Bedrooms

S.,

I would say keep them together. When they get older and ask for separate rooms then maybe consider it.

L.

i am a twin, my sister and i shared a room untill about 6th grade then we hated it. maybe just separate them at nap. they will want thier own space soon enough.

I am a twin and we were always together - until I failed 2nd grade. I was devistated!
It might be a good thing to separate them mostly cause they are showing signs that they can't do what is necessary for naps.
Naps are so important. Try to do anything you can to keep them napping as long as you can - for a break for you and it also helps their immune systems and behaviors (especially after 5 pm).

Good luck.

I have b/g twins who shared a bedroom. Because they were preemies, it was just simpler to have them in one room because of the heart monitors and oxygen tanks, etc we had to deal with when they were discharged from the hospital. Eventually they graduated to toddler beds and we just kept them in the same room for convenience. About Kindergarten we decided to separate them, and we'd awake to find them back in one or the other's room by morning. So, we let this go on - one of those "choose your battles" moments. As long as they were sleeping, and not up all night playing, we didn't see any harm in it.

The summer after first grade, my daughter wanted her own room, and my son didn't. So we compromised a bit. They got their separate rooms, but could pick one weekend a month to have a "sleep over" in one of their rooms.

Now, at 10 yrs old, they occasionally want to have a sleep over, but he is an early riser and she'd rather sleep in. He often gets up early, gets his Nintendo DS and a pillow and will hang out in her room until she wakes up.

I figure eventually they'll want nothing to do with each other but for now, they've seemed to work out their own boundaries. I'm glad that they're still close because I thought "eventually" would have happened by now!

My son still doesn't like to be away from his sister, even if it's for a quick trip to the store, or when she's at dance and he's at home with dad. She handles the separation much differently. I think if you get them used to the idea that even if they're separated, eventually the other comes back, should help them get over their separation anxiety. Make your decisions based upon their cues. If they don't mind sharing a room, there's no harm in that. I remember sharing a room with my sister - she's 4 years younger than me too. If one can't stand the other, then a compromise is the answer.

Good luck!

I don't have twins but I do have a 3 and 5 year old who share a room. On the weekend both girls really need a nap but will stay awake and play. So they take turns napping in Mommy and Daddy's bed. They have no problems at night. They will probably share a room until they move out!

I have 11yr old b/g twins. They shared a room until about 7 or 8 yrs old when we decided they were too old to share any longer. They played from time to time during naps (they were in toddler beds too), but I didn't have too much trouble with that. I would shut the door and tell them it was quiet time and that they should play quietly on their own beds. If they were tired enough they fell asleep. I would leave them in there for an hour at least while they were in quiet time, this gave them enough time to fall asleep or at least recharge a little.
Bed time wasn't a problem, especially if they had played instead of napped.
They tended to do their own thing while in nursery school, so I don't know if you need to seperate them as mine were independent of each other when they wanted to be.
Have you looked into joining a twins/multiples club in your area, they are a great resource for moms of multiples.
I belonged to one until they were in school.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!