Am I Being Paranoid - Nutley,NJ

That is a little bit too many people...too easy to lose control of how many people are handling the baby. IT will definitely put you in a 'bad guy' position if you have to tell people that they cannot hold the baby. Wait a couple of weeks.

No, you're not. I was the lady with my week old baby at the store, the park, the mall. I was on bed almost the entire pregnancy, so I NEEDED to get out. However, I was able to stay away from people. I don't think I would take a tiny baby into a house with tons of people, where I can't have open air and space. I think that's too much for a little one. Babies should have their immune system built up, but not by going to an enclosed space with a bunch of folks at a week old.

I would decline, if I were you.

NO NO NO!

Your fiance is excited to show off his little beauty and he's welcome to do so... by attending by himself and bringing pictures.

My pediatrician has always recommended (and I'm sure yours would say the same)...
Do not leave the house (except for Dr appt) for the first 3-4 weeks.
No "large groups" or unfamiliar places until after 6 weeks
No "public places" until 6-8 weeks.

A barely two week old baby should (in my not so humble opinion) be at home with a resting mommy, NOT at a large family gathering.

omg...not at all. My husband has a large family too & they all wanted to visit which is understandable. I would let your fiance know that you aren't ready to introduce your baby girl to everyone's germs with her being so young so he can let them know. I am sure your doctor would advise against her being around so many people so young. Good luck & stand your ground. You are going to be the one caring for her when she gets sick so I say decision is yours.

Don't feel bad!! If you're not comfortable -- don't do it. They've waited this long to meet her... they can wait another few weeks!

If it makes it easier for you, tell your fiance the doctor said not to bring her ... no matter what the doctor actually says. ;-)

Oh my gosh, more than exposing your little one's immune system I would say heck no on the basis of you need to rest!! I would schedule something for a few weeks out, at least let your stitches dissolve lol!!

My babies were out and about the day after they were born.

My doctor never said what Krista P wrote. The only time I heard that was when the swine flu was in full force, that was the only time I was cautious cause I had had it the week before my last was born. Even though it had been a week and symptoms were gone I was still "quarantined" from the other patients.

Beyond that, unless they are nasty, filthy, cold infested people. There should be no reason you and hubby can't go out and show off your baby.

If you are still really concerned ask people to wash their hands first and to not get to close to the babies face.

You aren't being paranoid. I was nervous about bringing my son to other places when he was that young, too. My family waited for me to be comfortable. I think around the third week I took him to a family event. You are the mom.

If you don't feel comfortable, then don't go. You're still healing from the delivery so you can pull the, "recovering from birth" card for a while. You'll still be postpartum bleeding, leaking from your breasts, sore and in pain whether you delivered c-section or vaginally, and if you're breastfeeding she won't be able to leave you at all. I wasn't comfortable with visits with so many people at once that little.

Don't be afraid if people are offended. Most people will understand.

It was all I could do to make it to the doctors and the hospital for bilirubin tests right after our son was born.
No way was I ready to go anywhere.
I was leaking from places I never thought possible and getting breast feeding established and being a first time new Mom - I was just crazy trying to figure out what to do.
On top of that, your hormones are all over the place and will be for some time to come.
They can have their party - your fiance can bring baby pictures.
You need to relax and rest up as much as possible.

Congrats!!Not at all! When I had my second, it was on a Thursday and I came home sat afternoon. To my surprise we arrived with about 6 cars in front of my house. My butt was sore, I looked like death warmed over and I was exhausted not to mention a new born itty bitty id just been thru hell for! It was a welcome home bbq my husbands family took it upon themselves to throw. Umm no! I went in the house holding my baby and went directly to my room, shut the door and dared any body to enter! Come on! They all enjoyed their evening and I could of cared less! I didn't let anyone (especially the kids who all had snot noses) touch her until memorial day and she was born in march on spring break. You can never be too careful imo and I would tell my husband to have a good time! He would see us when he got home!

I took my baby boy out within a week. We went to a huge birthday party at a dance salon and there were about 200 people there. I danced, slowly, and showed off my boy to everyone.
He didn't get sick, he slept through most of it, people oohed and aahed at him, it was fine.
I don't really know why people don't take the babies out. I always took all of mine out within the first week, if I could.
L.
Mom of 3

stay home in bed with her for 2 weeks and give yourself the time to recover, snuggle and bond. there will be plenty of time to see the family later. as a mother ALWAYS listen to your gut and don't worry what people think. these moments are so magical. enjoy!!!

Never mind the baby... I wouldn't want to go to something like that for ME. Seriously. I didn't really leave the house (except for Dr. appts) for the first 2 weeks. Maybe a quick run into the grocery store (without the baby who was home with husband, and the store was 8 minutes away).

There is no way in heck I'd want to be subjected to sitting somewhere "unfriendly" to my personal comfort, and have to drag all my "personal care" items into somebody else's home/bathroom, especially when they also are hosting a big group of people.
Add to that, trying to get breastfeeding going? ummmm.
Big. Fat. NO.
Sorry.

If they give you any grief, I wouldn't blame it on the baby and germs, I would just say straight out: "I don't feel up to it."

No, you need your rest so you can take care of that beautiful baby. That would be way too overwhelming for me. You just had her and you need time alone with her to have some "mommy/baby bonding time."

I don't think it's advisable to expose this brand new llittle person to so many germs at this stage if you don't HAVE to. It's also not reasonable to ask you to schlep her to an obviously exhausting event.

In addition to the baby's fragility, don't forget that you are still recovering from a serious trauma to your body (the dellivery process). You need your rest, as well as some privacy. If this is your first, you are probably trying to figure out what your daughter needs and how to meet them. You don't need the added stress of having an audience as you try to maneuver.

Sure, some of these relative may be helpful or give you good advice, but let them come to you at prearranged times in small doses. Everyone will meet the baby eventually...Hopefully your fiance will respect your boundaries.

Take a zillion pics, make a video, post on the FB or send them e-mail, USPS, Fed-ex or as Krista said with him to the gathering, Newborns need time to get their defenses to germs built up BEFORE being introduced to such a party & you need to get your strength back as well.

Congrats on your new little one!

i actually think a baby that is not compromised but healthy will remain healthy if they meet people like in this situation.

But i would have been too tired to deal with them and would say no for that reason.

I Alsolutely would not let a newborn be in a room with a smoker or someone while heavy perfumes. I would put my foot down for that.

Actually with all four of my kids we were out and about within a week. I was thrilled to be able to share my babies with others. They were as excited as we were.y fourth was "show m tell" for her sister at two weeks. My kids were all healthy n fine thru it all

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Actually with all four of my kids we were out and about within a week. I was thrilled to be able to share my babies with others. They were as excited as we were.y fourth was "show m tell" for her sister at two weeks. My kids were all healthy n fine thru it all