Almost 3 and Still Not Potty Trained!! HELP!!!!

I agree with Kelly Emily. Keep the experience positive. They will go when they are ready. My son just celebrated his 3rd Birthday in January. He started going to the potty in November 08 but started daycare. I wouldn't even have to ask him but when he started daycare he stopped going on his own and I saw why. They forced them to go even when he didn't need to go. He's not in daycare anymore and he's fully potty trained, even at night.
I allowed him to wet in his pants and told him that we all have accidents and that it was ok. But when he was wearing favorite underwear and had to change out of them, he didn't like it. I bought him cute little spiderman undies and tighty whities too! When he had an accident he had to put on tighty whities, which he didn't like so he did his best to stay dry. We also went to do the potty dance which can be found on www.dothepottydance.com When he started going on his own, I awarded him with a ribbon that I bought from the dollar tree. Rewards always work!

You're doing fine - relax (easier said than done, I'm sure). They do it when they're ready. I'd be worried if she were uncomfortable or in pain, but it just sounds like she's 3. I think the people that say their kids are "potty trained" by 18 months, have really trained THEMSELVES to potty the kids. It'll all work out. Just keep modeling potty behavior - I think that helps them a lot as well.

Personally, I'd let it go for a couple weeks. Seems like a power struggle, and she's "enjoying" the way it makes you squirm and stress out. As a 2 year old, you basically have control over everything she does, and this is probably the only thing she sees she can control and she likes that control. That's the way my sons were. I finally threw my hands and said forget it and completely dropped it. That's what finally got my oldest to go potty. I gave up and left the ball in his court. Because of all the stress with #1, I never made an issue out of it with my second child. I think it was denial about having to go through that stress again. A month after my youngest turned 3, he said I need to go potty. And from that moment on, he never peed in his pull up / underwear / diaper, even at night time. He literally decided that afternoon and went from soaking pull ups to the point of them exploding to staying dry all day and night. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't made it such an issue with my first and maybe things would have gone sooner.

she isn't ready. leave her alone until she is. my boys were both over 4 before they were completely trained. try again in a few months, but lay off for now.

Relax! My daughter turned three and just is potty trained for the past two weeks...no accidents!!! Keep the experience positive, 'change' her in the bathroom. I bought plain diapers instead of fun character ones and keep her in them until she is dry for two weeks....see www.askdrsears.com for more tips...great site for helping me know when she was ready. I changed her in the bathroom (standing up---that's when you know you have changed too many diapers--except for BM) and have her try every time. We went potty at each transition in the day, before leaving, nap, after nap, before lunch, etc. My daughter was the same way as yours...loved to potty but would never go on her own. Two weeks ago, she says "Mommy, I go pee and poopoo in the potty...not in my panties any more." Seriously she has done amazingly. I think they have to decided and if we care more than they do, they see a button they can push. As soon as I relaxed and made it no big deal...she made a 180!!!

Good luck and I hope you find the website as helpful as I did.

Frankly, I only know a small handful of people whose children were "potty trained" by 3 yrs -- my son was one of them. Some, and your daughter sounds like one of them, are just not ready. It has nothing to do with her intelligence or your parenting skills. Give yourself a break for a while and don't give yourself a deadline. She will potty learn. She will. Nobody goes to school in pull ups or diapers. She has to make up her own mind about this and it sounds like she's still not interested. That's ok. She will come around.

Don't ask her if she needs to go, just say, it's time to sit on the ptty and go. Take her every 30 minutes to an hour. If you take her to try often enough, she would be having the accidents in all of those places. You can expect her to tell you and decide to stop playing, just say, okay let's take a potty break. To make her feel like she isn't missing out on anything, you sit on the potty and pretend to try too!

I'm not sure it will make you feel any better, but my daughter was the same way. We tried everything we could think of to no avail. Finally, the day after she turned 3, she decided she was ready to only go in the potty. She never looked back. I realize this isn't much advice, but I wanted to let you know that you're not the only one experiencing this. It will happen one day, I promise!

Ditto - just let it go for a couple of weeks and then try again. I have twins who just turned 3. I tried it ALL and then just gave up. Then one of my girls started telling me and once she decided to go in the potty, it was easy and very little work on my part. The other twin is still not ready, but I think is starting to be interested in it.

I know it is easier said than done to relax about it, esp. when you feel all this pressure from other moms and stuff. Hang in there! :)