Baby Blues - Blech!

Well. my first thought is paper plates, cups, etc! No dishes to do right now! That could help a little. And, I understand the difficulty of not having help...do you have friends around at all that you could ask for some play dates? I see that you also homeschool, which is more pressure on you..does she have others that homeschool that could help with her lessons too? My biggest advice is to simplify..like, so what if they eat dry cereal in a bag with a cup of milk every morning..in front of the t.v no less..just to give you some time to get up! (Can you tell I did that?) You 7 year old should be able to handle that one for both kids. And, you know what, she could probably help with pb&j, chips and a piece of fruit for lunch..and a juice box if needed! I hated to rely on my now 8 year old, but she loved it..it gave her a sense of responsibilty and it was great!! And, for sure, open the windows..sit outside even, this weather is great for that,and it is a proven mood booster! You can do this, it will get better, and really, the kids will adjust great. 2 year olds are interesting creatures, but luckily no one I know remembers anything about being 2, so you cant really go wrong:) hang in there girl!! ~A.~

PLEASE talk to your OB about this!!! I had very severe depression with my first went through a year of hell because I refused to take meds for it...now I take them religiously because the thoughts I had scared me to death and let us not mention how cruel I was with my words. Find a friend or even a family member if possible to watch the children and get an appointment to get this addressed. Better yet, see if someone can watch the kids so you can rest. I feel your pain. My hubbie had to go back to work the same week our son was released from NICU so I was alone with a colic baby, no rest, etc.

Praying for you!

J. S.

I want to hug you =(

I want to encourage you by saying you're not alone.

However, my baby blues got worse with each child. So by the third I was almost suicidal. Counselling was a blessing, and meds would've been great if they'd given them to me. But I was anti-meds then ... now I'm like "bring em on!"... but we all go thru phases.

So my suggestion is to mention it to your OBGYN because I have heard that it is not uncommon for the blues to increase in intensity with the number of births. It is not unusual what you're feeling and it will pass, it just may be harder. You're normal but it doesn't mean you have to suffer, so ask for medical help. Housekeeping and childcare help would be nice, but it sounds like you need more than that.

Having 3 is hard... mine were all 1 year apart. Life was chaos day in and out. But it gets better. Just a few months and you'll be dancing with the kiddos like 3 is nothing.

Take care.

God Bless You M.,
You are a wonderful mom, and remember "this too shall pass..."

Remember someone always has it worse than you, I know having those feelings, being in your condition, you really aren't thinking about anyone else, totally understandable...

I went thru this two with my last (3rd kid); my husband was cheating on me, I had two older children 11 and 9 at the time, I had no family around, my sister who was 1 hour away, but had her own family, my parents were 6 hours away. I was being evicted from our apartment, our car was breaking down... if it could go wrong it was... What really got me through it was my GOD. No matter what, he loves me very much and I just had to focus on the good. I ended up moving into a beautiful brand new house, my husband and I restored our marriage, my kids had their own rooms (we had to move out of school districts so they were upset at first). But we had a house, they road their bikes around, played in the yard, things just really started to get better.

I just prayed, and I had a lot of people praying for me. I will be praying for you M., you'll make it through this time. I didn't take anything, I'm very healthy when I'm pregnant, and since I was nursing I didn't want to take anything either. I just started looking for a half full cup.

God Bless, you will make it through this time, I hope this encourages you...

Been there, done that and I applaud you for being able to recognize that you're not 'yourself' right now. Your hormones are raging and it isn't surprising with three young kids and a father busy at work that you're a little stressed and sad. I'm a believer in better living through chemistry, so if you're not opposed to it, I recommend getting some medication. I started Zoloft for my PPD two weeks after my DD was born and it was like night & day. I feel if there are meds to help you get out of the slump, then by all means you should look into it. No one should have to feel like that.

If you are opposed to meds, then maybe things will get better in November. Maybe they won't, but know that you won't be the first mom who needed something to help her get over the baby blues. GL and best wishes!!

Oh honey, I feel your pain...my middle child was three weeks shy of 2 when #3 was born and the oldest was turning 5 the next month. Anyway, my hubby was really busy and at work all teh time as well and I finally got to the point that I would feed the kids, take care of their general well being and that was it. I did not care if the house got cleaned or if we wore jammies all day, we would take baths but that was because it was more helpful than it was work. I slept when they slept but I didn't let anything bother me. Laundry, it got done when I was ready and able to get it done, the same thing with the dishes...once I took on this attitude I felt better about it all rather than overwhelmed and then I was able to do a little bit more. Does this make sense? Just don't let it all worry you or bother you-if someone does come over and say something then ask them if they would like to help-not being ugly or anything but you are 1 mom with 3 kids and little help right now and your thought process has to be survival, not be ALL that you can be. Keep your head up and this too shall pass. If you have any other questions that you want to ask just send me a PM, I so feel what you are saying. Also, I had no family or additional help either. Thinking of you!