I can honestly say I have been insecure this pregnancy but I dunno if maybe I'm just being a little too insecure now.
I have a boyfriend that dotes on me, loves that we're about to have a baby but he told me that his friend (we'll call him "G") has been using his picture to get women. Now I've never suspected him of doing anything and he didn't have to tell me but he did. It is something G would do but now I am suspecious. I give great advice to my friends and right not my mind is telling me it's bull but I dunno. I'm not dumb but right now I can't help but fell that way. I'm home all day I don't have friends and the people I know are all his friends. Am I letting something small get to me? What should I do?
Let me get everyone on board. G (my bf's friend) is using my bf's picture and sending it to women to get them to sleep with him. The thing is, i'm unsure if believe that's what's going on. I'm starting to wonder if maybe my bf is sleeping with some of these women too, since him and G work together.My mind all morning (he told me this last night) and I asked him, "So when what good is it doing for him when the girls will eventually meet up with him and find out he's not you?" He said he doesn't know but whatever he tells them works because G was suppose to meet a girl last nigt. I'm pregnant and I'm really insecure because of it (body changes and looks) and I'm wondering if I'm looking to deep into this.
Well I told him how I felt about the situation and asked would he believe me if I told him some bs story like that? He agreed that he wouldn't and he knows it sounds crazy but he just found out when he told me. He said he's not even thinking about another woman, all he does is work to make money for me and the baby. I wanted to believe him but i was still suspicious. So I did my own "investigating" when he was gone and found out that "G" was not only using my bf's picture but another guys picture that works with them too. So I deccided to talk ttp "G" myself. I asked him about the other guys picture first and he admitted to using my bf's pic as well and he said he does it to avoid any unwanted women but the ones he wants he tells everything to beffore they meet up. I was soooooo livid. I yelled at him for about 20 minutes letting him know how immature he was. Also letting him know he's not being a good friend because he's willing to put his friends relationships at risk for a one night stand. I wanted to punch him for making me stress about this when I'm 6 months along. I went online last night and both the accounts were removed. This morning i told my bf what happened and he said "he listened to you? Me and "m" (the other guy) told him to take it off when we found out. So did m's girlfriend." So I'm just glad to get it out of the way so I can enjoy these last few months. Thanks for the advice ladies.
He didn't have to tell you that. If he'd never have told you about his friend... You wouldn't have a clue. Don't look so deep into this. Men say what they mean. Women overthink EVERYTHING~!
be your own decoy and create a fake profile and see if he takes the bait and see what his responses are- you know if it's him talking or his friend - personally i would not believe him, what sense does this make what happens when the girls meet him assuming his friend wants actual sex not just cyber sex. Good luck
OK I've been thinking how I, personally, would react to this 'news'... i would tell him I 100% do not feel comfortable with his picture being used in that way. Like using his picture on a match.com site?? NO WAY Have him Reverse the situation : Honestly~How would he feel if "K" was using your Attractive Picture to get herself men off a website? Seriously this would piss me off! Preggers or Not! I DO LOVE the idea of having an acquaintance of yours going on to this 'site' and read it, start chatting with him, etc Find out for sure! ONLY if he says to you "No, I'm gonna let "G" use it, I feel bad he needs help in Ladies department". LOL but if you honestly tell him you you do not feel comfortable with this situation and he refuses to change it -Then I would second guess Marrying this man, father of my child or not. I'm sorry if I'm blunt This is Just what I would do IF I were in this situation. GL please let us know how you make out xoxo
So, either your bf's friend is sneaky, dishonest and disgusting, using your bf's picture to pick up women. Is your bf okay with that, if so, that's gross too!
Or, maybe your bf is picking up other women and told you it's really his friend, just in case you found out, so he's already secured an alibi.
I don't know, it's weird no matter which way I look at it.
Look at the profile, have a friend anonymously contact it and see who responds back, the friend or your boyfriend.
So your BF's "friend", G, is using your BF's picture to get women for himself? Just checking to see if I'm getting that straight!
That sounds harmless (from YOUR standpoint of 'security') but I think it reflects on this friend's character--sneaky, deceitful, malicious and underhanded are terms that spring to mind...
OR is the issue that you feel that your BF's friend,G, is covering for your BF by saying HE is using the picture when really it's your BF using the picture himself? That's a whole other story then sister!
ETA: After your clarification....don't these "women" notice that he is not the guy in the picture before they hop into the sack after seeing his picture? Who does that anyway? Anyone?
The way i see it is if he let's his friend do something like that then his friend will let him do something like that so either way it's bull. Communicate how you feel and ask him not to do that because it is immature and misleading.
What if you guys were out and about and he ran into one of these women? How would you feel and how would he handle that. Follow your first mind and flush the bull down the toilet. Congrads on the baby!
Are you saying that your boyfriend's friend is using your boyfriend's picture on facebook to get women? Sorry, I'm confused.
That is the most ridiculous story I've ever heard, well maybe not the most, but you are right it makes no sense, since once they meet this guy and realize he is not the guy in the picture, they would tell him to get lost...Sounds very juvenile and demeaning to you, and you know they all have had a big laugh about it when you are not around.. I would demand he stop playing this little game if you and your baby mean anything to him...Time to grow up..It really is that simple...Just from the story, I am guessing you are in your early 20's, don't worry, your body will bounce back in no time as long as you work at it, and even if it does take some time, keep at it because you will be a mom, but don't forget, you will always be a woman and be sure to own it...You deserve all from him, hope it all works out..
Now what do the 'women' do when they meet with G and find out he is not your BF???? Nobody is going to be that stupid to sleep with G anyhow-they would probably be pretty pissed that he showed them a picture of someone that wasn't him and probably scared as well. This doesn't add up-sorry. I think your BF is afraid that you will find out what he is doing and so he is saying G is the one doing it.
This friend sounds like he is about 14 years old. Tell him to stop using the picture and your boyfriend to stop allowing him to use the picture. He is about to become a father. Time that both these boys grow up. G needs to get a life!
And what if this guy is doing something illegal to this women (something where the women never really see his face), Like stealing there credit or some. Sounds far fetched but you never know. It's the picture of your boyfriend that they will take to the police. And maybe I watch too much TV.
I have to ask: Are the women "G" is sleeping with, BLIND? I mean, if I saw a picture of someone and met them in person and could clearly see that the person in the picture is NOT the person in front of me, I'd run in the opposite direction. Just a thought.
