Advice on How to Handle Daycare Teachers Questions.

I honestly would appreciate that the teacher is being honest. I think she is trying to solve the issue so your son can be more comfortable, obviously is in everyone's interest that your son is happy at school.
I had a teacher once tell me that my daughter was climbing on the furniture and that she got in time out for it because it was dangerous. she told me to reinforce the discipline at home and to please watch if she climbed at home too.
I talked to my daughter (she was 3.5 at the time) and explained to her how dangerous was to climb on chairs etc.
She never climbed on furniture again at school or at home, and I was grateful that her teacher was concerned for her safety.
If your son's teacher's didn't use a bad tone or sarcasm to address the problem then I wouldn't take her comment badly.
I hope this helps! Good luck!

Hi S.,
Well, a couple of things come to mind.....my 2 year old is much more tired when she has played with peers verses staying home with me. The environments are so different. He may need a rest at 9am...maybe she can lay him down and see what he does...he very well may just lay there for ten minutes and then be ready to go again. Right now my 12 month old is trying to wean to one nap---I think it is early---but she is not taking her second one so we are going with it. She also starts acting like she is tired at her old nap time, so I have started intervening beforehand to control the meltdown...I give her a small snack (before the melt down) and we change areas of the house (or could be activities) more frequent. It is working and she is happier. Brainstorm things the teacher can do at that time that may help...the child's favorite toy, a drink, a small snack, whatever to change his pattern of behavior. The distraction will be phased out once he gets out of the rut he is in.

Meet the child where he is--make sure adult agendas are not being forced on your lil' guys--I have to remind myself of this often...it helps me keep the right perspective.

Hang in there.....
K.

My kids do that, and they're 2 y.o. and 4 y.o. It's just that they are so excited about new happenings, new people, any number of things. They'll be tired but refuse to stop playing just because they don't want to miss anything. Also, if your son is teething that might make the problem worse. My son always seemed to have a certain time of the day when his teeth would bother him, which is why it took me so long to figure out he was teething.

Ok, as a provider, my insight might be a little diffrent then as a mom.

As a provider we know that parents are more likely to give in to what the child wants over a schedule that the teacher wants. That is why we ask. Plus we want to make the child as happy as possible, and if he is having his nap on the weekends, we can make our morning activitys less active so he will not tire out as fast and leave that stuff for when he is well rested in the afternoon.
As a mom, I would say that you need to just tell her what you do on the weekends. If he dosn't have the "melt down" for you, maybe it's becuse he is not as stimulated in the morning as he is with his provider. Kids are different with their providers then they are with parents!

When he was in the baby room did they let them nap in the morinin time..Cause if so she should be askin the other teachers about wat he did in there room first an the routine he was on. All so find out wat their doin at 9..It could be that he just doesn't want to do the activity. Not that he is tired..An if in the baby room he was gettin one on one time at 9..Then thats wat he is lookin for. It is hard for the lil ones to go room the baby room .To a class where they are tryin to get them to do so much more. Also if at 9 they are jus doin somthing quiet like lookin in books that could also make him tired. Find out Wat they are doin at that time..An compare it to wat he did in the other class. An bein that he has only been in the room for 2 months he is still gettin use to the routine..An his teacher should know that. An should not be comparin him to another child who came into the class an jump right into the swing of things. If anything just show up at the center at 9 an see for ur self. Why ur lil man is havin a hard time at 9. Without lettin her know ur comin. NOT sayin it's somthing she is doing..But it is always best to be that fly on the wall in it comes to checkin on ur child. An she should also know that a parent does not have to stick to the daycares routine when they are home with their kids..Granted it would help ur child at school but sometimes it can be a lil hard too. An thats comin from a parent of a 9,4,2 also a childcare teacher..

Hi S.,

I'd maybe ask the teacher if they have recognized a pattern of something they may be doing or where they may or may not going? (do they change classrooms at all or go outside that early or at all?)

If there is something he isn't crazy about doing he may fuss b/c he doesn't want to do it. Or, maybe it's a start of diaper changing time and the class schedule changes. It could be a lot of things... he's hungry maybe? Is snack time close to 9am? I'm sure they check his diaper...right every 2 hrs or so?

I'd just talk to them and keep working on things until you figure it out. There could be a reason and then again, maybe there isn't. Children have amazing time clocks inside of them. : ) Something may be triggering his times of upset.

Just some thoughts, just ask the teachers to help you with more details. The more they observe, the more they can cross things off their list of maybes. Hope some of this helps! Good luck, you all working as a team will help the situation.

He'll settle and get settled, it's hard for little ones to have a change of setting, especially change of classroom. It's a whole new routine for him to learn and sometimes that is uncomfortable for them. You can expect a transition time, that's normal, especially if the school didn't allow him the opportunity to gradually get use to the class for small amounts of time and then increase it over a week or two. Food for thought.

: )
J.

Hi S.,
I am a childcare provider and the 2 kids I have around that age still take a 1 hour nap at 9:00am and a 2 hr nap in the afternoon. Every child is different maybe he isn't quite ready to give up the morning nap yet. Does he sleep in later on the weekends than he does during the week since you don't have to get him up during the week? That could be the issue. If your getting him up earlier during the week to go to work then things would be different and he probably still needs that morning nap.
Lonie

Just a thought ... could he still need that morning nap at his daycare? Perhaps the activity there tires him out and he needs a break. Could he visit his previous class for a nap? Or, perhaps he could rest and have the provider read to him? Maybe he would enjoy listening to a story with headphones. I am sure that if you and the provider are creative you could accommodate your son's needs without causing too much disruption at the daycare. At this time, he seems to be telling everyone that whatever is going on at 9:00, is not working for his personal clock.

Good luck!