Bedwetting in Potty Trained Boy

Could be your son just sleeps better at your house. Perhaps he's more relaxed than at his dad's house. Perhaps there are street noises or other disturbance there that allow your son to wake and use the bathroom. There's not much of anything either you or your son can do about this inconvenience, so just shrug when your ex does his theorizing, and tell him he can google "bedwetting in young children" and get all the information the experts know. Which is basically that children will stay dry at night when their brains, bodies, and sleep cycles have matured enough.

I've recently seen (on this site) the suggestion that you actually encourage more liquids before bed. The bladder pressure might then build up strongly and quickly, giving a loud enough signal to the sleeping brain for the child to get up and use the bathroom. If you experiment with this, let other mamapedia parents know what results you get!

I was a bedwetter for a long time...my Mom says I wet the bed until about age 7, then finally just stopped. I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm sure it's frustrating. Just try to make the sheet changing as easy as possible and hang in there. You mentioned you don't get upset or frustrated when it happens which is awesome. The worst thing a parent can do is draw negative attention to it.
Hope it stops soon. :(

Are you and your ex doing the same thing's at night? Does your son go to bed about the same time at both homes? If he is waking up dry at your ex's house maybe you should ask what he does to help this happen. I don't think you ex is trying to make you feel that you are doing something wrong, but maybe just keeping you informed about your son and the habits he has while in his home.

Your right he probably won't wet the bed until age 25. From numerous responses on here that have been posted before it seems that many people always refer to when the parents stopped having accidents. So if it was later than earlier for you or his father that might play a huge role in it.

It seems that this question is posted a lot on mamapedia so apparently you aren't the only one having this problem.

Edit: Maybe you should try e-mailing him again and explain what you do and ask what he does to see where the difference is if there is one? I would keep trying to talk to him about this.

I just talked to my son's doctor about this. My son is 8 and still wets the bed. She said that their bladder just isn't big enough to hold that much pee. I don't think his bladder gets bigger at your ex's.
She suggested an alarm that will vibrate when he pees to wake him up. After a few weeks he will wake on his own to go before he pees. Haven't tried it but...........

My daughter who just turned 9 has wet the bed often. In the last couple of years, it's happened much more at my house than at her father's. I agree with 3boysandme that it is possible that your son does not sleep as soundly at his dad's house. Either he is afraid of what his dad will do if he wets, or there is just more noise or activity at his house that prevents deep sleep. At my ex's house, they have a dog and cats and he snores so loudly that it can keep the whole household awake :-)

I've noticed my daughter seems more likely to wet the bed when she stays up later than usual, when she's had more physical activity during the evening (gone to a kid's gym or something) but I won't cut down on that, and/or had a sugary drink during the evening (have cut those out).

Your son will outgrow this. My daughter is down to once every several months now and I'm hoping we're almost done with the extra laundry. Hang in there, and you aren't doing anything wrong!

How often does he sleep at his father's house? It is possible he does not sleep as deeply when he is over there. I can see that happening if he spends the majority of nights at your home vs Dad's. My little boy has always wet the bed, and he is nearly 8. A lot of times he will stay dry if he goes to a sleepover at a friend's house or Grandma's. I am sure part of it is sleeping in a different house, and part of it may be anxiety over the prospect of wetting at a sleepover- thus not sleeping as deeply and wetting.

Is your ex telling the truth? I would gently ask your child. Make sure you tell him you don't care either way, but if he is not wetting over there, he might even have some insight as to why not that you can use to help him at your house. If he never wets at Dad's house, well... maybe just stop sending the pullups on those nights. It seems like then your ex will stop pestering you about it. He can go buy his own damn pullups anyway if the wetting ever becomes an issue there!

Lastly, your ex sounds like the type who is not going to believe any facts you present to him. If you have to, send him a doctor's note. It probably wouldn't hurt to go visit a pediatric urologist anyway, and they can print off a bunch of stuff to mail to your ex that validates the issue.

And ps- my brother wet until he was 14. It is very very common with boys, and yes, they will outgrow it eventually. Don't bother with a potty pager or any of those stupid gadgets. They do not help long-term. We have tried.

I have a feeling your ex is outright lying to you about your son being dry upon waking in the morning. Don't pay him any mind - you've seen the pediatrician about it and they were not concerned.

My almost 6 y/o is the exact same. Deep sleeper, wets about 4 out of 7 nights stills - she wears a diaper since she's petite enough. Sometimes it takes awhile for the body's nervous system to mature enough for kids to start completely getting the stimulus and correct waking response for urinary fullness while sleeping.

my youngest has had accidents but not an all the time occurence I have notice though when it happens he has been really really tired and had litereally slept right through it.
My younger brother was a bed wetter until he was about 10 he didnt do it at sleep overs or other peoples houses he didnt sleep very well away from home just make sure he didnt wet the bed. SO if your son is wetting at your house and not your exes it because he is sound asleep at your house and keeping himself on guard at your exes.
You are a good mom he will grow out of it.