An Apology...

I hate grammatical and spelling errors myself... it takes a lot of self control for me not to mention it when I post. :o)

I just ate two doughnuts, sure wished I could take it back, totally killed my diet.

~~~FLOWER~~~
For your apology ;)

I answered a question a few weeks back and insulted the person that asked,. I guess I forget you all do not actually know me..

You all do not realize, if you ask me a question I am going to tell you exactly what I think.. But I never intend to hurt anyone's feelings.

If I want to hurt your feeling I will warn you first.

I love this site, because I love that MOST of the moms on here really want to help others. I know you all have helped me tremendously.

At least you have the GUTS to actually comment on the bad spelling instead of trying to SNEAK your comment in another way, KNOW what I mean? :)

I have a lot on my plate, I work full time, I have two young children (one with special needs that includes extreme hyperactivity and controlling behavior), I volunteer time for church activities and committees and although I have a husband he's simply an extra set of hands - we both work full time but I am the primary parent, clean the house, calendar keeper, etc. etc, etc. I'm overwhelmed all the time and exhausted. Over the past few months it's affecting me in all aspect of my lives (yes I have a counseling appt. next week) - anyway, My point is, I'm crabby many days and I feel so awful about it - I get so rilled up about little things that should make no difference. Then in the evening when it's quiet and I'm reflecting on my day I feel awful......

Yeah, I could have been less harsh with some of my responses on here at times. Sorry.

I dont even have to time answer your question! LOL! Just wanted to say, I completely agree. No one is perfect, we all love our children as much as the next woman, and we are doing what we think is best for them. I have had to realize and stop judging, just because shes doing something I wouldnt do doesnt mean that she loves her kids less than I do. We are all doing the best we can....Really. Kudos to all moms and dads!

Now, Im going to go post something about my annoying SIL. Ah hahahaha!

I didn't think your post was bad. You never named a certain person. Too many people on this form are so rude. I am sorry to you for them judging you like they did. A huge bouquet of flowers sent your way! Have a wonderful day! :)

I think it takes a lot to recognize a fault or error in judgement within yourself and apologize. I give you credit for doing that. Self awareness is a wonderful thing in this day and age. The world is so full of self-absorbed people who think the world revolves around them. I too am guilty of that from time to time and your post has made me stop and think. Thank you for that.

I read your post, and didn't find it that offensive personally, but there are a lot of thin skinned women on here. Are grammar mistakes common? Yes. Do they annoy a lot of us? Yes. Can people make typos, even having a great education or degree? Yes, YES, YES! I think what everyone needs to remember is that we are human, we all make mistakes, sometimes we judge too quickly, and that we can all eat a little crow at some point in our lives. Kudos to you for recognizing that within yourself. Many more need to do the same...

I could fill a book on my faults. I have no idea where to begin. I do work extremely hard to correct what I see is wrong with myself and usually that gives me a lot less time to look at the faults of those around me. When someone calls me out on my misbehavior then I try desperately to not be hurt and take it as a moment to be humble. Humility seems to be a lost virtue. God knows I need humbled. Lord help me be a better speller. I have been working on it for years!

I didn't read the post that you're apologizing for so I can't comment on that, but this sure stuck out for me:

" I cannot change who I am" .

Sure you can, you're just choosing not to.

I posted something similar or maybe it was a response. Funny thing was everyone started thinking I am big into grammar. It is just strange times that it strikes me, kinda like with your other post.

For me it is the same as in the real world. When someone is criticizing someone and doing a really poor job of showing why they are looking down at someone.

Meh, maybe I should start a thread because I don't think a lot of people here understand that a lot of my nit picking is me making fun of life, not the person it is directed at. It is usually something I have caught myself doing so there is not air of superiority. I just think human nature is about the funniest thing on earth.

Sorta like me constantly accidentally calling my dad and his new wife, grrrr, mom and dad. I swear I want to take a drill to my head and extract whatever brain cell is causing that malfunction. :(

I don't think you owe an apology for your recent post. This is a public forum. I did not think you were calling any 1 person out... I am surprised when I see someone who is supposedly in a good profession posting with obvious misspelled words and poor grammar. I just assume they are in a hurry and don't think.

I know I've responded at times from my IPhone and when I see my post the next morning I am shocked at how the IPhone changed some words! I know some people probably thought "What was she thinking" when they read some of my responses!

