Another Baby???? - Amarillo,TX

Kids learn lots of things sharing a room. Sharing is just one of those things. Don't let this keep you from having another child if this is all that is stopping you. At one point I had my 3 girls in one room, my dad in another and my husband and me in the third one. We bought bunk beds to make more space and my girls played all the time.

I haven't read other answers, but my first thought is that by the time the 2 younger siblings get tired of sharing a room, the older stepson will probably be out of the house, so it might not even be an issue...

Well, considering I had my daughter at 36, I don't think you are too old! But...I can understand not wanting to spread them out too far.

I actually posted a question a while back about having another child. The great advice I took away from that is that you should never have another child for your current child(ren)....it should only be because it's what you want deep down in your heart. If you feel that is what you want to complete your family and you are financially able to....then I wouldn't let something as small as room assignments stop you.

Good Luck!

33? You are young!! I had my first at 39.

I think you have to look at why you don't feel your family is "complete" and why another child WOULD make it "complete".
Siblings have been sharing bedrooms for forever.
Number of bedrooms shouldn't enter into the decision.
I have never felt the *need* to "give my child a...sibling"...but that's me.
I don't feel the # of years between siblings is a big deal either.
I had my first at 39 as well.
All families are different.
The real decision is if this is what you & your husband both want at the same time.

If you and your Husband want another child, then why not?

You are not old.
I had my 1st child, when I was older than you.

I think the space is the least of your problem because the boys can always pair up if your having a girl. So that's not a big deal. (for me anyways) I think if your heart is telling you to bring another angel in this world and your husband agrees, why not? And you are not old but I know what your saying. Some kind of inner time clock ticking away and you feel it's gonna be too late if you keep waiting and you know you really want another one. I hope all works out for you and your family. Take care!

I had my daughter when I was 41. Her half-siblings were 17 and 19 at the time. Details like bedroom space will work themselves out. More importantly is you and your husband's desire and willingness to raise another child. If you both are on board with this, go for it.

Besides, in five years, your stepson will likely be moving out, then you'll have two bedrooms again...

Don't base your decision on having another baby on bedroom space! Growing up we had three girls and a three bedroom house so two of us always had to share. At first, my little sister had her own room because she was the baby and mom didn't want her waking us up at night. Then, when she got older, we all thought we wanted our own room, so we decided to switch off each year so everyone got their turn to have their own room. ONly, when it came to my turn, I was so used to sharing a room, I didn't like my own room and switched back with one of my sisters. After that, the oldest and youngest switched off, but I stayed put. So, all that to say that sometimes some kids LIKE sharing a room! Also, if your step son is 13 now, your baby will still be quite young when he moves out and frees up one of the rooms. So, base your decision on something else, not the room because that's really not that big of a deal!

Yes, you are crazy! ;)

LOOOTs of kids share rooms and turn out happy and well adjusted. It isn't a horrible thing to do. Even my sis and I had separate rooms, but we ended up sleeping together almost every night anyways.

My two share a room now and they love it.

If you and your husband want to have another child, have one! There's nothing wrong with sharing a room- my sister and I shared a room for years and loved it! I'm 32 and expecting baby #2- you're not too old!

You don't mention your husband's feelings here- if you BOTH want another child, go for it!

If you want another baby and so does your husband have one. The youngest can share a room for a few years even if the baby is a girl. When they are young it does not matter. The younger two can probably share a room till the oldest graduates if nessasary. My boys share a room and they are 3 1/2 years apart. Sometimes the oldest doesn't like it but he get's over it.

Good luck with what ever dession you make! And God Bless!

Talk to your hubby, see where his feelings are at. I tied my tubes after my 3rd and wish that I hadn't. I had my first two in my early 20's and my last one in my early 30's (9.5 years apart between #2 and #3). I have the urge all the time and if I'm a day late, I start hoping, but I'm pretty sure the doctor burned my tubes. I really cannot afford another child, plus I don't think I want to give up my sleep in the middle of the night, but I feel since I have such a big gap that I should have had one more so the two younger would have each other like my two older ones, however, my youngest has like 4 parents... I don't think he really realizes he's so much younger than everyone...

