so my dad got remarried, had 2 kids, and got divorced from their mom. he was a horrible father to me. he was never arround and when my mom died he shipped me off to live with an abusive cousin. then when he had his other 2 kids. my little brother Bryan and little sister Helena i thought he would do better by them than me and my older sister (she left when our mom died). but now theyre 7(Bryan) and 5(Helena), and when they come over to visit they are happy and excited. the horror comes with my fiance. if he raises his voice (at them, a dog, anything) they practically jump outta their skin. they throw fits, cry, attach them selves to us when its time to go back. i recently found out that they dont get to leave their bedroom unless they have to pee or eat because (quoting my father) "Children belong in the bedroom, not seen, but heard". they only leave the house when they have school or a doctor appointment (or to see us). i have called cps on him but they "cant find anything wrong with the kids" so they wont do anything. hes constantly yelling at them.. i fear for them... what do i do?
I agree with Gamma G. Contact their school and talk to the school counselor. I don't know if you would be able to get custody, but it may be something to look into. Don't talk to the kids about it, but do some research. If you don't want them with him, or in foster care, you'd have to start planning now. I wish you the best, and you are an awesome sister.
I don't know if this is possible, but could you talk with your father and ask him if you could take the kids.
He obviously doesn't want to be a father. I don't know how you feel about the kids and if it's something you would even want to do. But, you could be saving these children from a horrible childhood and make them productive members of society by coming from a loving home.
L.
If I were you, I would ask your Father if he would let you take the kids?
They obviously like visiting you and are comfortable with you...maybe, just maybe your Father would say yes??!
Call the school. Call Child Protective Services again. And again if you have to. Don't let it go!
This absolutely broke my heart, for you and for the kids.
If he shipped you off, maybe he will be willing to ship them off too. Try talking to him, explain all the benefits for him and how the children would benefit, although I'm not sure he'd care about the children's benefit. I would videotape them talking and how they behave so that someone can witness what's wrong with the kids. I also agree with calling the school and having the counselors talk to them, and tell the kids in advance not to be afraid and to tell the counselors the truth. Maybe see if you can be there when they talk to the counselor, or see if CPS will come to your house to observe the kids behavior when they're with you.
These kids are in hell; you have to do everything you can to help them. Remember that when things seem bad to us, they seem like the end of the world depressing and extremely frightening to a child. I remember those feelings all too well from childhood... and if my life isn't the perfect example of messed up, I don't know what is. Get those kids out of there, legally, but try to find a loophole because the system is terrible for helping children.
Always check to see if they have marks on their bodies when they are with you. If so take pictures, and call the police immediately. Please keep us updated.
B.:
I'm sorry for the loss of your mother. I'm sorry that your father sent you away after she died. I can't imagine doing that!! I am sorry that your aunt was abusive. I'm glad that you got out.
What would **I* do? I don't know if it's legal - but I would video tape (like a nanny cam) their actions while at your house. Then I would ensure any conversations I had with them regarding their father were recorded...ask questions but do NOT lead them to an answer....
Keep calling CPS. Talk to the school counselors about your concerns...you are family so that should have some bearing...
If they have bruises or anything suspicious take pictures and keep a journal - document EVERYTHING.
Keep calling CPS until they "GET IT". Have you tried to get custody of them? If your father doesn't really want them (seen and not heard) maybe if you talk to him about retaining custody of them so he doesn't have to take care of them - he might let them go and you can help out. Get them counseling...show them a loving family.
Where is their biological mom in all of this? How could a mother allow something like this to happen to her kids? Have you talked to her about it?
Tough situation to be in. Kids deserve better than that!
Why does he have custody of these kids? Where is their mother?
I agree with RevRuby to keep calling CPS. These kids need to be evaluated by a psychologist.
Perhaps it is HOW you phrased your sentence "the horror comes with my fiance. if he raises his voice (at them, a dog, anything)", but this kind of raised some red flags in my head when I read it. Why is your fiance raising his voice AT them? I hope it just means that he's calling them to dinner or something.
If they are spending the night with you, I really feel that you need to get a child psychologist to talk to them. You could find someone willing to meet on a Saturday morning. She would be the person who could talk to social services, I would hope.
Please don't ask the father if you can do this. Just do it, even if you have pay for it out of pocket.
Dawn
Here we go again--call the school.. NOOOOOOOOOOOO! This is a family court and CPS situation!!!!!!!!!!!!! Schools are for teaching!
Could you call their school and talk to a counselor there? Give them your love and keep your home a safe place to visit. Your fiance should not be raising his voice since that upsets them.
