my fiance and i have finally narrowed down our lists of boy and girl names we are not sure which we are having yet but our favorite for a girl is brianna leigh and our favorite boy name is anthony christoper.. my fiances last name begins with an E so we think its awsome that we can use the initials as a nickname and call him Ace for short .. i absolutley love that name .. the other day we saw my fiances parents and told them our top choices ..his stepfather said jokingly o0 anthony so we can call him Antney.. my fiance was like omg thats so stupid i hate when people say that his name is Anthony theres an h in there.. he was really irritated by it.. i hadnt thought about it before but i have 2 cousins named anthony and for as long as i can remember my father has called both of them Antney.. its just the way he says it with his half assed goomba italian accent .. i mean if i do find out we're havign a boy i definatley plan on having the conversation with my dad about not calling him that but i can guarantee at one time or antoher the name is just gna come out of his mouth that way...what does everyone think of this.. do you like the names and is that enough reason for me to consider another boy name or am i being stupid?
Instead of Anthony, what about naming him Antonio? You could still call him Ace, and people don't say "Antney-O"
Name your child whatever you want!
And btw, I LOVE the name Anthony, and the nickname Ace, very cute!
As far as other people, try not to let it bother you. My son is named Luke and when he was a baby my husband's entire family called him Lukey. God I hated that! But I wasn't going to say anything, I think I would have felt kind of petty saying "oh we prefer that you don't call our son that" ya know? If it's just an accent, I'd let it go, there are MUCH bigger things to worry about :)
If you really love the name, I wouldn't let a slight mispronunciation throw you off. And, every name will sound different in a different accent -- that's just the way accents are. Just ignore your FIL and pronounce the name the way you like. Anthony Christopher is a very handsome, timeless name, and Ace is a fantastic nickname for a little guy. I think you've chosen well.
In a lot of places, "ANT-ney" *is* how "Anthony" is pronounced (eg. South Africa). I wouldn't get after your Dad, if this how he pronounces it. You're probably just surprised, because this isn't something you considered, when choosing the name. See if grows on you after a day or two and if some people pronouncing it differently is really going to annoy you, what about choosing another "A" name? It sounds like you like strong, classical names, so how about "Andrew"?
Good luck! Naming a baby can be so hard! :D
I love your choices, & as long as you're happy....& you pronounce the name the way you want it to be used....everyone else should follow along.
(insert eye roll here, please)....although, my MIL was notorious for saying one of her great grdaughter's name wrong....to the day she died!
I'd choose another boy name. If that pronounciation bothers you this much with someone else's child, then you'll find it insufferable for it to continuously happen with your own child. It's not reasonable to think you can get your dad to change the way speaks --it's just not going to happen. And you dont want this to become a source of resentment and anger. Make Anthony the middle name if you feel like you HAVE to have that name, so at least it would not be uttered the way you hate it on a frequest basis. Lots of wonderful names out there...best wishes!!
If you like the name, use it. Just know that it can be pronounced either way with that spelling. If you choose that name, be prepared to correct people (not just your dad) because some people (especially of European decent) will read it as Antony. If it is going to be a big deal to correct people and cause great annoyance, then consider a different A name.
My daughter's name is Gillian. We LOVE it but I HATE the name Jill. I did not want anybody calling her just Jill. I had to decide to go with it or if it would bother me for life too. We went with it...and ya know what? My MIL called her Jill! I had a sweet lil' talk with her and asked her nicely to call her Jills or G or Gigi or Jilly-Bean...anything but just plain old Jill...so ya know what she calls her now? Jilly...and I don't even care...it's not what we call her and I have come to grips with the fact that I can not control how other people say her name...heck some people even try to pronounce it Gil-ian (like the man's name Gill/Gyl) and I am OK with all of it. I bet you will be too!
Good Luck! Naming them was always THE hardest part for me :)
My youngest is named Keaton...so many people said they were going to call him different things, but guess what, his name is his name. He goes by his nickname mostly, but that's his choice at this age...he's 4, almost 5.
My 8 year old is always called the wrong name and she finally is starting to correct people.
Name your baby what you want and they will take care of themselves :).
Anthony is a very nice name and your reasons for the name are awesome!
I say that you tell your dad that his name is Ace and call him Ace when he's around your dad :) (assuming it's a boy)
Seriously though, I remember not wanting to name my 1st son Will because people might call him Willy. It did happen, but I would quickly correct them. The same thing happened with my 2nd son Max. I feared Maxie. Both Will and I corrected those who called him Maxie "his name is Max!" Will would say.
Both 7-year-old Will and 5-year-old Max are now doing fine, and Max sometimes even likes to be called Maxy (gosh, even I call him Maxy once in a while).
I think its tougher when it's your dad that you're correcting, but I also think that he's your dad and he's likely to respect your wishes more than any joker on the street.
Good luck, and have fun with pregnancy. It's over so fast.
There's nothing wrong with the name. However, if it *really* bothers you both that much, you may have to find another.
The name Anthony is very close to the name Antony (as in that guy Mark whom we all read about in world history class), as well as the name Antonio - in fact, they're all versions of the same basic name - so it's not surprising if the pronunciations overlap. People say things the way they've learned to say them! If you all have such vehement feelings about mispronunciation, find a name everybody can say. This is an unnecessary family war to fight.
For what it's worth, my last name is Lichlyter (Lick-lighter), which is very close to the last name of a 1950s-'60s TV personality named Art Linkletter. My mother introduced my new husband as John Linkletter for a long time - it just came out of her mouth that way. We knew she wasn't being nasty, so we just laughed it off; eventually she severed the old mental connection and got our last name right, as she had always meant to do.
I think your future fil was making fun of your dad!
I would definately not set myself and my fiance and my child up for a lifteime of irritation. It will bug you if they call him that and they will call him that because it bugs you!!! That's how guys are. Save yourself the family drama and pick another name. There are plenty of good A names. Alexander, Aaron, Abel, or pick another Saint if you were going for a St Anthony, St Christopher thing.
Personally I wouldn't worry about what your father-in-law calls the baby. Everyone else in the world will call him Anthony or Ace. And Ace is awesome!
ETA: A lot of people (myself included) called my son Jim Jim when he was a baby. I still call him that sometimes and now that he's three he very firmly says, "My name is not Jim Jim! It's Jimmy!" Ace will stick up for himself too.
