Congratulations on your two precious children! We are the parents of 10 children, 7 of whom are adopted. Their circumstances are all very different, but we have shared information over the years about their adoptions, birth parents, cultures, etc, as they have asked. Telling children about their adoption is sort of like teaching them about sex....you just give them the information they need or are ready to hear. Our oldest adopted child was 3 months old when she came to us, and she is 22 and married now. She will never know her birth parents, as she was a foundling in Calcutta, India. However, a few years ago, she and I went to Calcutta and walked the streets and lived the culture for a couple of weeks, and let her absorb some of her heritage. It was immensely helpful to her. She is a well adjusted and wonderful young lady, served as a missionary in Nairobi, Kenya, and is now studying to be a nurse practitioner. Our son is nearly 22, came to us at 5 weeks, and met his birth mother at 18. It was not a good reunion, and they have a tenuous relationship. He is close to us, and is a great kid. The last four children we adopted are siblings, like yours. There are twins 8 years old, their brother 9, and sister 17. They came to us when the twins were born. We know their birth parents, but choose not to have a relationship with their mother. Our daughter's father is dead. The boys' father lives nearby. Right now, they visit him frequently, but they do not know that he is their father. They know that he is our friend. He does not have a home, and has just started a successful road to recovery from addiction. We supervise visits and that seems to work well. We like him very much, and look forward to being able to assist him in putting his life back together. Someday, probably soon, we will tell the boys that he is their father, but not now. He agrees. There are many, many books about adoption. We read many of them to our children, but the best thing is to just talk and to let them meet other children who are adopted, and for you and your husband to join groups of other adoptive parents. These are available everywhere. Look in the Team Talk magazine put out by Orange County Social Services, or call the office at ###-###-####. They will steer you in the right direction. Send me a message, and we can arrange to meet, also. I would love to meet you and your family. We are new here, recently moved from NY. Our children were born in Orange County. Good luck.. Marti