No more playdates. You are busy, busy, busy.
I flat out decided one girl was not worth the trouble.
She was the one who acted like this and made up drama. My d won the school bowling contest. The girl cried so much a group of girls yelled at my d that she should have let her win. My d didn't even know she won until they were yelling at her. ARGGHHH
I thought it through. If the other girl is overreacting, we are not responsible for her and trying to make her feel ok again. It is hard to explain to adults and harder to kids.
I talked to the girl's M. at the bowling alley about her crying and let her know that my child is not competititve, did not realize she won, and that she is confused as to why her child is mad at her. I told her I explained to my d she did nothing wrong. The M. understood that her child was being ridiculous and the girl stopped crying.
We had no playdates for several months and the girls begged for one. They had a few good ones, then the g started acting up again and I was done.
Talking to the M. did not help. It made the girl be more sneaky.
Stopping the playdates and changing our schedule to keep away from this girl helped. My d hasn't asked for a playdate in 3 months.