didn't look back once, and acted soooo casual. My daughter was none the wiser. It took me a few minutes to realize what was happening. Today we have rules for talking to others without removing her innocence either. She is free to speak when we are with her, but we stay together. If she happens to be alone she can say hello while walking but not to go over to the person or allow them near her. With Daddy this is the more challenging because his boundaries are not restricted since I'm with her more. But we are working through it together. We still live where children are not often abducted, but that isn't to say that it can't happen anywhere. I got a wake up call but please don't let me scare you! It took that experience for me to even believe it! So in retrospect I would simply develop a family strategy that your husband also gives input into. They see things so differently than we do and that's what makes parenting so powerful for our children.
Believe well!
My 3 year old does that when the extended family visits. Its exciting to be with other adults who love and care about you, a fun outing. As long as she's being respectful and obedient towards you in these situations, then its okay for her to spend time with other adults and feel special attention from them. If she's not respecting you then she might need to stay with you and not them for a while so she understands that its a privilege to hang out with friends, not a right. Teach her to ask you if its okay to go sit with so and so, or can I hold so and so's hand. And then be willing to let her go with the people if you trust them.
Best wishes!
She sounds like a friendly and likeable kid! I wouldnt worry too much about it as long as she isnt bothering the other party or crossing boundaries you arent comfortable with. She probably just finds them new and fascinating
It sounds like your daughter enjoys the company of other people. She feels secure visiting them, she feels secure leaving them to be with you.
Sounds like a pretty well adjusted little kid to me.
