Lately I feel like NOTHING goes smoothly. I bought wall decals for my daughters room and they don't stick but they were a final sale so the THREE boxes cannot be returned. I bought my son a 3 pack of learning DVDs and two of the packages had the identical DVD in it. I tried to send up auto pay for my mortgage. For days the account was down for maintenance. Then my password didn't work. Then I got locked out. Then I finally got in, put in all my info, hit submit, and there was an error that could not get corrected for three days. Nurse at school called three times because of questions about my sons perscription. Said I had to get the print out the script redone. Sent husband to doc and then to pharmacy to get it filled. Pharmacy cannot fill it the way do wrote it and my husband went to work with script in his car. Went to doc to pick up a new one but they wouldn't give it without returning the old one so now I need to be there at 8 AM on a Sat because they get too busy later in the day. Needed to start son on a new medication which required him to have an EKG. Ekg cam back abnormal. Saw cardiologist today and thank God everthing is actually okay. I could go on like this listing 10 more things and this has only been in the past week. Is this normal??? Nothing goes smoothly anymore. Everything breaks, does not work, is not there, or just end up being very time consuming or difficult. I guess I am just venting a bit.
blerg. i hate it when i'm in one of those miserable spells where everything's wonked.
sometimes you just have to ride it out.
or get an exorcism<G>.
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;) khairete
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Yep, I have periods of this where everything seems to happen at once. Singularly, nothing is that huge of a deal, but put it all together and I want to scream! One thing at a time Mom....
Start listing the positives and not the negatives and you will most likely find the negatives are complete outnumbered. We like to focus on negative because we have been taught by the media that it gets attention.
In our house we call problems like that 'first world problems'. They are an inconvenience but in the scheme of things many people have much worse things to deal with.
When it rains, it pours.... but eventually the sun will come out again! Hang in there! Breathe!
Seems like a typical day lol. Tomorrow will be better. Just keep a good sense of humor.
Wait.
Your life went smoothly for some period of time???
Lucky.
Attitude
by Chuck Swindoll
The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do ...
It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company ... a church ... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day ...
We cannot change our past ... we cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you ...
we are in charge of our attitudes.
I read this to remind myself we just have to roll with the punches and deal with it the best we can.
This is normal-and you've kept your great sense of humor! I hope next week is easier!
It's called life, mama!!! We all have weeks like that.
You're not cursed, you just need to look at things in a more positive light.
It's Murphy's Law...and I think there's a full moon this weekend, so there you have it....LOL. Sorry you are having a cruddy day, we all do at some point. Hope you have a better one tomorrow. Just breathe.......in with the good....out with the bad ; )
I think we all have spells like this. The very beginning of 2011 from January FIRST seemed like a nightmare for my family. On new years day my aunt passed away, the next day my in laws broke the new that they were divorcing, COMPLETE shocker. My sister found out she was pregnant and immediately started having terrible health issues and we werent sure if the baby would make it. We found out that we were still unable to purchase a home even though a mortgage broker had told us we could and we had CRAMMED into a tiny rental for a year to save money. ANd things just progressed from there. The first four months were just awful and we started joking that we didnt even want to talk to anyone because we didnt want to hear any bad news.
It can be very stressful and tiring. But like some have said just focus on whats good. As aggravating as things can get, nothing sounds tragic or life altering. Just completely frusturating. Think about the fact your sons EKG came back ok. That you have a family, friends you're healthy etc.
Hang in there, we all hit the bad patches sometimes!
You can look back and say "what was that?!" Remember the one great thing out of the week, your son's heart is ok. We all have had those days or months or years....sounds like the old "Friends" theme song! The chorus goes "I'll be there for you ... You have a husband and two kids, celebrate your family. Picnic in the living room? Some weeks it's all we have.
I would say it is normal...in the since that everyone had phases in life that where it seems like if it can go wrong it does...
I just try and look at it like an adventure...life's great adventure...and then I have a great story to tell about my week...
HUGS!!
Breathe. Take a couple of hours and plan to do nothing. Turn off all of your phones, the computer, and put a sign on your front door not to knock or ring the bell.
Take a hot bath. Then snuggle up in bed with some hot tea, a blanket, and a good book. Light a pretty scented candle. Make sure your husband takes the kids to the mall to window shop. Have him bring you back your favorite muffin and some chai tea from Dunkin Donuts.
Oh wait... that's my relaxation routine.
I'm glad your son is okay. I am having a bit of trouble seeing what is so difficult about the decals and the DVDs, the auto pay and the pharmacy, but I am a little off kilter right now because my son (Type 1 Diabetes) had such severe low blood sugars the other night that we had to stay awake all night just to make sure he didn't die. My dishwasher isn't working, our car is in the shop, we are out of milk AGAIN, I'm out of tampons and we seem to have a spider infestation, but none of that matters as long as my kiddos are okay.
I'm sorry you are overwhelmed right now, but it could be much, much worse.
Me and my husbadn talk about this all the time. NOBODY can do their jobs properly these days. Everything you buy, you have to check it for defects. Every service you have, you have to check it's been done properly.
There are many times when everything seems to go wrong for me, too. You are not alone. I've learned to see things that are annoying as different from serious issues like a health scare/loss of loved one. I tell myself, "It's not bad, just inconvenient." The big things get done but it's all these little things that stress us out and hang in our brain. We are just trying to check stuff off our endless lists. Take a deep breath. It will calm down and then you will appreciate the days when things are smooth (and boring!)