The kids will be fine! Go for it! Best wishes and God bless! ;-)

Hmmm, if I were considering having another baby, sharing rooms and being 33 would be at the very bottom of my concerns list.

If your husband feels the same way, and the means are in place....

Almost like you're diggin' for reasons NOT to.

Interesting!

:)

I think that your 4.5 year old and the new baby would be fine sharing a room... In another 5 years your stepson won't need a room probably and the other two will be at a perfect age to separate them into different rooms. Go for it.. if that's the only thing stopping you, then I say do it. The only thing that may put a damper on the situation is if you have a girl. Then the answer is pretty simple.. the daughter gets her own room...

If you want another child go for it! As far as the bedroom situation goes, think of it this way - your "baby" will only be about 4 years old when your step son heads out to college and frees up a room!!

Hi J.,

If you think your family isn't complete and you and hubby are on the same page then you should have another child.

However, please don't have another child just because you want to "give your youngest son a full-blooded sibling". First of all, check out some of the posts on sibling rivalry. It would be very sad if the reason you had another child was so your son could feel like he had a 'real' brother (my word from the implication I read in your post). You never know what will happen and I would hate for there to be disappointment if you have another child and it doesn't turn out for your youngest son the way you hoped.

You don't really say much about the relationship between your son and stepson. If you have been with your 13 year old stepson for 11 1/2 years, you have been with him longer than he can remember being without you. I would nurture the relationship between your son and his stepbrother (even if you have another biological child) because that can be an important relationship for any of your children to have. I know you don't want to have another biological child so that your son has a 'sibling' and make the stepson feel like he doesn't count.

Just my $0.02.

If you want a larger family then do it. My BFF in high school was one of 12 kids and they grew up in a tiny 3 bedroom home and there was a girls room and a boys room with nothing but 2 double beds in each room. Some of the little kids still slept in cots in mom and dads room but for the most part they all slept in the rooms on which ever bed they got to first. I spent many many happy nights there and wanted to have a dozen kids myself so they could have that fun together.

So, again my point is, if you want a large family then have one. No one has to make this decision but you and if it's what you want the do it.

I'm going to really try and not be a "basher" here. So please take what I write with a grain of salt. First sharing a room was awesome with my sister (who just happens to be my half sister by blood but my SISTER). Not having a child because of having to share a room is yes a bit crazy sounding, but I do get it.

As a person who has no "full blooded siblings", I don't understand that logic. My siblines step and halves are my siblings. I love each of them as if we all were from the same set of parents. I don't see them has halves or wholes. It's hard when those around you don't get it...especially parents who always make the distinction between the terms. Please don't make having another child about blood, you will alienate the older child, whether you mean to or not. I am one of a the lucky few who has "other parents" who have always treated me and loved me as if I was their own flesh and blood. However, I do have one set of grandparents that treat me different, and it's quite uncomfortable at family functions. Tread lightly please.

Again I'm not trying to say you are doing this, I don't know your family dynamics but I have to take up for the kids in the same situation I was in.

Why do your kids need there own room? I shared a room with my brother till I was 6. Then we moved and also had a new baby sister and I shared a room with her for years. Eventually my younger brother decided he wanted to make one of the basement rooms into his room and my lil sis took his room.

Don't worry about the kids sharing a room. My boys share a room and we have two extra rooms. It helps kids learn how to resolve conflict and really builds bonds. If you want a second child, go for it. I wanted a second baby the minute they handed me the first one (smile). Since I was 39 y/o when the first one was born, I wanted him to have a sibling closer in age to grow up and be friends with. And my 13 y/o step son moved in with us when I was 7 months pregnant with my first. So I understand loving your step son while at the same time, wanting to expand your family. If you were to stay in your house for a while, you can split up the younger boys into separate rooms when you oldest son goes off to collage.

I would not base your decision on the bedroom assignments. I would partly base it off of your financial situation...if one cannot afford children, perhaps s/he shouldn't have them. However, I wouldn't purely base it off of the bedroom situation. From what you describe, it sounds like you really want another. Your boys would share a room...but in exchange they would get a lifelong sibling / friend.