M.G.
I want you to know that there is reason to work with the Doctors on your child's needs for ADHD and that it is most definately "worth it". The medications are not an exact science as each body is different and what they need to find balance is different. Real ADHD is caused by chemical imbalances and a medication is usually required to create the necessary balance. I have 2 children who were both ADHD, learning disabled, and gifted. This diagnosis was 25 years ago. My son was about 4 and my daughter was around 2 1/2. I tried everything they suggested back then (limit sugar, limit wheat, etc, etc, etc). My son was not a talker but he did not stop moving and did not sleep until he was totally exhausted. My daughter just could not focus and was always distracted. I worked full-time plus and was beyond exhausted dealing with both children, a job, overtime, and a military spouse. We were in Germany so I had no family support. I finally gave in and let them put my son on the ADHD drug of that time frame (Ritlin) when he was in pre-kindergarten. People at my office told me I was insane letting them drug my son but we both needed help. He drove everyone around him crazy and I was afraid I might lose it. We were lucky and the Doctor hit the correct amount of the Ritlin immediately. The drugs took the edge off my son and he learned how to cope with his ADHD. After fifth grade we were able to take him off the drug. When my daughter was in second grade we finally placed her on Ritlin as she could not concentrate or focus in class. Again, we were lucky and the Doctor hit the correct amount of the Ritlin immediately. Her grades came up almost immediately. She was only on the drugs a short time and learned to cope with the ADHD. I was told early by Doctors, Psychologists, etc., not to expect much from my kids-I would be lucky if they graduated High School. But I will have you know that they both graduated from High School and College with Honors. I never let them use ADHD or their disabilities to fail. I did ensure their teachers understood my children's diagnosis and that I did not expect their teachers to treat them differently or expect less of them because of their differences. My son is now in his late 20's and still has issues with ADHD, however, he refuses to use medication and is trying all the non-medication related gimicks for himself. My daughter has not had issues with ADHD until recently. She recently had a baby and it appears to have upset her balance. She currently has issues focusing but is not ready to speak to a Doctor about the problems yet. Keep the faith but also know that a lot of children diagnosed as having ADHD are really not ADHD. They might be pampered or undisciplined, getting too much sugar/simple carbs, or having a reaction to another food. If the Doctor cannot find a balance you might want to think about what your son is eating. Does he drink a lot of soda (diet or regular)? Does he get too much candy? Take note of all the juices and foods that contain high fructose corn syrup (sugar). It is the second ingredient in things you would never even think it was in. Does any particular food, drink, event, etc., increase his activity level? Try limiting things that appear to affect him. Ask a dozen different people about this issue and you will have a dozen different answers or suggestions. Get a second opinion if you are uncomfortable with your current Doctor. Find a Doctor who has studied ADHD. Ask them, they will normally tell you if they have done research on ADHD. You might even consult a Child Psychologist/Psychiatrist if possible. Use your intelligence and your Doctor's advice to determine what will best serve your child. Drugs may be the answer (I know we do not like to hear that but...). Do not give up and most of all PRAY!