Advice or Suggestions on How to Handle

Updated on November 29, 2006
J.W. asks from Milford, DE
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I am at my witts end. I have two boys, ages 8 and 9. I love them to bits by I find I have no time to myself. I am around them all the time. If I am not at work then I am at home with them. Even on the weekends. They are both bipolar and their highs do not coincide with each other. They are constantly vieing for my attention and I feel that I am at the breaking point. If someone has been here please give some advice.. any and all would be greatly appreciated.

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I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and suggestions. I wish that I could say I am getting help but with the two boys and all that they have put me through at my job I just can not get the time off to do it. I have to save as much time as I can for when that phone call comes to go get one of them for un-necessary physical actions. I will keep my chin up and hope that the little light at the end of the tunnel keeps getting brighter. Thank you all again for your thoughts, suggestions and prayers.

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L.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Hi J.,

I know bipolar children are hard to handle, but let me say that I have worked in social services with many diagnoses and this is the first time that I have heard of such a young diagnosis of bipolar disorder. As far as the previous mother stating to ask for meds, that is a slippery slope that you may want to be weary of.

My first suggestion is to confirm diagnosis. Symptoms of bipolar mimic other disorders, and other things as simple as food allergies, or belive it or not enlarged andnoids (glands next to the tonsils). This causes children to snore, and sometimes apnea which wakes them through the night so they never get a good night sleep. If you listen to your kids sleep and they snore, you might want to visit an ent, and an allergist or asthma specialist to find out why they are snoring. Snoring is not normal for anyone, belive it or not.

As far as needing time to yourself, yes you do. With their current diagnosis, you may be able to get respite care. Many states offer respite care for children who have extreme needs/diagnoses.

Good luck.

L.

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A.F.

answers from Washington DC on

find activities to put them in and ask your doctor about meds to help with the moods i was put on paxil and zoloft and i know three others 2 of them are now off the market. We also learned that the doctor should have sent me to a theropist they got the right meds and my moods stabled out and i grew out the problems i still need adivan once in a while maybe 2 times a year. I dont need the meds anymore either but it took me and my theropist close to 10- yrs to get it to that. i hope that this helps. and the theropist had a fit about all my meds some have really bad sideeffects.

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J.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Please do not give up. Make sure you have a place to ground yourself whatever it takes. Therapy will help and you can get free therapy through different - good - places:
Family Resources
Whale's Tale
etc. don't wait you need a break
I hope its okay that I put you on our prayer list.

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