I have an ex friend, we had a big falling out a few years back, she is emailing my hubby at his job with emails saying not to trust me. I'm 99% sure they are from her but we can't seem to trace the emails. This girl literally stalked me for a year after our friendship ended. I'm not sure why she is starting things up again but need advice on what to email her(i can return the emails but cant find a name associated with them) to back off that wont aggravate the situation any further. Should I ask my husband to block the emails or try and contact her myself?
Just wanted to thank everyone for the advice I needed, I guess I knew this would be the right thing to do, I just needed to hear it from someone outside of the situation. I will update you on anything that comes of this.Later.... Wanted to tell everyone thanks again, turns out I was wrong about who was doing this, the person doing it was right in front of my face, I must not have the best choice of friends, geez. Thanks again everyone!
#1: Block the emails
#2: Talk to the nonemergency police line to see if there is anything they can do to help.
I had a XBF like that. I blocked all the emails that came in (without responding to them), changed my phone # and made sure it was unlisted, changed my cell # and even my work extension. Eventually he was unable to contact me except through mutual friends who refused to give him information or relay information (other than the fact that he tried again).
I find the best way is to just ignore it. If the silent treatment doesn't work and she starts visiting you (or your family) at home or work or inbetween...then it's time for the police to become involved.
The silent treatment pretty much worked for me and it didn't have to go as far as the restraining order...so it might work for you too.
I, too, agree with everyone else. Block the emails and let it go (as hard as that may be). Getting you and your husband upset is exactly what she wants.
The person that is sending these messages is just doing so to get you to respond. Block the email immediatly dont respond in any way. I would suggest as someone else did to change your numbers and get them unlisted. I have had a similar experience and if you do respond it will just be like fuel to the fire.
You should block the emails, but before you do copy them and put them in a CYA folder :) You can also get someone to help you trace the IP address and maybe file a report with the local authorities, and try to build a stalking case against her. This sounds kind of scarey and I hope your hubby doesn't belive her! Blessings :)
You can handle it one of two ways. You can block the email and ignore it, or you can reply with a statement that you wish to not receive anymore correspondence from this person, and if you do, you will turn them into the authorities for stalking.
Once you've made the demand to no longer contact you, and they continue to do so, you can talk to your local police department. Just be sure to keep any and all emails as evidence.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. Yes, I would have your husband block the emails. You may even wish to let her know you will go file a harrasment case with police if it keeps up. No one should have to put up with that. Good luck! Keep the emails for futture refernce and proof.
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this.
The person writing those e-mails knows that it is wrong
to do so. I would just have them blocked and leave it at that.
I agree with the other two responses. Block the e-mails and ignore it completely. Hopefully your husband knows better than to give any validation to these and can just ignore them. Also, depending on the e-mail provider this person is using, you can always report them to the service provider, i.e. yahoo, msn, etc. They can stop them as well.
