Bedwetting Questions

Let her wear pull ups or Goodnights I think they Are called. Why go thru that in the middle of the night when you do not have to.

If you don't want her in pull-ups, google brolly sheets or kylie sheets. You can layer these on her bed. They are absorbent, so when she has an accident, simply remove the top brolly sheet, change her pants, and you're done. These sheets only go over the wet zone, so there's far less mucking around in the middle of the night.

By the way, my 6 year old is still in Good Nights. He's small, and his body is not ready to stay dry overnight yet.

I whole heartedly disagree with the dr. Kids nighttime potty train at different times. My oldest that did everything early didn't night time potty train until 6. It's a hormone thing in her kidneys. 5 is way to young to expect them not to have accidents. My youngest will be 11 on the 13th of this month. We have had to put him on medication to stop him we just started that in December. The drs really didn't want to do anything before he was at least 10. I would put her back in the nighttime pullups and not stress both of you out!!! And when he went to a camp in January there where other boys his age on the same meds.

Ohhhhkay. First of all, get a new pediatrician. If your pedi can't understand that there are physiological causes of bedwetting, and that it's not simply that your daughter is being lazy, then you need a better pedi who DOES understand that. There's an enzyme that the brain produces that signals the kidneys to stop producing urine at night. In some kids, the brain starts producing this enzyme at a year old. In others, it doesn't happen until they're 8. There is nothing the child can do about this, so to force them to go through a routine of wetting themselves, waking up wet, and changing their sheets every night is just mean.

Now, that being said, why can't she wear night time pull-ups? She can wake up in the morning and dispose of them herself. If she is wetting through the pull-ups, you can get a pad to put under her, over the bottom sheet. Just remove it, and the bed is ready for her to hop back in. Meanwhile, she and you can have a good night's sleep, and you won't have to wake up in the middle of the night to change her sheets.

I promise you, this will pass. My oldest wet the bed until she was in kindergarten (she was totally distraught over it, even though we assured her it wasn't her fault). We just bought pull-ups, and it was what it was. One day, she grew out of it, and has never wet the bed since.

This is truly one of those situations where you just need to wait it out. This too shall pass - really, it will!

There are disposable overnight pads you can peel and stick onto the sheets. GoodNites makes them and I got them at Target when our youngest was potty training. A total godsend! We'd just change jammies, wipe her clean with a wash cloth, put on a fresh pad and go back to bed. The pads are really big, so the odds are slim of needing to wash sheets at all due to accidents.

http://www.goodnites.com/our-products/goodnites-bedmats/

ETA: Yes, your doctor is wrong. Our kids' pediatrician said his own son didn't master nighttime dryness until around 10. He said it can vary tremendously among kids and not to stress about it.

Your doctor is misinformed. When my daughter was in 5th grade (age 10-11) and was going on the school overnight camp the school nurse spent a lot of time talking about bed wetting and how it would be handled so other kids would not know little Jane was in pull-ups.
Put your daughter back in pull ups she absolutely can not control this.

Your doctor is an idiot. Sorry, but that's my honest opinion - as a medical professional he should know that staying dry at night is not a behavioral issue, it's a hormonal one. Until her body starts producing the hormone that concentrates urine at night, she can not physically help herself from peeing.

I have identical twins who just turned six. One has been dry every single night since she was two and a half. I didn't do anything, she just started waking up dry. The other has been dry 13 nights total in her entire life. I know this because she is counting, and when she gets to 20, she's going to stop wearing pull ups (her plan, not mine). She started staying dry a few weeks ago and has been dry about half of the nights. Once she's dry almost every night I'm going to put a waterproof pad directly underneath her so if she does have the occasional accident we don't have a major laundry issue. But for your daughter -- just like mine -- Overnights are the way to go for now (or whatever brand of pullup you like).

A doctor suggested to have my son have adjustments by a chiropractor. SO after 8 yrs of bed bedding (6 yrs to 14) my child quite wetting the bed. It was described that there are nerves that have been moved, or something to that nature, and he need to get adjusted. Well after 5 or 6 visits he was finished bedwetting.

just another thought to help......

Nighttime dryness.... is something that is often not attained until even 7 years old and this is normal.

GET a waterproof bed pad, and put it DIRECTLY under her at night. Not under the sheet, but DIRECTLY under her. To sleep on.
I did that with my kids, and therefore, the sheets/bed sheets did not get soiled. I did NOT have to layer the sheets and bedding with the bed pad. I simply put the bed pad directly under my child. Then, if there were accidents.... I simply had to wash the bed pad. Only. Easy. I have 4 of them that I would rotate as needed. If one got soiled, then I just put another one under my kid. Easy.
I got mine, from Amazon. It is NOT plastic. It is a fabric waterproof bed pad.
You need, to get a waterproof bed pad.

Both my kids at that age, were in Huggies Overnites sleep diapers. But sure, during the day, they were in underwear. Fine. They did NOT get "confused" about it. Why? Because, I simply explained to them that their body is still developing and not ready yet, to be all dry at night.

Pull-ups are useless at night.
It does not hold much and it leaks.

Your Doctor, is wrong.

