Am I a Flake?

Is there someone else that could assist you with the party... may be have it somewhere else while you rest? I would start making the calls soon, you are running out of time.

With no fever you shouldn't be contagious. However, can you physically pull it off? If so, suck it up and do it. Also, can you pull in a friend/family member to help you do it? That would keep it easier on and a win win for everyone. I'd hate to see you cancel!

Best wishes!

No no no do NOT have the shower...your house is probably still hosting flu germs. Not to mention you're not going to be the most energetic hostess. I would MUCH rather get a call postponing today because you're sick and concerned about getting everyone else sick than go over there and end up with the flu. Not to mention your pregnant friend - pretty sure she doesn't want the flu! I don't think you're being a flake at at; on the contrary I think you're being conscientious about everyone else. You can have the shower another weekend. I'd call everyone now!

I would find somewhere else to have the party - ANYWHERE but your house with germs...and I mean that in the most loving way. No one wants the flu...so I would not go and certainly not want a pregnant mom around the germs. Not your fault for having it, but I'd find somewhere else for sure.

I had the flu, and I was down for the count for almost a week and I am a pretty tough cookie. There was no way I could host a party. I also would not want to come to a party if the host had the flu. You say it is impossible to reschedule is that because of the food or just timing. If you can't reschedule, and they need to use your home, then maybe someone else can host and you can stay up in your bed. It isn't about sucking it up at this point the flu is not a joke so I am sure the attendees would appreciate your alerting them and canceling. I wouldn't want the flu again, and I am sure people with young kids to care for wouldn't either. I say cancel it, it is the right thing to do.

You are not a flake, you are thoughtful. I would not want to be exposed to the flu or anything else. You made the BEST choice.

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Personally I would not enter a home where the flu was going around (our family had a nasty bug after Thanksgiving that wiped out about a month by the time it went through everyone in our family). Your friends would probably appreciate a "heads up."

Maybe you and the other attendees can come up with a creative solution?

Good luck.

Glad to hear you worked it out! Trust me, no one is going to be upset. I would rather have a change in venue then chance catching the flu!!

If you have a fever, then do not have the shower. If you don't and can make it through, then try. If you can't, then you should already be trying to make other arrangements to have it somewhere else. It would not be good to cancel it.

If I knew you had the flu I would not go! No offense! LOL

If I had been an invited guest I would be thrilled that you either canceled the event, or moved it to a nearby location (i.e. church hall etc). You're not being a flake. You're thinking of the guests as well as you're own health. Give yourself a break. You're 8 months pregnant! That on it's own shows how kind you are, by throwing a shower when you're so near your own due date. Rest and feel better. S.

I have it too and I hope that other arrangements were made.
If you canelled the shower for your flu everyone should understand. Better safe than sorry, and I hope the party went well even though you couldn't attend.
And I do hope you feel better soon. I had the flu at almost delivery time and we didn't know whether it was the baby or what.
Take care.

Heck, I'd call everyone, tell them what's going on, and see if you can brainstorm a location close to where you live. There may be a restuarant with a party room that would LOVE to have everyone, a friend who wouldn't mind, Bowling alley, who knows. Good luck!

Can anyone who's coming host this? If not, I'd just take some meds and do it at this point. Get whatever help you can. Why in the world did you plan this in your home so late in your pregnancy? Were you nuts? Just kidding, but your obligation to her takes priority at this point, I'd say.

Hi Carri,
I think it's only fair of you to let everyone know you have the flu. I would be quite upset if I came to your house and then found out you were ill. Yes, call your friend and explain it to her. I am sure she'd appreciate knowing what's up ESPECIALLY since she is pregnant.

You didn't say why rescheduling would be nearly impossible. Is it because everyone would not be able to attend? I still know these guests would rather just drop off their gifts at a later time than show up at a house today full of flu germs. Or is rescheduling impossible for you? If that's the reason, and money isn't tight, have the shower at a restaurant soon and still pay for it, but have another friend assist at the restaurant.

Some people wait to have showers until after the baby is born. I would rather have my friend do this for me rather than have a sick friend with the flu near me today. Just my 2 cents, though. I hope you're feeling better soon. Take it easy- the flu is just so hard on the body.

If i knew you was sick and pregnant i would not come. the friend should understand. I would try to cancel it and also its not your fault you got sick use bleach and water it kills everything.

From me (the guest) to you: If you have the flu, I don't want to come to your party. I'm sorry, and I'm sure I still love you, but I have a family to think about, and we don't want your germs or viruses to come to our house.

Actually, I would try to help you come up with some sort of substitute later, even though there would be rescheduling problems.

I would definitely not want to be inside your home. Plus you don't feel up to it. I'm sure you can reschedule. Life happens. Don't make yourself more sick.

I'd totally reschedule it asap. Have someone else do the calling even. GET WELL!

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