A Question About My 3 Year Old

Hi L. what i would do if he pops up in your bed re direct him back into his bed that he is a big boy and needs to sleep in his own big boy bed that he dont need to sleep with momma is all probably just a phase but you cannot let him there cause he will think that he can just sleep with you just keep redirecting him maybe put a night light in his room or something if its contiuous just do a sticker chart with him is all ....does he say hes scared or anything i would try a night light too it helps both my girls sleep with there light on if it were off they would wake up and put it back on lol good luck :)

L.,

At this age, a lot of kids start fears of monsters or the dark. THeir imagination is developing to a higher level now, so what they see on tv or har in a story they can apply to situations that could happen to them. This is typical.

What starts as a phase can become a habit, so if you don't want him to share your bed, don't let him stay. Put him back every single time. If you break down and let him stay sometimes, then he won't ever stop trying. Consistency is key with this one.

It could be a phase but I suggest you put a baby gate in his doorway. I know based on firsthand experience how tough it is to break the sleeping in the parent's bed habit. Stopping it as soon as you can and using a babygate will help him feel like he can still call for you but he can't get out of his room and into yours.

My 4 year old still does that, but I let him. I tell him that if he falls asleep in his bed that when he wakes he may come in my bed with me. His younger brother sleeps in our room so he kind of feels left out. Yes it could be a phase or not. Does it bother you that he gets in your bed with you? Would you rather he didn't? If you don't want him to then put a gate up in your door or his door so he has to call for you and you can talk to him about going back to sleep in his own bed.