What has your spouse/significant other overcome or worked on over the years that you really appreciate? None of us are perfect, as we all know. My husband and I are certainly human and imperfect. Just curious what things you've worked on or your significant other has worked on that you respect and know has been hard for them?
my husband has been sober for over 30 years. he quit smoking altogether about 28 years ago. and this spring he ran his 2nd marathon.
i think he's amazing.
:) khairete
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My husband and his mom, older sister, and younger brother escaped Cambodia during the Khmer Rouge. His father was killed along with many other family members. He and his sister werE forced to work in labor camps,with very little food or rest. They escaped through mine fields into Thailand and then spent a few years in refugee camps in Thailand and the Philippines. They were able to get to the U.S. when he was 14. They had nothing and spoke little English. My husband not only graduated from high school on time after very few years of formal education and many years of no education, he also graduated from college and pharmacy school. His mom and siblings were also able to overcome everything they had been through and have successful careers. He is one of the strongest and hardest working people I know.
My husband is dyslexic. Like severely. But, he was never diagnosed until after we were dating when I shared my suspicions with him and he agreed to be tested. Sure enough!
Getting a diagnosis was such a relief for him and such an eye opener! He became far more confident and willing to push himself at work. When our daughter was diagnosed in 2nd grade his last doubts went away and now he is completely open about it at work and with friends. It has made a huge difference in his career trajectory! And being diagnosed early with early intervention has saved our daughter the decades of pain he endured.
I am very proud of him!
I would say that my husband keeping our family running while I've been unwell has been the biggest gift anyone's ever given me in my whole life.
When my body started to shut down and we didn't know what was going on, my husband kept it together. I'd just had our last baby and he had to step in with everything - often being the taxi service for our kids, taking kids to appointments ... basically when I'm not well, he's a single dad. And working full time. And caring for me :)
I'm very thankful. During this time he also quit smoking (which he'd done since he was a teenager). He did this because we couldn't afford it and also because our kids needed one healthy parent. He just put his own anxiety about quitting aside, and did it.
He's not perfect by any means. In fact, I think he'd love the opportunity to overcome some of his own things some day and maybe further his education. It's been about looking me and the kids the last number of years - so I hope some time he will be able to do something more for himself.
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My SO came into our relationship with terrible credit and tons of debt. He's been pecking away at it and living super frugally. I have to say I'm really proud of him for fixing his finances and being hyper vigilant about things he has to purchase and living within his means. It's has done wonders for his self esteem and building trust in our relationship.
My husband came to the United States and didn't know any English. He learned it, took the Consitution and Citizenship test in English, finished his GED here and on top of that helped me raise my two children. jobwise: He became a manager and has acquired a skill that has kept food on the table over the years and has maintained the workings of our home for twenty years with little or no help. And he's still the most gorgeous man I ever laid eyes on. (Ok, I guess that's not something he had to overcome-I just have to overcome all the WOMEN that want him HAHAHA)
Mine had both knees replaced last year. Something he had put off for 6 yrs. He did a great job on all the rehab exercises and I'm so proud that he did it.
While I will complain about my husband and having to do a lot of stuff myself to support my family, I will say that there are several things I am proud of him for. My husband started drinking shortly after we got married. He started hanging out with cousins and they started him on it, partially bullying him into as well. It took several years but he did stop. He also stayed home with the kids (triplets for the intro to parenthhood) during the day working in the evening/night. He worked through having herniated and slipped discs, not able to walk after having surgery to place titanium spacers in his back, taking care of the kids during the day when they did not have school no matter how much pain he was in.
I am incredibly proud of my fiancé (soon to be husband), and I'm so glad to see others are too :)
My fiancé overcame a terrible marriage and loss of a child, has quit smoking, has lost a good amount of weight, and is one of the most responsible and hard working people I've ever met. He took a different job (he is a regional truck driver) so that he would have to unload his own freight (50 lb containers of flour, lard, and other baking supplies), to get healthier. He makes me proud every single day. There is a reason I call him Amazing Man :)
The old man and I are quitting smoking together. He has smoked for over forty years, me for over thirty. So far, so good.
