L.C.
A., I do sympathize with you and your not "damaged goods". trusting again takes a lot of dicipline to control your thoughts and actions. If you want a successful relaitonship you can not hold the man you are with accountable for the last persons mistakes. I know you are just trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again but your just driving yourself crazy by constantly "checking" My best advice is one to slow the relationship down dont be physical with him until you trully can trust him no strings attatched. This will allow you the freedom to heal and get to know him without putting up all the guards. Second eveytime you feel the need to "check up on him" walk away from it, find a distraction and change your thoughts. This is extremely hard to do but you have to take control of it or it will control you. lastley, let him know you are still healing from your past relationship and let him know you want to move slow and the reason why, let him know you are seriously working on it and If he cant be patient with you he is not going to be the one. Good luck, you can trust again.