I am having with trouble potty training my 3 year old daughter. She does great during the week with me and at daycare. I find that there is a lapse in the process when she goes to her fathers house for the weekend. when she comes back to me it is like starting all over again. She doesn't say when she has to go and though I make her sit on the toilet every hour, she refuses to go. By the time I have her back on track with going to the bathroom and telling me when she has to go, it is time to go to her daddy's house. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
I want to just say thanks for the advice from everyone. I have taken a little of what everyone has said and put it to use. It is still a work in progress though. She has however found out that she doesn't like going to the bathroom on herself when she has panties on. I will have to see how everything goes after this week-end though, she goes to her daddy's house this week-end. Though I have tried talking to himin the past about this issue as well as many others, his response has always been "I only have her every other weekend so she can do what she wants." I will try to talk to him again. I thank everyone though.
Her dad is not working with you on this maybe try to talk to him about it and make him understand she's 3 and has to have this under control before she starts school which is not far away. Good luck I know this can be very frustrating but hang in there. W. F.
Sorry to say, but you will have this problem (going to dad's and having to "train" all over again when she returns) for years to come... not speaking of the potty training only. My daughter is 6 and every time she comes home from her dad's we have to remind her what our rules are. It usually takes her about 2 days to adjust back to our norm. It's just a part of life and you will have to adjust to it as well. You can't change what goes on at dad's, so don't try (it will only cause conflicts!!!). We also have the same problem with my step kids, when they come for visitation we have to remind them of our house rules. I know she is only 3, but try talking to her before she goes to dad's. And remind her of what is expected as soon as she returns. Structure is so important for kids... make sure you establish it at your house.
Also, I agree with the lady who mentioned the panties. We had the same problem with my daughter (only at night time). As soon as I started puting her in bed with panties she stopped having accidents.
Awww...the potty training thing. My daughter actually potty trained pretty much on her own. I bought a potty chair and put it in that part of the house that she was in the most (living room) and put her in panties that she could get up and down the easiest and she did the rest. All kids are different and will do it their own way at their own time. As far as having trouble with her going at her dad's house, maybe he isn't paying enough attention to her to know that she needs to go or maybe because it is just messing up her routine. Just be patient and don't be negative with her. In twenty years, is it really gonna matter that she wasn't potty trained until she was 4 or 5? Good luck!!
Mine does the same thing; just a part of it I guess, although I did quit asking dad to buy a potty chair and just let him have hers from home and bought another one.
Is she in pull ups or panties? Mine was fully trained before 2 1/2 and we just went to panties to train her and she got the point pretty quickly. If she is in Pull ups try putting her in panties and it may sound mean but don't send her with any pull ups to his house. Maybe after he has to change a few pairs of nasty panties then he will change his mind. Or he can just go and buy the pull ups to keep at his house himself.
I had trouble with my three year old as well. I tried not to push her into it. It also sounds like her dad isn't working with her. If at all possible try to tell him he needs to work with her.
I am sure that you have already done this but you are going to have to talk to your ex about the potty training schedule. You will have to be calm and non confrontational about it. You may want to remind him when he comes and picks her up about the schedule or routine that you have. Perhaps this will help him to remember to stay on track. Men for the most part do not think about things like potty training. You may even want to make a joke about how you can't wait until the day when you both don't have to change diapers anymore. This may help LOL :).
mine used to mess up all my work too-best advice-don't send her-just kidding.....Men need EXACT EXACT instructions-he HAS TO FOLLOW YOUR DIRECTIONS or he can't play ball
