Ok, So we currently rent our home. The owner wants to sell the house, but it is not a house that we would like to buy. Therefore, we are looking for a new rental- this time in a home we would like to purchase, with the option of purchasing. We found a house that we realllllyy like and it is for sale as well. So all sounds great- we were approved for the rental portion and are sitting down with a mortgage lender on Tues. Here's the catcher- I was due to have my 2nd child 3 days ago. So if we do in fact move, it will be in 1 month! Meaning, I have to pack my house and get ready to move with a newborn- and a 3.5 yo. Our only other option is to wait until the owner sells the house and then look to move. However, we really love this house, don't want to loose it and don't want to be under pressure to find something and not be able to- which is how we ended up in this house. The house we are looking at is EXACTLY what want in a home- can't think of anything else we would want. Its just the whole- having a newborn thing! lol. So am I nuts? or will we make it through? And have any of you done this sort of move before??
I've moved with a newborn. Twice actually. Get lots of help, get neighbors to help pack up things, GET A BABY CARRIER like a Ergo, or a Boba so you can have free hands, but still good baby time :D
I have a friend who moved cross country in the same type of situation as you. You can do it. Not that it'll be easy...but think about it...a few days, and it's over. You can do it. Enlist help.
I've put the house on the market with a 6 week old baby and a 16 month old and we managed to sell the house we were living in and by a new home. It was a lot of work but it is totally doable. Don't rush into anything that you might regret in a few months. Sleep on it for a few nights first!
Best wishes on a new home and a new baby!
If you have help you can do it... I not only packed up and moved, but moved 2,000 miles to a town where I didn't know anyone - with a newborn and a 4 y/o AND I sold the house we lived in -- my husband had to move before we did because he had to start working before we sold the house. So enlist the help of anyone you can and it is do-able. Good luck with your decision. I think if you don't go for it, then you'll always be thinking "what if?"
You can do it!!
This is coming from one who has moved babies and toddlers across the US four times. Thanks to the Marine Corps.
Do what you can now,
Pack up the pictures, anything you don't need. Get the boxes in a room you don't use.
Enlist help, sometimes the local high school might have some able bodied kids who need some volunteer hours.
I like the Snuggly idea, we always had one for our itty bitties anyway.
At least you aren't moving across the NV desert and camping with an infant and a toddler, that I do not recommend.
Ask for lots of help, or hire a mover. I wouldn't let a good house go.
Actually it might be easier with a newborn rather than with 2 toddling around, right?
Line up some help and go for it!
Provided, of course, that the mortgage is no more than 25% of your disposable monthly income.
Call in a LOT of favours from your friends and family to help you pack and move; supply plenty of pizza and beer :o)
At worst, you'll have a week or two of no sleep and cranky *everyone*....but it'll be worth it because you'll be in your dream house.
It won't be easy, but you can do it, and don't be shy in asking for help, with your children or the move. Life rarely happens in the way we'd like it to, so the best we can do is roll with it. God bless : )
Go for the new house, call in friends and family and get er done!
You can do it!!
Just get plenty of help.
It will be stressful, but it will be stressful to move no matter what and if you wait, you might not find a house that you love so much.
I moved with a newborn. Fortunately, my husband took the lead and hired help.
We have a college and a university close by so there is never a lack for people wanting to make some extra money. Also, if you don't belong to a church, you can still contact some in your area and get some honest helpers.
Like I said, it will seem overwhelming no matter how you look at it. I HATE moving and don't really handle it all that well, but you know it has to happen.
I wish you the very best with your new baby and hope you get the house you're longing for.
i moved when i was 7 months pregnant with #2....just get the men in your life to do the heavy lifting and moving....your nesting skills will take over during unpacking.
well that was the case with me
You can do it.
You can do anything you put your mind to. It won't be easy, but...
Just pick yourself up and do it.
LBC
Go for it!! If it's the house you REALLY want then you'll be kicking yourself later for not jumping on it. And try to look at it this way - once you're settled into your new home you'll completely forget what a pain it all was (kinda like childbirth!!)
I have 2 different friends who were in the process of moving when they went into labor and had the fun of bringing the new baby home to the new house for the first night M. spent there too. It made it a really special event and memory. They had friends help and all the wives/moms set up the nursery enough for the baby. It didnt take more than a few weeks to have it the way mommy wanted. Here they all are, 40, and 27 years later. Both families are still in those homes, and the kids grew up just fine, and M. lived to tell about it.
I think you should go for it! It'll be kind of crazy. I'd start packing now if you can (not that it's easy when you are totally full term!). Nice thing about newborns is that they sleep most of the time. Granted they don't sleep through the night usually, but hopefully you'll have times where you can spend a lot of it packing. I think it will be stressful and difficult, especially since you'll still be recovering from birth, but I think you'll be glad in the end that you got the house you wanted! I hope it works out great for you!
