J.S.
I have had some similar problems with my oldest, who is now nine. She may be needing some one on one time with you. It sounds like there are a lot of other children around. You might try "filling her emotional tank" so to speak by taking her alone with you on errands or take her to the library or mall once a week.
How is the in home day care going? I have considered this myself, but I'm wondering how you manage picking kids up from school unless you drive a huge van. What are some of the pros and cons?
J.
J.