J.N.
Hi J.,
I have Irish Twins too! My boys are 11 months and 2 weeks apart and fight like cats and dogs half the time and LOVE eachother the other half. What I did was carry both of them around because I felt so bad for my oldest that he didn't get all my time. My younger one was too little to be jealous and he was given just as much attention. I would recommend that to you also..........treat your daughter like the baby she is........at least until she's 18 months old and your son is crawling.....They are going to be A LOT like twins their whole life..trust me....they are going to have this rivalry but also a bond and it's important for you to coddle and pamper and love the older one especially right after the new baby is born. She needs to feel that secureness that she's not being replaced. She will then, eventually become independent.
Put it this way.......she is gonna still be a baby when your son is born and you would have still babied her....so, that shouldn't change just because a new one is coming.
A little about me..I have 4 children ages 16, (girl) and 3 boys ages 14,10 & 10. (my older 10 year old will turn 11 on January 3rd)
Best of Luck!
J. N