Time to make another equally as comforting bedtime routine,
I put one in the crib with a pacifier, and the other in my bed
During the days not one problem, but at night, whole other story
I suggest you NOT keep her days as busy,
I put my kids to bed at 830 pm NO later
But since its spring time we have been playing harder, so we NAP LONGER OR LATER.
As a result our once perfect routine has been changed
What i do is play outside earlier in the morning,
we actually eat our breakfast on the deck in the moring which makes for easy clean up.
Then we play for about an hour come in clean up
and make lunch,
After lunch we wind down watching Its a BIG world or
MR Rogers Neighborhood
THEN we laydown for our nap.
THEY ARGUE but I don't argue back,
And my 3.5 year old who didn't normally nap, NOW NAPS.
When they awaken, we GO outside AGAIN make dinner, do home work and play, eat outside on the deck.
I clean up while my husband keeps an eye on the kids, and when the lights turn off, ITS time to come in.
We watch a show, or take a bath but at 9pm BED
My little guy goes in his crib or with daddy downstairs if he refuses
and my 3.5 er goes in my bed,
And i lay down and sleep with him til he feels comfortable, and then drifts off to sleep.
I get up leave him there, do laundry and in about 15 minutes I carry him to his bed.
THEN its round 2 -- Little man gets a pacifier and cuddles, and in a few minutes he drifts off to sleep.
And again I carry him to his crib.
( sometimes daddy lays down, and sometime he just drifts off easily in the crib.)
Point is I am flexible routines don't last forever,
they change with the seasons.LOL
Good luck
M