Another Baby or Not

My husband and I are pregnant with our second (and LAST) child. We already have a little girl. With only having two children, I have thought a lot about girl/boy. It would be great to have each sex, but I believe that everything is meant for a reason. It would be great to have two cute little girls dressed up for ballet, and it would be great to have a little boy to carry on my husband's name and share all the manly deeds of tinkering with my husband. You just have to be excited about whatever events the baby will bring. Having 3 boys would be great. Lots of muddy stinky laundry, but think of what fun they would have.. building forts, being best men in their weddings, etc.. If anything you should just hope for a healthy and happy child. That is the most important. If you can look forward to whatever that little miracle can bring, then have another child. If you think that if its a boy then you will hold it against him, then dont.

A.,
The only advice that I can give is if you do try for another child and when you do get pregnant. Wish for a boy and maybe your body will help you have a girl. About that research that you did. The only way I would go through with it is if the doctor would say for sure that you will have a little girl. If the doctor can't promise you that in a contract of some kind then I wouldn't do it because you would have paid all that money for that and in reality if you have a boy because the doctor could not guarentee anything you could have done that on your own with no help. So think long and hard about the research thing. Sorry if I made you uncomfortable, just trying to give adivce.

S. M

Get pregnant and let God decide.

I'm now 40 in my third and last pregnancy. I grew up as the oldest of 4 girls (no tom-boys). I wanted a little girl so badly, my husband was relieved when our first was a boy. He didn't think we'd have another if the first was a girl. I had it all figured out on how to make the girl happen for our second. I charted my cycles, and our sexual activity and I had it all worked out. We concieved, and I was SURE we had our girl. The day of the ultra-sound, when the tech told my husband and me we had another boy on the way, I started crying right there. My husband knew how disappointed I was. I couldn't get past it. I felt like God was punishing me for trying to make this girl happen in my way. He sure showed me who's in control. I couldn't get past my guilt and disappointment, and after two months, the doctor had to put me on prozac and almost put me in the hospital. Thankfully by the time my 2nd son was born, I was emotionally prepared to be a mom of two boys. I love my little guys a great deal, but my heart still longed for someone to have tea parties with, and teach to bake, and play with dolls. At Christmas, it became hard to go shopping, because I would get emotionaly just walking by the Barbie aisle. God wanted me to be happy with what He gave me. My boys are now 5 and 3 and a great joy to me. My husband was sure we weren't having any more, but I couldn't let go of the baby things, and just kept them packed away in the basement...I almost gave them to a friend who had just had a baby in Sept. when my period was late. We were not trying, and I hesitated to waste the money on a pregancy test. I had been hopeful before. Before I took the test, I prayed, "God if you want us to have another baby, I am trusting you. If it's your desire to give us a girl, that will be wonderful, but I know that if you give us another boy, it's becuase you know what is best for our family." Yes, we were pregnant. Everyone I know wished it to be a girl, but I couldn't hope...I needed to keep reminding myself that God knows what will be best for our family and I can trust Him. Every well wisher made it harder and harder to be neutral, but I had to be. My husband was so worried about how I would take it, if it was another boy. The first ulta sound was inconclusive and the tech wouldn't even guess. My husaband couldn't sleep the night before the ulta-sound due to his worry over me. Because of my age, my health has been somewhat of an issue, and we had another ultra sound at the first of 2007. The tech could find no boy parts on this baby and gave us an 85% chance that it is a girl. You think I would have cheered, but I didn't. It took a couple days to even allow myself to believe it. I know God has blessed me, and I am so thankful He chose to give me my hearts desire BUT, I know I still have to be happy with what He gives me, even if it's not what I think I want. I'm due June 4. I still try not to get to excited about it being a girl, in case the tech was wrong. But the whole experience has been a huge faith building experience and reminded me who is in control and knows what is best. I don't suggest you DO anything to make sure you have that girl you want so badly. If you trust God, and put this in His hands, whatever He gives you will be what is best for you and your family. I had to learn that the hard way. My best advice is to pray and trust.
God Bless <>< J.

I too am a mother 2 wonderful little boys 3 yrs old and 10 months old. I also want to have another baby and would absolutely love to have a little girl, but I do have a name picked out if we have another boy. I have my heart set on a little girl and I know I will be a little disappointed if it is another boy but I will none the less love him just as much as I love my two older boys and just as much as I would love a little girl. I dont think that it is up to us to pick the sex of our babies. As much as I would love to I cant say lets get pregnant tonite because it would be a girl versus tomorrow when it would be a boy. Good luck! I hope you get your girl(and me too when the time comes)!

Shettles method worked for us! I'm also a mom to two boys and now a little girl too! :)

I went thru the same thing. My mom actually got me a book "How to choose the sex of your baby". I am not sure who wrote it. i am sure you can find it in just about any bookstore. Let me tell you - it works. My husband and I had our baby girl 15 months ago. She is one of two, in 30 years on his side of the family.

I hope everything works out for you.

Try getting How to choose the sex of your baby by Landrum B. Shettles from the library. It won't garantee a girl but it is free to get it from the library and most of the ideas in it are free to do.

There is the Shettles methods to try ;o) You can look it up online to find out more, or check the book out at the library.

I think the important part is that you and your DH both want another baby. Since you both want another, then go for it! Trust me, you might have a brief dissapointment if you had another boy but you will be suprised at how much love you will have for him.

I totally know how you feel. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage, B,G,B My DH and I had a girl and I SO wanted a boy with him. I found out by ultrasound that we were having another girl. I was soooo dissapointed. That lasted all of a week maybe! LOL I then thought of how close they would be, etc. Never once when she was actually born did I think of how much I wanted a boy.
I am now pregnant with my last one. I desperatly want a boy. I will be briefly dissapointed if it's a girl, but when reality sets in I will adore another baby girl.

Good luck!

Congrats to you and your boys!! I also love being a mother of a little guy, but, like you, I would like to have a girl. My husband and I have started trying and I found this great website that gives "tricks" to conceiving a girl. Obviously, it isn't 100% accurate, but at least it's a try! Check it out:http://pregnancy.lovetoknow.com/wiki/How_to_Conceive_a_Girl

there are some books written by doctors that are 95% + effective if you follow the exact instructions - to decide the gender during conception. Check them out, they are less costly, and have worked for a couple people I know :)