Just last week I bought the book "Toilet Training in Less than a Day" after someone on here recommended it to another mom. My son is 2 1/2. I am not going to really start until January, because this month is just too crazy to expect him to potty train, and to find the time to let him. I have only read part of the book so far, but am very impressed, and actually have done a few of the things it says (though not in order and trying hard), he has been in underwear since 9:30 this morning, and just had his first accident. The book recommends teaching them to do everything on their own, including cleaning up the messes. They even empty the potty chair after they go. They just get up and go in the bathroom when they need to, instead of relying on mom to remind them. My son has been doing great all day. He takes off his underwear, sits down and goes, and puts the underwear back on by himself. When I try to follow him in... I am told don't come with. He gets a reward every time. I check him every few minutes, and if he is dry, he gets an M & M. If he goes potty in the potty chair, he gets 3. The main thing this book recommends is getting a doll that can go potty, and have them help you teach the doll to go potty, before you start expecting them to. Check the doll every couple minutes, and if it is still dry, they get a reward. This bood was tested on many kids, and they were all successful except for 2, and both of their fathers were against starting them on potty training. The successful kids were potty trained in 30 minutes to 2 days, with rare accidents after. I know it will work for my son, just from how I know him, and the little bit that I have started so far (without the doll.. bought it on ebay and it will be here soon) is making him really excited and want to go potty. Good luck with your daughter! She will do it, you just have to make her feel proud of her accomplishments when she does, so that she will want to do it again.