Advise About Child Behavior

Hi K.,
I kind of know what you are going trough. To be honest, I was in your daughter’s shoes once. In the first grade I got all A’s but as the second grade came around I realized that there were kids in the class that didn’t get good grades and they still passed. My mom was frustrated, there was nothing she could do to make me motivated to study. I would even tell her that I’m studying but I would be in my room playing. The way she made me wake up was really simple, she showed me in the long run what would happen to me if I didn’t do my work. She called the school and told them I will miss one day of classes. Then she took me to her work, she was a book keeper for a high school. Once there she introduced me to teachers and office workers, and I got to see all they do. I thought the teachers had the most fun. But the day was not over for me. She also told me to ask each one of them what grades they got in school… and of course they all had good grades. Then she introduced me to the genitor lady and I had to help her clean the bathrooms in the school. I didn’t like that experience, but as I asked her what grades she got she told me she didn’t do bad in school, she did pass her classes, and she almost never did her HW. Little to say, I panicked, in less then a month I improved my behavior towards HW and importance of school. Maybe you should try the same thing, make her realize that school is important for the long run in her life.
Good luck,
A. R.

I feel for for you, I have a 5 yo in 1st grade and I go through the same problem until threaten no saturday morning cartoons. that helps a bit when I promised to take away something he cherish.

HI I find playing a game of sorts with your child. Every time I need my daughter to learn something I make it a game. Like at dinner you can take pieces of corn and ask her to tell you how many she's eaten...first you let her eat two then ask her to eat 2 more. After you ask her how many has she eaten in total. You can also do it with there favorite little toys. assing and taking away as you go along. I do hope I've helped. Happy Holidays!

Hi K.,
My son currently attends Kindergarten, and thankfully, LOVES school and doing his homework and school work. I can only imagine how hard it is for you. My suggestion to you is, stop w/the bribes. Kids love to push buttons and get a rise out of mommy and daddy. When it's time for homework, just tell her ok, let's sit and do homework w/out any threats or promises. When she refuses, just simply walk away and tell her when she's ready to do her homework, to call you back in the room but she is not to get up from the table or where ever it is you are doing the homework until it is finished and just go about your business. Explaining to her how important school work is and that it be done and that all the other children are doing it etc, might help too. Tell her how proud her teacher will be to see how well she did her work. Things like that. I wish you luck but just like many others, it's probably just a phase she's going through. Myson goes through many phases and they are all very temporary. Good luck!!!!! J.

Hi K., maybe your daughter needs a little fun at homework time. If I may, try different approaches to homework. After a long and exhausting day in school, they need to unwind. A snack, a bath, or just talking about her day may help her relax enough to do her homework. Try to make it interesting, math is a headache for most--I know that I had my problems with math. Try using different objects for counting. Any number of things can be used, such as toys, pennies, dolls, etc. maybe that would make it fun for her. Good luck! N.