Anything Wrong with Sister (Almost 5) and Brother (3) Sharing a Bedroom?

I had to laugh when I read your post - I was thinking I HOPE not, since I am pregnant with my 4th, and my 5 year old daughter is currently sharing a room with her 3 year old brother, and soon he 18 month old brother will be moving in too. Imagine what your mom would say about that! Anyway, I am having another boy, so what will happen is when the newest baby is old enough to sleep out of the crib, the 3 boys will share a room and my daughter will have her own. But, I don't anticipate that happening until the new one is 2ish. So, she will be 7 and I see nothing wrong with her sharing with her brothers even at that age. My big kids LOVE sharing a room, and have loved it since the 3 year old moved in before he was two. They both like having the company at night. In fact, I am just hoping that at 7, my daughter won't feel lonely in her own room. My daughter is a pretty typical 5 year old girl - she loves to dance and be a princess, but also loves soccer and t-ball too. I don't think sharing a room with her brother has affected her in any way, shape or form. Try not to worry - it sounds like you are doing the right thing - I would have hated trying to get any of my infants in the same room as the older kids. The sleep schedule is SO different!

Nope, there is nothing wrong with that. I shared a bedroom with two younger brothers and I turned out pretty good if I say so myself. In fact it taught me many things and I even helped with storytime reading and singing them to sleep at night. It may actually be helpful to have them share rooms. I'm all for multi-sibling rooms, it brings them closer, they will develop their own personalities anyway, there is no stopping that so why not add some elements that will only enhance their development, like tolerance, patience, comfort, love and just more fun. She is thinking about it in the wrong way altogether.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this arrangement!!! I have three kids (8, 5 and 19 months). They each have their own room. My son (the 5 yr old) has a bunk bed. The op is a twin and the bottom a full size bed. My 8 year old daughter prefers sleeping with my son and rarely sleeps in her room. She always tells me that she doesn't like to sleep alone but likes having the option when her brother annoys her. They have the best relationship (minus a few arguments) . They are buddies all the way and they do like their alone time with friends, but they read a bedtime story together and sleep in the same room. I have a sibling who never shared a room with me and we are not so close. Same thing with my husband. He and his sister never shared a room and they are not close either. I think it is nice for kids to share rooms and it gives them a chance to bond. My kids can't wait until my 19 month old can sleep with them in the room! I'm all for it!! God bless you and your family!!

J. S
SAHM of 3 children

I think it makes perfect sense. I have a friend with the same arrangement. When her youngest son got older then the middle son and he shared a room, and the oldest (daughter) got her own room. I think she was 9 when she got her own room. No big deal. My best friend growing up shared a room with her younger sister and brother until she went to college. It was all they had and they made do and did fine. Be strong, you have a lot you're dealing with, and this issue really isn't an issue. So don't worry about it.

You have to do what you have to do. Sharing a bedroom, is not the same thing as sharing a bed.

I shared a room with my older brother when I was around that age. We loved it! I don't think there's any problem with it when they are that young.

Hi L.,

The answer in my opinion is.... NO there is nothing wrong with this arrangement. Take comments from others with a grain of salt and go with your gut feelings.

My twins (boy/girl) are 6 and a half and still want to share a bedroom. (Even though we have two extra bedrooms- we use one as a playroom) They "kind of" want their own rooms because they could gear the decorating towards their own gender, but they would rather have each other in the same bedroom that they have now (the "Nemo" bedroom... decorated after the movie). They are allowed around 15 minutes after we tuck them into bed to talk. They love having this winding down time with each other to go over their day.