If anything, some of the mommas on your recent post owe you an apology because several of them were out of line in judging you and calling you out. Hmmm... They were calling you out for being "rude" when they were acting the same way... doesn't make sense.

No one is perfect. You hang in there and have a great day!

i really dont think you need to apologize. a lot of people, myself included, need a good "kick in the butt" sometimes. if you are telling the truth and people have a problem with that then maybe they shouldnt be on a public forum like this. i have not read any of your previous posts or answers, that i can remember LOL....I am an honest blunt person and I tell it like I see it and I expect others to do the same. I dont always like the answers I get, but that person has every right to answer just like I do and I am the one asking. people who have issues with people telling it like it is should be on a site that caters to their own viewpoints.

Kudos to you for owning up to your little warts, which we all have ;)

Hmm, things we should take back... second day of school and I'm sitting here at my computer instead of working on the four page list of "stuff to do when the kids are out of the house" :o

Hi again....I was obviously one of the people this morning that felt a little frustrated from your answer to Heather as well as your own post. it just felt like you were belittling her so I couldn't help myself from standing up for her. Ours is a nation of all kinds of people, some very highly educated and some with just the basics. On a site such as this one, it's not necessarily important to spell and write perfectly. After all, these are just questions from needly and sometimes lonely, sad mamas, not dissertations for PhD's. I would just hate to know that any mama on here would feel put down and condemned because she couldn't spell flawlessly or construct a perfect grammatically correct post. That's really all I was trying to get across to you. And to be honest, it was a bit personal to me. My precious MIL of twenty years drowned in her pool Memorial Day. She had my husband at 17 and worked terribly hard her whole adult life in a tire factory to raise her son. Her education was very limited and her writing reflected that. Any time she sent my kids cards or notes, there were always spelling errors and she always spelled our state "Flordia" when addressing her packages and notes to us. But, oh what an amazing woman she was...she loved deeper than anyone I have ever known and inspire of her lack of education was a remarkable person. I would be devastated to know that anyone in her life would have made her feel inferior for something as trivial as spelling errors, know what I mean? Anyway, I admire your apology and it certainly says a lot about how you care about people's feelings. Now, to answe your question, what is the last thing I had to apologize for? For being way to grumpy and impatient with my 13 year old daughter this morning, I actually made her cry which made me feel like a terrible mother. Thank goodness she has a very forgiving spirit, otherwise, when she turns 18 in a few years, she would probably run away and never speak to me again. Anyway, all's good for me and I will look forward to running into you again on Mamapedia....have a good night :-)

***in re-reading my response, I see that typing on my iPad is still not a good skill for me, hope you will overlook it :-)***

I have been on this forum, under different names, for different reasons, and, yes, you were quite mean to me once when I was in a bad place. I'd had a death in the family and other issues and was feeling low. Sometimes women don't want a 'mrs fixit', but just someone to listen and empathise.

To answer your question, I would probably apologise to my children for my exhaustion, humanity, imperfections, feeding them processed food, and for ever smacking them or losing my cool with the,.

We all have our moments.
I wondered if you were having one.
I had one a long time ago and received hateful, mean PM's which hurt very much. But I too had had a moment.
YOu are on here so often with very helpful advice.
I hope your little ones sleep a little longer today and are angels for you, though I know sometimes it just isn't the case.

Have a good day. Do something for yourself, change your nail color or something. Do something to make yourself smile.
We don't hate you, at least I don't.

I don't know what it is you did, and I'm not going to ask or look for it. Because, I am a put my foot in my mouth all the time, person. I am honest and heartfelt, though times it may seem I am not.

Don't worry about it, things are said and done by people everyday that they wish they could take back.

Today you were a big enough person to admit to and apologize for your actions publically (or as publically is mamapedia can be). Good for you and keep your head up.

I got really frustrated with my daughter yesterday before school. I get frustrated a lot, actually, because in the mornings I get absolutely ZERO help. And, I will yell or act like the 5 year old that my daughter is. It makes me feel this () small. I always try to apologize, let her know it's not her, it's me (most of the time!!). SIGH - we are too much alike - the teen years are gonna be interesting.
This is a site of mostly women - I think we all can be catty sometimes. MOST of us have the best intentions - don't beat yourself up too much. The only perfect person is my husband (at least in his own eyes - MEOW - catty). Have a GREAT day, ok?