Any Advise??

I've had several friends that swear by the Proactive Solution sold at kiosk in the Wolfchase Galleria Mall. Good luck!

Hello M. i was 11 yrs old in 1979 when i started. My dad had custody of me and i was so freaked out. He figured it out and went and bought me the ones with a belt, i thought i was going to die. Well i wish i could of had the talk i knew somewhat due to my friend but it would of been nice. I would just sit her down and tell her all she needs to know if you buy her the book read it with her and she will know that when she needs to know life issues she can count on you. Tell dad that its just apart of growing up and reassure him that you guys are the ones raising her and your morals will always be there for her to rely on. God bless and good luck

My daughter is now 9 and started this around the time she turned 8. Here is what we do (recommended by a pharmacist): make sure she washes her face morning and night, uses cetaphil soap on a washcloth to wash it. In the evenings she puts oxy cream on the problem areas (for her it's chin and around the nose). Also about a month ago I got a jar of clean and clear pads, the little round white ones. She uses these in the mornings after washing her face.

As long as she keeps her face clean there isn't much of a problem, adn now she only uses the oxy cream when needed, not on a daily basis.

Also, the American Girl book from Bath and Body Works is wonderful - lots of information in it for girls. I haven't had "the talk" with mine yet, but we have discussed it before about a year ago after the pediatrician brought it up during a visit (she was developing breasts). She hasn't brought it up since.

Hope this helps you!

American Girl has a great book The Care & Keeping of You - The Body Book for Girls.

I am not sure if you have found your answer, but Methodist Germantown offers a class called Girl Talk. It is a 4 week session and the first week the mom goes alone. The ages are from 8-12. I believe it is $30 a child. If you go to www.methodisthealth.org and click on your health and then choose classes. In the classes section go to class registration and Girl Talk and you may be able to change locations. The next class begins 10-29-07. Good luck.

As an Aesthetician I truly understand an at home healthy skin life styles. make sure she uses something mild on her still baby skin. Don't over wash!!! Use a cleanser, toner, and moisturizer. Moisturizer is a MUST!! You skin will over compensate if you do not use a mositurzer.Your oil glands are a good thing remember! Make sure she uses all 3 in the am and before bed.If she feels like she needs to clean her face after school, go over her face with the toner only. Don't use all the dry up stuff. It will only hurt her skin in the long run and it will become red and irritated from over drying. Make sure her pillows are cleaned. Ask her to not to touch her face and keep her phone off her face. Break outs often happen around that time of the month b/c hormones make the glands sticky so dirt and oil get back up and clogs pores. There is no way to get around that. But using a facial brush or sponge, to wash her face will exfoliate gently. Don't use hard, let the sponge do the work. Good luck .. and keep it up. the 1 few weeks it may seem like she is having more breakouts than ever now that you have a routine but that's b/c it's working. The cleansers are bringing all dirt to the surface. Keep a good routine for healthy life style.

I see that a few people already mentioned it, but I was gonna say the American Girl Doll book. A coworker of mine (who's daughter is 9) gave it to her daughter and she said it really really helped her understand more.

http://store.americangirl.com/agshop/html/ProductPage.jsf...

My daughter is 10 and I agree with Laura, the book that she recommended is wonderful. I gave it to my daughter for her 10th birthday and told her that if and when she had any questions all she had to do was come talk to me. I had talked with her a bit before hand but thought the book really said it best without me stammering around like an idiot trying to explain things to her.

M., Hi! I was just reading your post and I also was 13 and never got "the talk" so I had to go on what I had heard from my friends and older sister. I have many more years before I have to talk to my daughter about it (she's 2 1/2) and I already worry what I should say. If you go to Tampax.com, playtex.com, Kotex.com or childrenshealth.org there is a ton of information that can help you figure out how and what you want to say. There is also a site called beingagirl.com---there is a link to it from Tampax.com that you can direct her to after you talk so if there was anything she didn't feel comfortable asking you she can get a little more info. As for helping daddy out I don't think there is much you can do to prepare him for his baby growing up! Maybe you could have them go on a daddy/daughter date so he doesn't feel left out of such a big event in your daughters life---although I can't think she would really want to discuss it with him, that might be too uncomfortable for her (and him). Anyways, I hope the sites I mentioned can help you out. Good-luck, A.

Hi M.,

My daughter was only 10 when this happened and we never expected it. Like you said you were 13 when you got yours and i was around 12. I guess the environment has a lot to do with it. Fortunately, we lived in an area that had already discussed all of this in depth in school, but she was crying and very scared when it first happened. I highly suggest getting a book out from the library or even finding some information online and sitting down with her; and going over it. What really made me sad was that the day before this she was playing contently with all of her Bratz stuff and then boom. She was no longer interested in dolls. So needless to say, every time i pass by the toys i get a little sad. They grow up so quickly. Good luck with everything!

D.