Anniversary - Garland,TX

How about a mystery theatre dinner? I have a relative with a "homebody" hubbie and it actually got him out of the house. They really enjoyed themselves.

My husband could do that easy because he works long hours, but I remind him ahead of time to take it easy that week and get planty of rest because I don't want him to fall asleep on our adventure.

If you have to plan it all and he just has to pack and get up, do it. It's worth it. Hopefully, he'll thank you for making it happen.

Give him warning that you two are going somewhere fun and you've tried to make it enjoyable for both. If he wants to, he can either plan the next one or contribute his thoughts ahead of time.

Tuck in something you know he'd like: cooler weather, lake view, bed and breakfast in a quaint town that you can explore and browse antique shops and home made ice cream shops, etc. If money isn't an issue, Big Cedar near Branson, Mo, is a fantastic couples place because it caters to both women, men, and kids. Gorgeous and nearby is this nature/wild life preserve unlike anything I've ever seen. They also have high end fishing lessons there for the guys, live music at night, Branson shows within 30 minutes (country, comedian, magicians, dance/music, museums of Titanic, etc., etc). And, go online and sign up for a seriously discounted charge for listening to their time share proposal for 90 minutes with tour. They are SO NOT pushy for people to buy. You will fall in love with it.

Anyway, it's possible he's just lazy in the planning and ideas department -- or sucks at it. Try it and see if he doesn't get as much of a kick out of it as you do.

I tell my husband: no gifts: let's spend the money on a get away (near B&B or far).

First off, bravo for 26 years of marriage! In this day and age, that's amazing.

Since your husband seems as anti-social as mine (not wanting to go out and deal with people) maybe try sending your son to a friend's house, make a special dinner, light some candles on the table and just enjoy each other's company. Afterward, you could watch a movie and cuddle on the couch...or just see where the night takes you.

Good luck and I hope you're able to do something that you both find special!

Congratulations on your anniversary. Some peope are not special event oriented. You should convey to your husband that it is important to you and you want to do something special because its important to you. My wife and I have gone someplace special every year since out 25th Anniversary. We spent 16 days in Hawaii that year. (I saved for the trip for about 3 years.) My wife plans one year and I plan the next. Last year we spent 8 days at a resort near Cancun. We especially like cruises. We've been on 14 over the years. Our next cruise is in September 2010. Our first was in 1980 when I won a cruise with my company. Cruising has never been less expensive. The TV show "Love Boat" was filmed with the Princess Cruise Line as its base of operations. It is our favorite for celebrating Anniversaries.

A week or so after you do something special, ask him why he doesn't want to do anything special for your anniversary. Keeping the romance in marriage is work and makes the marriage more important to the participants. If you and he haven't kept the romance in marriage and celebrated its importance in your life you can't just flip a switch and turn it on. Christmas is special because of the work you put into making it special. Otherwise its just another date on the calendar.

If your son is the most important person in your life, your husband's actions and indifference would be understandable. Do you make him feel special so he wants to make you feel special? Do you give him a better greeting when he comes home from work than you do your son when he comes home from school? Do you ask your son how things went at school and how was his day, but don't ask your husband? Do you hug your son more often than you do your husband?

Get the book, "1001 Ways to be romantic". Get the books, "The Proper and Care and Feeding of Husbands, and "The proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." Tell your husband you want him to be more romantic. Ask him what "Romantic" means to him. Tell him on Monday or Tuesday and tell him you want him to think about it all week and to tell you on Friday or Saturday. Put a note in his sandwich baggie and tell him you love him or put it in his briefcase or cell phone. (Don't do this just once.)

I've written about this many times since I started posting on mampedia. Look at my postings. If you want more suggestions, e-mail me.

Good luck to you and yours.

Jennifer H. had a great idea.
:)

Make sure anything you plan for you both, will be something that he will also enjoy... not drag his heels about and grumble about.

My Husband is like yours.

good luck,
Susan

A couple years ago we went on a hot air baloon ride. It was so much fun, romantic, and a really special experience to share together. Also since he is quite a guys guy it was cool enough for him to really be into it without pushing him to be unaturally mushy. I am a bit afraid of heights, but after we took off it was great and not scary. They did them in the mornings when it was cooler, so we went to a fancy breakfast afterward. It is also something you could do w/ or w/o your son.
Have a Happy Anniversary!!

Do not know what you can afford but we always like a night in a bed and breakfast is some quaint little town not too far away so we do not spend the whole time traveling. We just moved here so I really do not know the area but maybe Granbury or Grapevine. Or do something you used to do when you were young and dating like go-carting, roller skating, water park. It may not be as hot them so a picnic at the lake might also be fun. If he has a specific interest like fishing hire a guide and go fishing even if you hate it, relax and enjoy it to show him how much you love him. I am a city girl who has gone hunting and helped skin a deer9with out loosing my lunch but just barely) I have only done it once but it was for him. In return he has planned many wonderful short weekend trips around my likes.

We have a thing here where you can take a horse drawn wagon to a dinner or play. They pack it in and pack it out. My husband did that for my birthday one year (total surprise as I didn't even know that they did that). It was in the winter and we were in a sleigh, but they do it with the wagon too. What about any Shakespeare festivals going on, take a picnic and cuddle up together?