PHYSIOLOGICALLY.... nighttime dryness, is per body/brain/myelin nerve sheath/bladder development. It is NOT per age, nor is it the same as daytime pottying. These are 2 entirely, different things and timelines.
Daytime and nighttime dryness, does NOT occur at the same time.

ALL of my daughter's Teachers, from Preschool to Kindergarten to 1st grade... all UNANIMOUSLY said, that this is normal. But the parents won't admit to it, but they ask the Teachers. Nighttime... kids often are still in nighttime diapers, at this age. They DO HAVE accidents. Even at daytime. Even in school. This is childhood.
No child is accident free.
Even at my kids' school, the health room, stocks extra underwear/shorts/shirts for the young kids that have accidents. They make NO fuss about it. They don't scold or lecture the child. It is normal.
Kids have accidents.
In Kindergarten and 1st grade, I sent my kids to school with an extra set of underwear/shorts and shirt, for keeping at school. My daughter in Kindergarten and 1st grade, had accidents. A couple of times. The Teacher had no problem with it. Because, these things happens at this age.

And with my kids, I ALWAYS just explained to them about their body development. And they had no hang ups about it, nor did they get confused, over daytime and nighttime, pottying.

But you definitely need to get a few waterproof bed pads. The fabric kind.
This WILL lessen your laundry of the bedding.
And just put it directly, under, her, when she sleeps. And for naps, too.
And use Huggies Overnites diapers for when she sleeps.

Well, you have learned that your doc is not at your home doing your laundry.

You have learned this doc doesn't have a rats A** about kids night time dryness. I actually think I would find a better doc.

Kids are NOT supposed to wake up to go. They ARE supposed to stop making urine when they fall asleep.

Have you ever woke up and suddenly felt that overwhelming urge to go pee and almost didn't make it? That's what it's supposed to be like. You go to sleep and your kidneys slow way down with urine production then when you wake up they turn back on and you have to go. Kids don't have this ability until their brain turns it on.

Is this doc going to pay your utilities and extra costs for wearing out the bed linens? The extra laundry supplies? It can double the cost of a box of pull ups. Go ahead and put her in pull ups. When she's dry for a couple of weeks day after day then she's ready to go out of pull ups.

ETA: Find a new doctor. He/she obviously is a quack if he/she does NOT know she's not going to "learn" how to wake up before she has an accident at night. Her body is NOT ready!! That's a fact of life. Some kids are ready and can do it - others cannot.
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Llama:

I'm sorry!!

I would strongly suggest the night time pull ups - they look a lot like underwear and will help you out.

I would also buy the sheet pads and layer them on her bed.

Don't turn the lights on. Keep a night light in the room. Use the KISS method and keep it as simple as possible....

There is nothing but time that can help or "cure" bedwetting, it's a biological thing in her body. you CAN cut back on fluids prior to bed time - make sure she eats dinner early and no fluids for 2 to 3 hours before bedtime. It MIGHT help but it won't "cure" it.

Please purchase the night time pull ups and the bed pads

http://www.goodnites.com/our-products/goodnites-bedmats/p...

I don't know how old your daughter is...
http://www.comfortplusonline.com/pages/Tranquility-Premiu...

http://www.superundies.com/p-45-bedwetting-pants-nighttim...

good luck!

I disagree with your doctor also. It takes some kids much longer than others to stay dry at night. My 7 year old just started staying dry overnight and my other daughter was 5 1/2 before she stopped having night time accidents. I would put her back in pull-ups overnight until she starts staying dry. Be patient-it was hard sometimes, but it will happen eventually. Good luck.

For several nights per wk, I'd still have her in those Jammers. How old is she? My son wet the bed of and on til 8 or 9 yrs old. He's 10 and has had one accident in the past 6 mo. I used to have him wear the jammers OVER his under wear, so if he did not have an accident, he could wear them again the next night, for a few if no accidents. If she's having more than 1 a wk, I'd stick with nite time diaper-ish protection. After that, my son was old enough to go take a shower by himself (age 7?). He'd wake me up and I'd tell him to go take a QUICK shower. Then I'd throw a sleeping bag on his floor and strip his bed and just put in a basket I kept in his room - never took more than 7-8 mins. She's NOT learning anything by peeing on herself, some just take longer for their bladders and stuff to mature. My advice is to make it easier on everyone and try those nite time jammers. If she's little enough that you still have to "wash her off" then having these on a night shouldn't be a big deal.

go back to pull ups. we tried no pull ups. nbut it was too much laundry.

wait till she is consistently dry..

My daughter is four. We had to ditch the pull ups because SHE got the idea that they were for babies. She was so genuinely upset by the idea, we don't force it unless she is sleeping over somewhere (she knows it's non negotiable at grandma's house). I can see what the pediatrician is saying. Our son would not stay dry until we got rid of the overnights. They were like permission to pee. Once we got rid of them, it only took him a few nights to be dry.

We also do not limit fluids before bed. My kids are like their dad. Nighttime hits, and they crave water. My hubby will get headaches like he's dehydrated some nights if he isn't sipping water. So we have never limited water.

