After 5 Months Son Won't Number 2 in the Toilet!! HELP!!

Updated on May 06, 2009
M.K. asks from Lombard, IL
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My son is now almost 3 1/2 and we have been potty training since December. He does great with the peeing. He wakes up from his nap and in the morning dry. He wears pull ups only at nap and bedtime and that is when he poops. On the occasion that he doesn't nap he will have a accident in his undies and he very upset.

We have tried everything I can think of. We are very patient and never yell at him. We have explained pooping in the potty. My father in law has offered to take him on a toy shopping spree at toys r us. When we pass the store he even says when I poop in the potty grandpa is going to take me there to shop!
I have told him he can read or play his hand held game while he poops. He just refuses.

He says he just doesn't want to. I am so done going into his room after a nap and needing a gas mask! I have also tried to explain that pullups cannot hold the amount of poop that a big boy has.

I just don't know what to do. I know sometimes boys just take a little longer, but how long is too long? I am ready to pull my hair out!

Any suggestions would be great.
Thanks in advance!

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C.P.

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We had the exact same problem with our son. He would pee like a champ on the potty all the time, but would only poop in a pullup. After talking to every M. I know, we finally just took away the pull ups all together. He didn't poop at all for a day or so, and then he went into the bathroom all by himself and pooped on the potty. And he's been doing so ever since.
Now the down side to this is that he wakes up in bed in the mornings wet (sometimes even at nap time) but he's getting better and better at staying dry all night. We definitely don't want to take a step backward and put him back in pull ups. We've been pull-up free for about 6 weeks, so it's a process. But we just told him that they no longer made pull ups in his size and that we didn't have any more. He found a few swimmy diapers the first couple of days and pooped in those and then, like I said, he just went into the bathroom on his own and did it.
Good luck!

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E.P.

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He's going to go when he is good and ready and not a moment sooner! Keep doing what you are doing. Keep being patient. My daughter successfully graduated from potty training at 2 years - 6 months; my son was 3 years 7 months. Just keep this experience as positive as you can. He'll come along!

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M.S.

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After reading your explanation, it sounds like your son understands a lot and at this point he's just seeing how far he can go. Sound about right? When we potty-trained our son at 3.5 yrs (now 4) we didn't 'transition' him from diaper to pull-up because he's just that kind of kid. Example: when switching from bottle, we went straight to the cup (except for water in the sippy). Only you know your child for sure but I'm guessing that if you just take the pull-up away completely, he'll pick up pooping in the potty very quickly. Keep up the great work and Good Luck!

-M.

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C.

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I think potty training was the most frustrating challenge I had as a M. so far. My son was not potty trained until after he turned four. We had trouble with pooping in the potty also. The problem with potty training is you have to have your child's cooperation. Sometimes it is hard to find what motivates them. Some kids respond to being called a "big kid" others respond to toys or treats. What finally worked with my son was that I bought him a couple of small toys that I knew he wanted. I placed them on top of the refrigerator and told him he would get to pick a toy when he pooped on the potty. Keep trying different things. You will eventually find what motivates your son and then you will be amazed at how easy it goes from there.

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