Pack now so Hubby can do most of the moving while you supervise.
I moved 3 times within my daughter's 1st year and once when she was almost 2. Move NOW! It is SOO much easier as a newborn than at toddler age, especially since you already have one toddler to worry about. I got the baby carrier that has straps all across your back and the head rest behind her head (so her head is supported) and it worked really well. No your not nuts, it's actually easier. You already have one toddler and it will be harder if you had, say, a 2 year old and 5.5 yr old lol :)
Recruit some family or friends to help, make sure someone is always watching the 3.5 yr old. My daughter needed a very close eye, she was so excited about moving and running everywhere so needless to say my family did most of the moving and I did as much as I could when I wasn't looking after her lol. Get a box of really light stuff like stuffed animals and have the 3.5 yr old help by taking 1 to the car while you take a box or 2, that's what I did after 30 mins of my daughter being over excited about moving and that worked to have her "helping" and I could move stuff. If you don't have a dolly borrow one, such a life saver.
Lipstick mama has a point, you may need to get help to replace you if you aren't totally healed at 1 month to move. If that's the case, have hubby move the couch or bed first lol then you can chill with the kids in the new house while he and friends/family are moving :D Depends on your healing time, I first moved when my daughter was 3 weeks old 7 hours north, she slept almost the whole time in mid-day.
We moved when my daughter was 2 days old. We got the phone call saying the house was ours and to pick up the keys and boom, labor started I kid you not! The hardest part was when we were expecting the delivery of a refrigerator so my FIL dropped me off at the empty new house with newborn, 2yo and 4yo while my dh stayed at the old house finishing packing up. No food, no cups for water, nothing to sit on. I was so out of it I didn't realize those things til he drove away. Luckily he realized, ran to the store to get snacks and drinks and brought me his little folding chair (it was a triangle seat, ouch my episiotomy!) Easy? NO! But it all worked out in the end!
Grab it.. and figure it out later. Don't regret missing out on your dream house. They don't often come along. Worse case scenario -- you end up paying some extra money to have someone help you pack up . Or you pay double rent (!) for an extra month to give you some time to gradually get over there.
But there's nothing worse than regrets (I've had a few -- particularly when it's come to real estate). So I'd pay more to buy time to make this move, but wouldn't miss the opportunity to get your family into a home you love
If you want the house, don't lose it! Go after it asap---you can have men from your church or hubby's friends help pack and move your whole house in a day. You don't have to lift a finger. Take care of yourself and your newborn, get someone to help with your three year old and let your hubby and crew do the rest. You will feel so much better being in the home you love and want then waiting to move. Get it over with. You will feel so much better! GL
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So your life will be super hectic for a while. But the end result will be worth it. You'll totally do what you have to and you'll totally make it through. Congrats on the new baby (and, quite possibly, the new house)!
Yes you can do it!! Like Dawn B says if your hubby helps it would go so much better!! Also, do you belong to a church? Maybe you can snag one of the nursery girls, or maybe one of the old ladies, to come sit and hold your baby while you pack!! It might make you feel better knowing someone was right there with the baby so you could concentrate!! Good luck, hope all works out for you!!
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You should hire a moving company to pack your things, and move it into the new house for you.
It will make things so much easier and you wont have to do really anything.
If you dont get this house, then you might regret it and wonder why you didnt do it. Get the new house, if its what you really love then do it! Everything else will work itself out, dont stress!
Congrats!
Yes i moved 1 week after i had my first. They sleep most of the time. Piece of cake! Ask someone to watch your kids or just the 3 yr old. Congrats on your new home!
Oh and you body should be good to go in a week or 2. I was driving myself back and forth to the hospital 2 days after i had my son for 2 weeks. I think all the walking through the hospital helped me recover faster.
Aside from you being sleep deprived (and perhaps limited movement, if you have stitches/etc.), I would think moving and packing with a newborn would be easier than an older infant. Our daughter has been mobile since she was 5 months... and older babies sleep less during the day and need more interaction. At least with newborns, they are in the eat-sleep-poop routine most of the time.
We just packed and moved and honestly, I couldn't pack unless our then 8/9 month old was napping or at daycare. She just demands too much attention.
Good luck with your move!
Crazy, but people have certainly done crazier things!
For what it's worth, my parents had to completely renovate our house when my M. found out she was expecting my youngest sister... ran out of bedrooms and bathrooms! So... they started the addition and let's just say there are pictures of us holding the baby in the front yard with a dumpster in the background b/c it wasn't finished in time!
Our friends pulled together, painted, decorated, put together furniture, babysat, cooked... whatever needed to get done and we were settled by the time she was two weeks old.
It's going to be fine. If people offer to help, FIND something for them to do!
I say go for it!!! not nuts, heck back in "pioneer days" women would have babies and then move cross country in a wagon, or give birth while on the move...it wont be as hard as you think. get the house while you can!