" I bought wall decals for my daughters room and they don't stick but they were a final sale so the THREE boxes cannot be returned."
I got decals for my kids rooms too. I realized after a few that they would not stick to our walls. What I did is put the rest on white poster-board, then cut them out and stick them to the walls with poster putty. Problem solved!
As for the rest of it - yeah, it happens. Not usually all at once, but you're not abnormally unlucky. I hope October is better for you.
Normal. Sorry its stressful right now. But to me, its all about perspective. Hope the venting helped. Now....go through your gratitude list and if you don't have one, start one NOW. You will see just how blessed you are and all of the things that DO come together, that DO work out, all of the things that are positive and you are grateful for. When you focus on those, the bad ones drift away and are not as easily noticed. Choose where you want to feed your attention----the good? or the bad? Life is stressful. But its what you make of it.
I'm sorry if some of tis is a bit off topic. things break all the itime and it
had me unhappy Service is bad and I'm on hold for hrs a week for my fmaily at times. People get sick too often.
I hope you don't have special needs kids. I do and it's tough all the time
The worst is being a nice person but not having friends.
Tht is almsot the worst. Be thankful if you have a parent and your kids are Ok somtimes. YOu'd surprised how many ppl don't have parents
or kids that are OK.
Pretty normal although days like that are annoying! Feel blessed that your son is OK!!
Sounds normal. It's about perspective though... every time I start to get crazy because of all the little things that are going "wrong" I try to remind myself that at least we have a home, my husband has a good job he likes, and we live in a country that affords us the luxury of having "problems" like you described. We could be living in Haiti or Syria and then we'd have real problems.
Not to dismiss your message - I often feel like you, but I am trying to let it go and move on being grateful for what I do have...
Another idea - try doing less. Of course your doctors stuff you can't not do, but wall stickers, I'd let it go. Toss them and move on.
How does that saying go? "It isn't what happens to you, but how you handle it." Something like that. This just sounds like life. These things happen to us all the time. The key is in how you handle it and how it affects your attitude. I have tried very hard to rid our lives of negative things. But they still happen. So I realize that that is life and I need to just deal with it. My grandma also said, "you have what you say." Meaning, if you wake up and say, "today is going to be crappy"...then it pretty much is going to. So try to turn things around and have a better attitude and things will likely get better for you. Good luck!!!
Yep, completely normal. We have the same issues. Seems like you get one thing done and then 10 more issues pop up. It's always something. I think we have a pretty decent attitude, but there are those stressful days when you wonder why it's so hard! Every now and then things go smoothly though. For example, I should be thrilled, tonight I managed to print out my kids' soccer photo order forms before the deadline and only had to troubleshoot one thing in the process. That's a new record.
For us, life is much easier if we allow more time for these weird things to happen. However, I'm terrible about planning enough time. At least I'm aware of it now and I try a little hard to leave enough transition time and time to deal with problems. I say this with a to-do list of these annoying things to take care of piling up though. Oh well.
We all have times when nothing seems to go right and we feel like we are doing nothing but chasing our tails.
I tend to try to deal with these things with a sense of humor. I'd rather try to laugh about it than cry, although there's nothing wrong with getting overwhelmed and just letting it all out every now and then.
If I focused on every single thing that doesn't go smoothely in my life, I'd be certifiably insane. I think it also helps to realize that no matter how bad things get for me, there is always someone who is far worse off. I am blessed in so very many, many ways.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying you had the week from hell. It happens to the best of us. But, in my opinion, dwelling or focusing on the "wrong" stuff is counter-productive. It helps to think of all the things that went right. You COULD list 10 more things that went wrong, but why? List 20 things that you have to be happy about.
Watch a funny movie. Get your sense of humor working. Look for joy in the midst of craziness. That's what I do.
Best wishes.
Yep, pretty normal to me.
That's life for everyone. Make sure you take some time to de-stress....venting is good :) tomorrow will hopefully be a better day for you :)
Dear oh dear, you had a real run of it didn't you! Luckily, nothing was too serious though. I think it's just that when things don't break, or go wrong, we just don't notice!
Give yourself something to look forward to, and enjoy the weekend!
Bless you bless you bless you. MEEEE TOOOOOOOOO. The dysfunctionality in the details is INSANE. You just reminded me that the checks I have ordered THREE TIMES (this time without wrong address please) have still not arrived....I'm always wishing I was rich enough to just smash my computer and get a new one whenever I need to use a password I don't know for something...and that my soon-to-be ex husband wasn't such a psycho liar cheater face sabotaging the family unit at every turn and causing landmines to go off....And the older I get, the more it bugs, because it's been going on sooooo long (not the husband stuff, but the other constant "little stuff"). HUGS!!!. It does come in waves----sounds like you're in a bad one right now-hang in there!
And believe me, I KNOW that none of these cumulative little things are SERIOUS (though we did have a sh__storm of serious stuff for the past few years IN ADDITION to the topical dysfunction), and I am thankful for our blessings all the time (like our kid's health, but don't get me started on not being insured and the hospital nightmares from just our small encounters-we could be in major trouble at any moment-which is what I remind myself on rough days....that it can all still nosedive......), but no. No one is smooth sailing on all the little daily tasks unless they have uber-mojo or a personal assistant doing everything for them.
