Am I the Only One Who Feels like This?

Every stay at home mom I know of goes through this, so don't worry. Your doctor can help & I think if you just repeat the above they will understand and be able to help. I hate taking pills, so if you do as well you may try a few of these tips to help.

Make lists of what you need to do & put it in order of what must get done first. Set a daily schedule for yourself & your baby, and try and stick to it as much as possible. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! I really enjoy a Stay at Home Mom's playgroup my girls & I are in, and you can find one close to you on google or at meetup.com. Also, I am member of a gym & that is the best thing I ever did. I don't go like I should, but when I am going regularly I have so much energy and get some much needed 'me' time. If you keep busy during the day your more likely to tire-yourself out for good sleeping at night. Talk to your husband or signif. other about this as well. Explain how you feel and that you need a night out once in a while to do more than grocery shop.

Okay, those are my tips and the things that have helped me & several SAHMs that I know. Try the above and/or talk to your doctor. Remember that taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family!

I think you are normal..So many people resort to antideppressants. Go to the Fem Centre there are multiple locations...They test your hormones and equalize them. I went there after my second, when he was about 8 months old. And my DHA levels had not bounced back yet...They gave me some pills to stick under my tounge. And problem solved. I only had to take them for 2-3 months. And they were not addicting. And not prescription pills. You will get over the hump, have a girls night out every once in a while...that will make you pumped up about the life you have!!HAHAHA!!

You are not the only. Trust me. I feel like that too and struggle with it. Your life has totally changed and now, all of you is about someone else most of the day. You have to focus all of your enery, time, and yourself on your prescious child most of the time. It's completly normal. I miss the PK (prekids) life as well. It's normal. However, if you long for it in such a way that you might just leave or hurt you son, then seek help. That being said, you need to be sure and take some time for you. Get a pedicure, do a girls night out, whatever will renew you. You have to take care of you. Occasionally, in addition to the above, I get a sitter during the day and go to the movies. It's a little luxury that really does a lot of good.

C. (mom of 3 and 1 yo boys)

It's perfectly normal, but it does sound like you may be a little depressed. I was the same way after my second daughter was born. Post partum depression can hit at any time after you've had a baby and yours is still very small. You should call your doctor and speak with her/him just to be sure. There are a lot of medications out there that can help. I used something for a short time (6months) and it helped tremendously. Good luck and God bless.

After birthing babies our hormones are all messed up!!! I have several girlfriends that if you met them they would seem normal but they take anti-depressants. The medication has really helped them be more content with their lives---instead of constantly looking at life through gray-colored sunglasses. You should definitely talk to a professional and explore this option. God bless you with your decision.

I don't think it necessarily means you have a hormone imbalance or you are depressed. Being a SAHM vs. a single woman is a huge life difference and takes a while to adjust to. You went from being able to take care of yourself first, do whatever, whenever to having your whole world revolve around your child. It should revolve around your child, that isn't a bad thing, but a huge adjustment. I remember feeling that way all the time when my daughter was little. I missed my friends and freedom. All I can say is that I think you are normal in feeling that way and you will get used to it and prefer it over your single days. My friends have to drag me out occasionally because I am such a homebody, not depressed, just content where I am. You will feel differently with time. In the mean time, don't feel bad about the way you are feeling. Try to make time for yourself to do things you used to do before baby. Go get a pedi, see a movie, go to dinner with friends, or have a date w/ your husband. Best of luck.

Hi P.,

I know what you're going through. I felt the same way for a long time, and I didn't know what was wrong with me. I finally faced the fact that I was depressed, but for no reason- just caused by either hormone changes or a chemical imbalance. I talked to a couple of people I know that have been diagnosed with depression and gotten on medication, and they suggested that I see a psychiatrist. I see Dr. Mech in Plano, and I'm now on antidepressants, and I'm feeling much better! Feel free to PM me if you want more info on my doctor, or if you have any other questions. There is hope, and you can get better with the right medication and psychiatrist. Hope this helps! :)

Ha!!! I feel like this quite often.

What helps me is to go out and get together with friends, taking up a craft or hobby helps too. Basically, get into some kind of routine, and find something to do that excercises your mind.

Hi P.,

Staying at home with little adult interaction can definately bring you down. Do you belong to any Mom's groups? If not, I highly suggest finding one and getting involved! I joined my MOMS Club chapter 6 yrs ago after my daughter was born and I left my job to stay home with her. It was a godsend!! I don't know what I would have done without it! I'm still involved now...my youngest is 2. Whether working or at home, you HAVE to have some sort of social interaction! You can find a local MOMS Club chapter at this website: www.momsclub.org

Good luck....the road may seem long now, but when my daughter started kindergarten last fall, it suddenly hit me how quickly time had gone by & made me appreciate my time at home with her even more.

:-) H.

Hi Particia,
Yes it is normal, but yes you probably should talk to someone. I don't necessarily mean a shrink though. I am basically the same age as you and my son is the same age as yours, so I can really empathize. I do often feel that sadness and loneliness, especially since my husband works 6 days a week. I saw you are in Carrollton, if you would like to join my mom's group. we'd love to have you. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/CarrolltonMoms/?yguid=5335494 We meet weekly in the north Carrollton area. I don't know what I'd do without these women. It's not like we are all the very best of friends, but everyone is so kind and great to hand out with. We always offer to help each other out when something comes up, and are always quick to offer advice and an ear to listen. Other things I have done to get out of the house is go to the library for storytime Mondays and Wednesdays, take my son to Little Gym Thursday's, and I try to go to a mall playarea or some other activity those other days. It helps so much just to get out even if it is only to the store. If these things don't help, then you might want to try calling a professional.