My husband recently got a job promotion and was transferred 1300 miles to live in Florida. It has been very hard of the family since we haven't seen him in 2 months. We finally got to go visit now, we will be here for 2 weeks, but I am so afraid this move is having a major affect on my children and their school work. My youngest son is 5 and has been acting out so much lately before we came to Florida. He crys at night and says I want my daddy. He is mis-behaving in school and I am just lost at what to do. My other daughter is also been very naughty as well she has been smarting off and yelling at me, calling me J., and says she hates me, she is only 8 I need some help or advice. This whole situation has really put a strain on our marriage as well. The kids not listening has always seemed to do that to us.
Thanks for all the great advice, I agree I think they are acting out becuase they miss their dad, but we had this talk before he left and they all decided they wanted to stay behind and finish out the school year. It has been hard but now since we got to florida for our xmas visit the kids have been great. It has nice to have someone to talk to about this. Thanks again everyone....And Yes we are moving at the end of the school year.
I don't know the full story, but I do know children will act out when they don't know how to show their real emotions. In this case they miss dad. Is there a reason he moved and you guys stayed behind?
Hi J.,
I realize that moving sux, big time.. and your kids are still in school, but how hard would it be for you all to move there with him so there wouldn't be this distance and stress between you all. I know you are in school too, but you can allways transfer.. Think about moving at the end of the school year this year, you might be surprised how happy everybody involved will be with this move..
J.
Hope all works out for all of you
My first suggestion would be counseling to help the children cope with this. I'm not a big fan of counseling, but it does help some people. If this isn't for you, or doesn't help, my second suggestion would be for you and your husband to review your financial situation and decide if the promotion is really worth the strain on your family. Family should always be number one and obviously money can't make you happy or things would be going better. Perhaps it would be better for you to move to Florida, if feasible, or have your husband take a step down so that he can be back with his family. Many companies will help a family relocate, maybe have your husband talk to his boss for some ideas. I hope this helps and I wish you the very best.
I think this is a time thing. They need time to adjust and and their whole world has been turned upside down. They need security and consistancy once your all done moving (if you are moving to Florida too) things should even out.
J.,
I am sorry to hear that your family is having such a hard time right now. By the sounds of it your children acting out are really cries for help. I am sure as a "single" mom juggling kids, school and home is a very hard thing for you. You are exhausted and understandably probably really fed up with the situation. Maybe your husband could fly home once or twice a month until you move. Your kids can sense your exhaustion as well, i have a 5 yr old too and when I am tired or anything out of my norm she will do things that are just crazy. You are doing a great job holding everything together. Hang in there!
B.
I think they are just acting out, they don't know what else to do since Daddy isn't around, they are probely scared, confused and angry and your the one that is getting to deal with it all. How awful! I hope you can move soon and be a family again, this has to be hard on Mom as well. My only advice is patience and understanding. I would try to talk to the kids and tell them the situation, let them know this is what is best for the family right now but it will all work out and you will be togather! Tell them you need and expect them in the meantime to behave and help you out, if not there will be consquences for bad behavior....
I really feel for the kids, and you, I hope you all can be togather again soon!
Stay Strong!
