I have had 2 births both in the same hospital and with the same dr both for pre-natal and attending the birth. I have done natural child birth and it is best for me and I WOULD DO IT AGAIN IN A SECOND-no thoughts otherwise!!!!!
I guess you could call the first birth 99.5% natural if you want to get right down to it because #1: I did have just a very tad bit of IV drugs for naseau during transition and #2: the nurse, without knowing of my intent, hooked me up to pitocin during admin of the IV drugs as is standard for first delivery to make sure it does not stall but I quickly had them stop it and take it off when I asked what it was and they told me! I had NO epidural and I did not allow them to "pre"-break my water to "spead things up", as when that water is broke, your cushion is gone and you feal EVERYTHING! Sure, it does release hormones to spead things up a bit but it also SPEADS UP AND INTENSIFIES PAIN and a baby can only come as fast as you dialate no matter how much you contract and stretch.
I didn't feel pressured into anything at all but my dr. knew my wishes before-hand and was totally fine with it as long as there was no danger signs. When I told her (my dr.)a few weeks prior to delivery that I wanted natural birth, she looked at me like I was crazy (after all, it was my first baby and she thought I would be in for a shook but I knew my pain tollerence and my family history of birthing as well as had attended a few births myself). She did say whatever my wishes were that day, I would get as long as all was going well. I do not feel that the nurse that hooked up the pitocin nor anyone else of the delivery staff went around my wishes at all but the pit was probably an over-site as it is procedure to give it to every first delivery to insure no stall of labor. I can say that my labor went very fast and my baby was born in 2 pushes, no real tears and no stiches. I did labor at home as long as I absolutely could because it being my first baby, I didn't want anyone telling me or making me feel that they knew better because I had never been "there" before. I also wanted to labor in the comfort of my home without being hooked up to monitors and with restricted movement because of them.
With my son, my second birth, I guess you could call it an induced natural birth because I had to be induced with pitocin for health reasons at 39 weeks but did EVERYTHING else 100% natural. I can say I was scared out of my mind being induced because I felt I was not in control and would be preassured into an epidural, which i really did not want. Plus, they had threatened to incduce on my first but she came at 38 weeks, 4 days on her own before they got the chance so I really thought my second would follow suite and was disappointed that he did not. I made them put that pitocin drip AS SLOW AS IT ABSOLUTELY WOULD GO in order to allow my body to do most of the work itself. I also resisted all offers to break my water in order to "spead up the delivery"! I had no epidural and absoultely NO pain meds of any type. Again, labor was fast and so was pushing. I was hooked up to the drip at around 8:45 and had a baby by 2 pm, easy and again with only 2 pushes-no real tears and no stitches!
I guess you could say that the only "surprises" I had was that the dr had to rush in to literally catch both of my babies as they were born so fast! Also, that you know when to push (it is instinct) since nothing is there to block your sensors (pain meds, epidural, maybe pit giving you extra pressure). I told the nurses I was pushing before they even told me I was ready and that is when the dr rushed in when they called her from to hallway to hurry up in!
If you are worried about being pressured into a non-natural birth, I WOULD MAKE SURE EVERYONE AROUND YOU 100% KNOWS YOUR WISHES!!!! If they do not support your wishes, get someone else. I know for a fact you can get another nurse or two to help you rather than one or two that resists! Also, if your birthing dr is not your dr, again, don't hesitate to ask for another dr if he/she is not supportive or at least make sure he/she knows without a doubt your intentions and your family firmly backs you up while you are laboring and the dr tries to push something on you that you dont want. If you want to be extra prepared, come to the hospital as late as possible and with MANY copies of your simplified birthing plan (as few words as possible) readily available to all assisting: one for each nurse, one for the dr(s), one for your coaches, one for your labor room door, one for your labor room board and a few extras for whomever may "need" to know your wishes!
The hardest part for me, I would have to say, is trusting that really, NO MATTER WHAT, YOU know what you are doing and no dr or nurse can tell you how you birth! Also, the hardest part for me physically was not the pain, but the naseua so be prepared to feal sick if that is how your body handles "pain" instead of actually feeling true pain! My pain was truly bearable but the naseau took me for a loop on the first birth.
Like I said above, I would labor as long as possible at home prior to the hospital unless you have health risks as this way you know without a doubt that you will labor the way you like!!!!! And bring ANYTHING that you think will help you on your birthing journey: pics, music, scents, etc! All I really used was visualization but I brought music and light snacks (as most hospitals will not allow a morsel of food when in active labor but a bite of cracker or a piece of candy here and there helps settle your stomach and gives you energy for the job.
I really think recovery is faster with natural. I was literally bouncing around the room after my first was born! Enorphins!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I FELT GREAT!!!!!! I was not huge and pregnant! My feet did not hurt!! I actually got a little rest after the birth! I took a shower within a couple of hours!!! The nurse wouldn't let me shower because she thought I had an epi and it was way to soon for me to be able to get up but once she found out all was natural, she was laughing at my energy!
We plan on having 2 more and it will be all natural for me here on out unless something ill happens along the way where it won't be the safe option any longer!
I probably rambled on more than you wanted, but if there really is anything else you want to know, feel free to PM me!!!!
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE STRONG!!!!! POST PARDUM, YOU WILL BE PART OF A VERY SMALL MINORITY THESE DAYS, natural birthing mommies, AND THAT MAKES YOU A SPECIAL, STRONG MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!