I had the same problem with my son when I went back to work. I struggled for about 2 weeks prior, trying to get him to take a bottle with no success. I remember telling my mom the first morning she had him, "Good luck, it's probably going to be a long day." When I got home, she just laughed and said he did just fine. I don't know what the trick was, but she managed to get him adjusted to a bottle, and now, at 8 months, he still nurses, but will take a bottle (even from me) just fine. If you haven't tried it already, be sure you are out of the room (or house) when your husband (or anyone other than you) tries to feed with the bottle. Maybe it was the change of routine that got my son to take it. And do not give up - eventually your daughter will take the bottle, it will just take time. Good luck - I know how frustrating it can be.
C.