We are throwing my brothers girlfriend a baby shower. My brother is divorced with a 5 and 3 year and his girlfriend has a 10 year old. My brothers ex literally took everything, that is a whole other topic. His girlfriend has nothing left at the house. So they are in need of everything from a crib to diapers and needless to say they could use a little help. Most of our family knows the sitiuation. Just wondering if I should word it carefully seems how our family has already given to my brother and his first wife when they had their first child. And if I should word it carefully any thoughts on what to say. I just don't want to offend anyone.
Why don't you put on the invitations: "Help us in building a beautiful home for this new family. They are in need of house warming gifts and baby items. Let's show them how much we love and support them."
I think if you worded it any differently that you might hurt the feelings of your brothers girlfriend, especially being in a delicate emotional state.
I would just address it as you would any baby shower. Having multiple showers for one person seems to be somewhat normal these days. In my family, we do one for the first and one for the third, unless the second is a different sex than the first, then we have one for first and second and not for the third.
If most in the family are aware of this then it should not be a big deal. We had a situation similar to this in our family recently and everyone was very generous at her shower. If you feel the need you may want to put a note in there saying something like, we need to welcome our wonderful new addition, and since his/her older siblings are so much older there are no longer hand-me downs available.
My personal opinion is that Baby Showers are for EVERY baby. The idea that they are only for the first baby is old fashioned.
I would just word it like you would any other baby shower invitation.
In these economic times, its ridiculous to think that anyone could have a baby without a little help.
If you are that concerned about wording, don't call it a baby shower, call it a party to celebrate life. Just put her registry card in the invite and people will get the idea. I wouldn't worry about it, any one that knows her and knows she has a 10 year old will know she needs baby stuff again!
I don't think there is any need to word it any differently then you would for anyones shower. It's the first baby for them together as a couple, and people (hopefully) should respect that. I think just a regular invitation would be good, and have her put in there where she is going to be registered at. GOOD LUCK!
How about NEW START or FRESH START BABY SHOWER?
melissa, you can always have the mom register at a store of things they need, like at target or anywhere there is a registry, many know this is available, and its a kind way to say hey we need this or that, just have fun and remember, children need love more than things, so dont fret it if they dont have it, things just make life a bit easier, but some times all they need is love, and a few basics, hope all is well, and take care, and enjoy life, D. s
I assume that the people you are inviting know the situation, so I don't think any special wording will be needed. The names of the parents will be on the invitation, and that will be explanation enough. Have fun!
I am in the boat of every baby should have a party! The first time parents or parents of a different sex than had previously typically get the big gifts.
Things wear out, get lost, break, etc... It truly is up to the person how much they spend on the gift.... Diapers are my usual gift for multiple kid parties...
I would word it something hinting to the fact that THIS IS A DIFFERENT FAMILY. Different mom... So something like (big brother/ sister) is happy to invite you to the shower of their soon to come sibling. Please join us as we congratulate ------------mom and dad--------- on their bundle of joy.
Do not make it about the parents and the extended family, but about the sibling and the new parents.
You are throwing a party because you see there is a need. If anyone takes offense then that is because of a narrow view point on their part.
Anyone who knows them will know
a. that is not the woman he was married to...
b. her kid is 10.
Anyone who doesn't know those 2 facts probibly would not come anyways...
I would just send it out as a regular shower invitation. If someone is offended then they just won't come and you needn't worry about it. I had children 14 years apart and as far as I know there was no grumbling about my second baby shower. I have also thrown showers for my brother's multiple girlfriends that had babies with him because I felt that it wasn't their fault that he had other children with other women.
Have fun and enjoy your new niece or nephew!
Melissa, Make your own invitations, You can say "A New Life Baby Shower" On the outside. On the inside say something like
A new life begins with the basics, Let us give this sweet Baby and Family the basic beginnings.
Something like that, just a thought. K.
Sorry, I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to pass along that Gibraltar Trade Center in Taylor is having a huge Mom 2 Mom sale this weekend, over 400 tables of stuff.
MC
no melissa you should not have to word it any diff have her reg for what she needs and they will get the point diff mom so they should have a baby shower my family beleave in a baby shower for ever baby no matter how many you have and how close thet are it about celabrateing the life with gifts
