Am I Being Paranoid?

Updated on April 21, 2010
J.B. asks from Marrero, LA
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My son will be three in a couple months but he has this little habit with his sleep that is bugging me. He likes to put the covers completely over his head. I went in to check him the other night and he had the covers all the way over his head so I pulled them down and he pulled them back up and said, "Good night". But he felt so hot under there! When I looked in him in the morning he had his comforter completely over his head, I took it off and it didn't disturb him. Should I be concerned about his breathing at this age? I mean if he was having trouble surely he would just throw the covers off. My husband says he did this as a child and my mom and sister did this as well. Me on the other hand always slept with my feet out of covers and could never have them over my head. I know I can't take covers away at this age,plus he loves his covers! Am I being way over the top paranoid or should I be concerned?

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So What Happened?

Well after thinking it over it all started when I got him a new nightlight which was much brighter than the one he had previously. I put a dimmer one in the room and when I went to check on him his head was not covered. I talked to him about it and he said his nightlight was too bright and that is why he was covering his head bc he didn't like the shadows it was making. So hopefully this will resolve the problem. Thanks ladies!

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K.C.

answers from Dallas on

Don't worry, it's fine. If he were having any trouble breathing or waaaay too hot, he'll unconsciencely pull the covers down and then pull them up again. :)

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D.N.

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My son has also slept like this since he was about 3 or 4. He even covers himself when it is hot at night in the summer. I don't know how he can stand it. He has never had any problems.

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L.B.

answers from Corpus Christi on

My son is now 28 and he did the same thing and yes it did bug me. He finally stopped on his own thank goodness.

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K.M.

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I did this as a kid. Every night my mom would come in and peel off the covers and find me drenched with sweat. I could also not handle a hand or foot sticking out, everthing had to be totally covered. I turned out OK (or at least everyone seems to tolerate me.)

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K.S.

answers from Minneapolis on

My sister slept like that. No idea why. She survived though. = )

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A.W.

answers from Savannah on

I've always pulled the covers up over my ears.... not entirely over my head but pretty close. My brother has always slept totally under the covers, face and all.

I don't think you have anything to worry about at his age. He is big enough to roll over on his own, sit up and move the covers by himself.

He will naturally wake up if his body gets too hot or if his breathing is compromised... his brain will do it automatically. Perhaps it would make you feel better to put a lighter blanket on his bed instead of a comforter? Perhaps two sheets and no heavy blanket on top, or a sheet and a lighter blanket thats a bit smaller than a regular one so that he may have an easier time coming out from under it if necessary in the night.

As for being paranoid... I don't think you are : ) ...I have gotten up in the night countless time to check on my boys.... especially when they were little. I'd even go in just to "make sure they were breathing" when they were babies because I was so worried at first. It will probably take several years for that to go away I guess.

Best of luck to ya!

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C.T.

answers from Detroit on

i think you may be alittle paranoid. it's that "is my baby alright all the time " thing that most mothers have. If he's anything like my 3 three year old if he was uncomfortable he wouldn't be doing and would let you know why. the fact that when you took them off and he pulled them back up and said goodnight is a little reassurance that he fine. lol but i understand where you are coming from. good luck!

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H.H.

answers from Hartford on

LOL I think I would worry too! but honestly all joking aside I do tend to agree w/ your hubbie he is old enough to move them if they are bothing him. but of course I dont know for sure, I dont think you are being paranoid at all we worry about everything as moms.

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B.C.

answers from Dallas on

I still sleep with covers over my head. lol! He's fine.

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S.D.

answers from Topeka on

I had to cover my face as a child I loved to sleep completly dark still do if your uncomfortable with it as i'am with my 3 kids I uncover them I won't wake them to do it I just do it

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W.M.

answers from Sherman on

when my grandson was about that age, he splept all covered up like that & he started to get headaches, we figured out he was getting them because he wasn't getting fresh air & we told him to just uncover his face & sleep with his face out & he quit having the headaches, he still sleeps that way & he is 26 years old. hope this helps

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E.B.

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Paranoid. There are plenty of things to worry about. This isn't one of them. Good luck.

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D.O.

answers from Houston on

My husband and grandbaby (2years) both do this. You are not paranoid but you shouldn't worry. They are good sleepers. My husband says he has always slept like this. He does not like his ears uncovered when he sleeps.

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J.T.

answers from College Station on

Yes, you are being paranoid. Relax. Mine all do this and have made it to 12,9,5

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P.L.

answers from Houston on

My eldest son did the same thing when he was around three. Yes, even in the middle of summer during naptime! He would sweat but refused to let go of his cover. He eventually outgrew it. Like you, I did not think it was natural but it gave him comfort. I ended up turning down the A/C during naptime and bedtime so that he would not be covered in sweat when he wakes up.

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V.B.

answers from Houston on

I am 29 yrs old and sleep with the covers over my head and have awaken sweating, sometimes can't breathe. You are not paranoid and should be concerned just give him a sheet to cover with. Now I use my arms to create a tent-like form because I am aware of the danger. It's silly but I get cold really easy and can't sleep without the air.

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S.D.

answers from Austin on

Well, I know everyone says it's fine, but it would bug me like it does you. How about giving him a knitted blanket - something with a loose weave that has holes in it and so is more breathable. He's probably fine as is, but that might help you sleep better.

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A.C.

answers from Houston on

My three year old does it too...she started a few months ago. It seemed like she really became cognizant about outside stimuli...not just disturbed by it, but knowing she could do something about it. If there was anything too light or noisy when she was sleeping...over the head the blanket goes.

You are being a little paranoid...but we all get worked up about something!

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R.

answers from San Antonio on

My 7 year old does this to this day and it makes me nuts! I go in after she is asleep and uncover her head. Sometimes she covers it back up. She always sweats like crazy, but other than that she is fine. Unless he has some sort of really wierd synthetic blanket, I don't think you need to worry about sufocation.

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J.B.

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He's fine! At his age, if he's uncomfortable or having breathing problems, he'll uncover his face.

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K.B.

answers from San Antonio on

You are a blessed mother and should count your blessings that you have a child who knows how to self soothe. At 3, your sweet boy has learned what he needs to allow his body to calm from the days activities and go to sleep. He is old enough that breathing should not be a concern at this time. Take a deep breath and thank God that you have this child!

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H.F.

answers from San Antonio on

Is he in daycare? I visited daycares in San Antonio the other day and saw one of the girls covering all of the toddler's heads w/blankets at naptime. Needless to say, I'm definitely not taking my child there and I did point it out to the director.

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R.T.

answers from Orlando on

I don't think you're paranoid. Would giving him a lighter blanket make you feel better?

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D.F.

answers from Austin on

Not paranoid! A friend of mine told me of a story where someone in her church's 3 yr. old daughter used to play under the covers. She got caught under there and suffocated. I let my son know this when he started doing it around 3 and he never did it again. Listen to your mama instincts!

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