N.B.
Absolutely! Stop stressing , and make it his job to handle. You cannot control this, you already get that, so let it be 100% his responsibility. Sit down and explain that as of this day, you and daddy aren't going to say or do anything more about his poopies. He's a big boy now, so he can poop whenever and wherever he wants, and you won't say a thing, ever. BUT, he has to take off his own poopy pants, wash his own butt, wash his underwear, put the poopy ones wherever, and put on clean pants or pullups all by himself. That, or poop in the potty. It won't take long for him to decide that he's wasting WAY too much time pooping in his pants.