What we do do...I take her to the bathroom before I go to bed. MOST nights this prevents accidents. I have to be careful though. Most nights she barely wakes up and if I let go, she could fall off the toilet and get hurt.

The bed is double sheeted with a waterproof protector in the middle. Instead of having to remake a bed, we simply peel off the top layer. In fact, now our daughter often does it herself without help.

And often she strips down to undies and just sleeps in her panties for bed. We keep her jammies next to the bed to slip on before she leaves her room. We also have a change of panties right there. We don't worry too much about washing her off. She towels off and goes back to bed. She simply takes a shower in the morning.

No advice for the laundry. I just wash both sets of sheets and the blanket in the morning. I have found that I usually have to wash everything twice, because otherwise you can still smell urine. So the chore takes twice as long. I also ditched the flat sheet and got plain washer friendly comforters. Since a pit stop before bed helps, I don't have to do this too often.

My daughter won't wear overnights. Otherwise I'd probably forgo all this and use them. It's not worth the stress and hassle to me. You've tried it your doctor's way. Obviously the idea that waking up wet might curb the behavior,hasn't panned out. It's age appropriate and not a medical issue. If she's ok with the idea, I'd go back to pull ups. Good luck.

You can't cure bed wetting, it is simply a sign that her body is not yet biologically mature enough for her to hold it all night. This ability happens at different ages for different kids, some as young as 2, but 5 and 6 is very common, and some kids are even older. I have family that was 9 and one cousin that was almost 14. Let the child wear nighttime pants and layer the sheets with waterproof covers (w/p cover, sheet, w/p cover, sheet) to that it is a simple stripping off of one layer and back to to bed.

My oldest is almost 7 and is only dry about 2 or 3 nights a week regularly - she's still in pullups to sleep. My younger two (5 and 2) stay dry all night, every night. Every child is different and develops at a different rate.

We've never made an issue of the pullup; it's just part of her bedtime routine. I am thinking that this summer we may try her in underwear over night; we'll have to see how things go. My doctor has never shown an ounce of concern; just stated that when her body is ready, she'll either hold it all night or wake up to pee.

The age of your daughter would be helpful. Okay, I was a bed wetter to age 12. When I was younger, my mom just put a towel down on the pee spot and I slept in it until morning. We probably changed my underwear and jammies, I don't recall, but for sure we saved the bath and sheets until morning.
When your daughter is old enough, I highly recommend bed wetting alarms. They worked a miracle for me and very quickly. But i think the child needs to be old enough to manage the contraption themselves and self- motivated.
My mother limited my evening water intake and always woke me up and took me to the bathroom before she went to bed too. Not sure those things did any good. You may just want to invest in the night time diapers for older kids to save yourself from all that laundry. When she is 8 or older, I'd try the bed wetting alarms.

You should get a 2nd opinion. His/her advice obviously isn't working for your daughter. I'd go back to night time pull ups.

Also, try stretching her bladder. You know how when you are at the store and your child says she has to use the bathroom, and then you rush over there asap? Well, every day try to have her hold it for a second or 2 longer each day. You don't want her to hold it any longer than a few seconds than the prior day for risk of UTI, but a few seconds won't hurt. The longer she can hold it, the stronger and bigger her bladder will be.

We're going through the same problem with my 6.5 year old son. He just sleeps so hard. I cut off his drinks by 7, make him go potty before bed, and I wake him again around midnight to go. But almost every morning he wakes up wet. He doesn't even wake up in the middle of the night when he's wet, he sleeps right through it. I'm at a loss. I do have this cover that I got from One Step Ahead (online) that you put OVER his sheets in the wet zone. It's water proof and the idea is when he has an accident, it goes on the water proof pad instead of his sheets and mattress cover. But I still have the problem of his top sheet getting wet. Since it's summer that's all he sleeps with. I hate changing his sheets with a passion as he is on the bottom bunk and I have to crawl in there to get it all set up. Good luck. I hope she outgrows it soon.

Growing up, we still had pampers around the house even though the there was no baby or toddler around. There were only two kids in the house -- my younger sister and me and we were both school aged. My younger sister sometimes wore them to bed until she was in the second grade (good thing she was small for her age!). She, too, was unable to wake herself at night to go to the restroom. My mom ended up waking her up in the middle of the night, every night, to take her to the restroom to pee. She said that after about a week, she stopped wetting the bed.

Hi, Mama:

Someone suggested a Chiropractic adjustment, that is a good solution.

Try that and see what happens. In the mean time, use pull ups.

Good luck.

D.

When I was young, there was a plastic mattress cover on my bed. It never came off to be washed, was just wiped down. My parents did not let me sleep under a comforter. I slept between my sheets with a blanket on top. I didn't wear fancy pajamas to bed. If you are going to let her use all of these things, then I think that a Pull-Up, or whatever they are called generically, is most appropriate.

My daughter was quite a bit older before she stopped wetting the bed. In her case, she was such a heavy sleeper, she just didn't wake up for much of anything. As she got older and bigger, we went to using the Depends for adults rather than Pull ups. We also used a waterproof pad that just went under her midsection. Also, check out http://bedwettingstore.com/. They have a number of products available. The alarm thing helped us, and that is also where we got the pads from.