Hi.
I have two quick questions. The first is about my 4.5 year old daughter who potty trained easily at 2.5 years old but still wears pull ups at night. She still naps great and wears undies then, but at nighttime she wets her pull up almost through. We tried to limit her liquid intake at night but she doesn't seem effected by it. Should I be worried about this? Should I be doing any kind of training to get her in undies at night? I could wake her in the night when I'm up with the baby but I hate to drag her out of bed if it's not necessary. What do you think?
Also, wondering if there are any international adoptive mom's out there or any ethnically diverse groups that are interested in meeting. Our second child is a three year old boy from India and the other four of us are white. We LOVE all things Indian (and all ethnicities!), but since moving here a year ago, can't seem to find any groups that aren't all white or any groups that include adoptees. Do any of you know how I can help my son meet some more people like himself? We read that it's important for him to be raised with other people he can relate to ethnically and others who are adopted...but how do we do that?
Thanks!
Hi J.
I`m a member of playgroup with Indian Moms in majority ,functioning very actively in Naperville/Aurora.
If you mail me your e-mail id ,I can send you an invitee..
Hi J.,
Regarding the playgroup--we have an adopted African-American daughter and get together with 2 different groups of white parents with black kids. You'd be welcome in either. One is a CHicago group, and the other meets in various suburbs of Chicago. Let me know if you'd like to be included.
S.
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Hi J.,
I recently returned from China with my 3-year old adopted daughter Olivia. We are adjusting very well and she will start pre-school soon. I am interested in getting to know more diverse/mixed race families as well. Maybe we could start a group to get together every so often?
M.
Hi J.,
I too have a 4 1/2 yo girl with very similar issues. At her 4yr check up, I asked the Dr. and see seemed very upset by it, saying I had to limit drinks 2 hours before bedtime and even look into the alarm. Well she goes to bed at 7 and we eat dinner between 5 & 6 so limiting drinks wasn't going to work and the alarm is around $100. We started putting her in undies because if in the middle of the night, the pullup was wet, she would get a new one!! We had an accident almost every night so then we started making her go potty when we went to bed around 10 or so. This seems to work, she doesn't remember getting up at all and she is then dry until 6:30-7:00 am. When I took my son in for his 3yr check up, I asked the dr (different one in the practice) about my daughter and she wasn't worried at all. She said she had accidents until she was 8 sometimes and not to worry for a couple of years. A mom in my moms group tried the alarm and said it works great! I guess I would say to ask your doctor and then see what you think. Hope this helps!
C.
Bedtime potty wetting:
When my dtr was 4.5 and still wearing pullups at night (and soaking them) I remember thinking "When will this ever end?" and "This is costing so much for pull ups!" so I decided to have her wear her big girl underpants to bed and I covered the bed with big plastic garbage bags under her sheets. I also explained to her why I was doing it and she was happy to wear her big girl underpanties to bed.
The first 2 days I was up in the middle of the night with her to change the sheets and every once in a great while for the next few months she would have a little accident. On a whole it was a smooth transition. Now I have one of those plastic covers that zip up on her mattress (it stays better than those plastic garbage bags) just incase b/c I don't want to have to purchase a whole new mattress if she pee's on it.
She is turning 5 on Monday and all is well!
Good Luck!
J. B., RN, CFLC
Life Coach
Congrats on your international adoption!
As for your daughter, I would suggest getting her up maybe 3 hours after she's gone to sleep for potty time. We did this with our daughter up until I get pregnant and started going to the bathroom like it was my favorite spot! Anyway, getting her up and explaining that funny feeling in her tummy that means she's gott go potty worked out. Now she wakes herself up in the middle of the night to go. Also, you mentioned you "limited" her liquid intake. Try eliminating it 90 minutes before bedtime. Make sure she goes potty before bedtime, perhapd twice before if possible. This way, you should only have to wake her once for potty time.
Good luck
M.
I wouldn't worry. My daughter was EXACTLY the same at 4.5. We tried most of the things the others talked about. We tried waking her up when we went to bed. Didn't work and she never even remembered us waking her up. She never drank that much at dinner and nothing else before bed except a small sip after brushing teeth so that didn't matter. Our Dr. told us not to worry and give it more time. And he was right! Magically at about 5.5 (maybe 5 1/4), she started having dry pull-ups. After a couple weeks of that, we went to undies and other then a few accidents (usually when she got to bed super late or there was something else out of the ordinary), she was dry! My advice is don't worry and give it some more time.
if potty in her pull up does not wake her what i did is put on underpants under the diaper or pull up to train her to know when she peed so she could learn to get up when needed
