Hi J.,
I am a little late on the response but want to tell you our story as well. I too had boys that were on different meds for ADHD. My youngest took Adderal also. I had heard all sorts of storys on the possible side effects and was concerned but went with it anyway. My son started having some of the same issues that I have read here on this post but he went pyschotic on us one day. It terrified me as well as our family. We immediately contacted the pyschiatrist who told us to give him Benadryl (like he was having an allergic reaction to something) and to not give him anymore of the Adderall. We saw him the next morning and ended up putting him on Concerta which is the only medication that seemed to help him. As he got older though, those side effects were more of a hinderance to him as a teenager than he was willing to deal with and he quit taking all his meds.
Part 2 of this story. I also have ADHD and never took meds until recently. I went to a conference last year and realized that I was all over the place and really needed the help. Whenever I had filled out the forms for the boys on how they were, I felt as if I were talking more about me than them sometimes. For years, I had talked to my doctors about taking meds for it but didn't because of how my body responds to medications. If there is an obscure side effect to a medication - I'll be that 1% that gets it.
So, imagine my surprise when my doctor wanted to put me on Adderal. I was terrified and I explained my fears to him. We started out with the losest possible dosage and worked from there but couldn't find just the right dose for me. it was either too much or not enough. Then we tried Vyvanse - it is a version of Adderal that is more of a time release and I have to say - it has really helped me. I have not had the same side effects that my son had nor did I join that 1%.
I guess what I am trying to say is that everybody responds to these meds differently. If you have a doctor that is not willing to work to find something that helps your son, you need to seek a second opinion.
As far as handling Protective Services, keep a journal of what you are doing to help your son. Keep track of appointments with doctors, phone calls with teachers, confernences, everything. There are two reasons for this, first, you will be able to prove just what you are doing to help him and you will be able to track for yourself and any future doctors that you might deal with just what you have done, what has worked, what hasn't worked and you might see a trend which in turn will help you help your son.
You are your son's advocate at this age. Don't be afraid to make some noise on his behalf. And when Protective Services somes, ask them for information on resources available to you in your community.
I know others have offered their email addresses and I would like to share mine as well:
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Please feel free to email me.
Hugs!