Hi H.,
I am a member and also an instructor at a Shapes Total Fitness gym. If you have considered an all women's gym, perhaps Shapes is the gym for you. Each gym (there are several Shapes in the Bay area) offers a variety of group fitness classes as well as personal trainers. If neither of these options suits you, there are also cardio and weight machines and plenty of personnel to assist you with the use of these machines.
I joined Shapes after being a SAHM and starting to gain a few pounds after my daughter's birth. Each Shapes gym has a daycare center as well. The time limit is two hours so you can get a really good workout in while your child is right next door.
As I mentioned above, there are several locations in the Bay area. There is one in Town N Country on W. Hillsborough Ave. in the Publix shopping center. I'm not too sure if there is one close to Land O' Lakes, but check out the Shapes web site (www.shapestotalfitness.com) and look for the location that is closest to you.
I wish you well with your weight loss and your search for a gym.