T.C.
Hi J.,
I'm so glad you said you are trying not to yell. It never does work, it only hardens their hearts against yours. I also wouldn't care if it hurt his feet. That would actually be a blessing because of the message it would send him (yes, it hurts to behave this way!). I guess I would ask you how you will handle other discipline issues as he gets bigger? Are you going to just let him do whatever and ignore it until he gets bored with it? I know some people have suggested that method. I think it is setting you up for a major struggle with your son, one that will embitter both of you towards each other. Do you have friends in real life who have obedient, joyful children? Do you know anyone with older children who you want your son to grow up to be like? If you know anyone like that, go to them and ask for counsel. You have no idea what the ladies on this list are like in the parenting department. We may all offer all sorts of counsel, but you don't know if the person advising has a child screaming in the background, drawing with sharpie markers all over the carpet, the house a disaster, the children unkempt, etc. Go to those you know are doing well in this area for counsel. I know, it sort of defeats the purpose of this list in some ways, but this particular issue is way too important to leave to an anonymous advisor. BTW, for what it is worth, I would not let him continue kicking. I would not yell, I would not use time-outs (we never use time outs). Yelling belittles your authority. Time-outs (and restrictions) teach the children to get along without fellowship with the parents or other family members, gives them a format to stew in their anger instead of dealing with the issue, seeking and receiving forgiveness quickly, and restoring relationships. Be proactive in your discipline methods, not reactive. Develop a plan based on the counsel of others you know, and stick to it. If you want a book to refer to, I recommend Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp. Blessings to you!