My sister-in-law is getting married in October and I am standing up in the wedding. The other bridesmaids want to plan a party that is $175 per person. I barely can afford $100. What do I do??
why so much?????? what do they want to do???
my fiance is having his paarty tonight and my brother is charging $25-30.....he got 3 stripers to come(is that what they like to call them selfs???)lol
and if 20 people show up thats like 400..back.....or to pay for the party........
Isn't that sad i helped plan his bachler party.............lol
Could you maybe just do part of the party if it is several different steps, like maybe skip a hotel stay, a dinner, something that is PART of the event? I'd also mention it's because of the money because it should be understandable that it is a LOT of money. Especially after paying for the dress, gift, etc.
A.,
Do not feel bad at all about this situation. I would be very upfront that you can not afford this. They either will be accomodating or they won't. It is about setting boundaries and doing what is best for you. Most importantly you will be a supportive bridesmaid doing you part...spending $$$$ for a bachelorette party is not in the contract. I recently hosted a baby shower where it cost $$$$ and my sister helped but she flat out said what she could afford and stuck to it. She felt much better after being honest and enjoyed the process. Good luck.
A.,
Be honest with them, explain to them that money is tight and it is expensive enough to have to pay for all your clothes and buy a present for the bride and groom. You might find that more of them feel the same. Don't be pushed into doing something that may put a strain or any additional stress on yourself. Good luck.
G.
I agree...that really sounds like a lot of $$$$$ for a bachlorette party. I also agree that you should just be honest and tell them that you can not afford to spend that kind of money. I'm sure there are many other very nice and wonderful things that the group could do that would not cost so much money.
well should I assume the others in the party have no children. Seeing as though they have the $175 per person to spend. This really seems very $$$$ for a party. I would just tell them that you are not able to afford that kind of money. See if they could go with a less expensive what. Are they have something plated in gold for that kind of money.
J.
Be blunt - tell them right up front. This what I can afford. Look around before and give them some cheaper ideas. good luck.
My eyes popped out of my head when I saw the amount that is being charged per person! Is this per BRIDESMAID or actually for every person attending the party? I am assuming if it is that much money that it is only for the bridesmaids, which is ludicrous. When I had a bachelorette party for my sister I charged everyone who attended $15.00 and the bridesmaids $25.00 (this was 12 years ago). This was to rent a schoolbus to take us downtown, a stripper and liquor. Maybe you could suggest something else that is more economical or if it is per bridesmaid, mention that you think it would be more reasonable to make EVERYONE attending the party pay something. Or if they can't budge on that amount, then you might just have to tell them you can't go. I hope it works out for you. :-)
I agree with everything that has been said.. these girls must be really well off financially although.. they shouldn't just assume everyone else is in this position or that they even would want to spend that much even if they could.. I think it isn't very thoughtful to assume that everyone could or even would WANT to spend that kind of money after paying for your dress. and a shower gift.. wedding gift.. c'mon! If you really want to do whatever the heck they are doing. just say.. hey.. sorry.. I can only pitch in $100 bucks.. I'm sure they can help you out.. that's the least they can do!
